u/nikaaberry

I got this idea that maybe I will go to Asia solo this November or early december.
I’m a 26f, I went to Bali, Maledives, Singapore and Malaysia all with my husband
But I really wanna feel it all by myself and go somewhere alone
Which country would you recommend? That is very solo-female-traveller friendly and will have nice weather in this time of a year?

I’m working regularly with dilators from 1,5 month. I’m on w size 4/5 right now. I tried changing positions in bed - me on top, doggy etc and they all worked much much better! Maybe it will stay like this, I hope so:) but I’m not ending this journey! Dilators like my besties.. I’m also working at the gym on my pelvic muscles it really helps

Hey;) is there somebody who wants to get known? I’m new in Switzerland and don’t know many people here, came here October last year
Weather is so good lately (okay maybe not like RIGHT NOW but we are gonna have 20-25 degrees so good to spend some time outside the house!)
I’m a female, 26 yo:) living in Basel

I don’t even know where to start. We are both 26, married, and he is my first and only love. We moved abroad together for his career, and lately, everything has been falling apart. I feel like I'm losing my spark and completely disappearing in this relationship.
For 2 months, there has been no intimacy, no kissing, no affection, and no "I love you" from his side. I feel like a friend or a roommate, definitely not a wife. Despite this, I have been trying so hard. I’m dealing with Vaginismus, practicing with dilators, overcoming physical pain, and trying to stay positive. Last night, I even bought a special outfit to surprise him and initiate intimacy. His reaction? He told me he "had a different image in his head of how I would present it" and that it "looked weird." It completely crushed my self-esteem.
On top of that, tonight we went to a local festival where he invited a guy he recently met on Discord. Before we left, my husband literally asked him if "it wouldn’t bother him if his wife came along," making me feel like an embarrassing, uninvited addition.
When we got home, he suddenly tried to initiate a foreplay. I stopped him and told him that I cannot just switch to sex when I get zero emotional intimacy, love, or affection from him on a daily basis. He got defensive, blamed me for "making a problem," and then said something that broke me: he admitted he is emotionally withdrawn, cannot engage in this relationship right now, and doesn't even know why. He claims that "sex was bad for years" (due to my medical condition, which I am actively working on) and that's his excuse for completely icing me out now. After this talk, he just rolled over and went to sleep, leaving me crying in bed.
We have an appointment with a sexologist booked for July 15th, but honestly, after tonight, I feel like it won’t change anything. I am emotionally exhausted. I love him, he is my first love, but I feel like no matter what I do, how hard I try, or how I look, there will always be an "issue" or an excuse for him to reject me.
I’m starting to feel myself emotionally distancing from him just to survive, but the thought of losing my marriage terrifies me.

I’m a dentist from Poland, living in Switzerland since the end of last year. It’s hard to start working here in my field, first I need to get all my documents recognized, it takes a loooot of time, stress and of course money. Since October last year I’m not feeling good. I’m in therapy now because I think I got a little bit depressed. I really wanted to find some work in my field, something similar to a dentist like a dental assistant. And when after 6 months without job I was like done I finally got an opportunity to work somewhere, do scaling etc as a helper to a dentist.
Today I had a really good day. That’s my second week here.
My chef told me that he really appreciates what I’m doing here, that I’m doing so well, people are really happy with my work, telling him that I’m so gentle etc and he’s glad he found me.
You have no idea how much it means to me after all this months. I lost hope here that I would even find anything. I lost confidence in myself. I have also a little bit hard time with my family, husband etc. I feel so alone.
And those words? It meant A LOT.
Also the fact that patients say I speak really good German (it was a struggle) and in my previous job chef said I can’t do it (I had one job just for a week because they decided not to hire me because of their language).
Like also in Poland nobody even told me that he’s happy I’m here.
I just wanted to write it somewhere.
That I’m really happy. I’m helping people and they appreciate it.

We are together for 9 years (Almost 1 year married) and I feel we are going through a crisis with our sexual life. So I want to make it better, I’m not the sex demon but I’m trying. I bought a cute body - he wasn’t like amazed by it, it was just fine so I was a little bit sad. Today I put on something that I’ve never done: a sexy outfit like a cleaning lady or something. I really felt good in it. When he got from a gym and saw me in that he wasn’t even shocked. He didn’t say anything like that I look good or something. He just looks at me and said „that’s new to me, idk how I feel about it”. I wanted to have sex so I took him to the bedroom and started doing something. He was like without emotions. He said that maybe we should do it tomorrow because he really needs to eat something now, what the hell?
I feel so sad right now. I don’t know what to think about it. Is it over? Like I thought that when man loves a woman and sees his girl wearing something sexy he just doesnt think about anything else. I feel so unattractive.

Is it still possible to get tickets somewhere? I’m willing to get them but on every official site they are not available :(

I just had a talk with my husband about our sex situation. I have vestibulodynia – a medical condition that makes having sex really painful, and impossible in some ways. It was diagnosed a couple of years ago. I actually started pelvic floor physiotherapy back then, mainly because I had severe pain and difficulties even getting a Pap smear done. I eventually stopped the therapy because my condition improved enough for medical exams, and my husband kept telling me that everything was great between us and that our sex life was amazing. I genuinely believed that things were completely fine and that we were good.
A couple of days ago, however, my husband completely blindsided me. He told me that he "can't do it anymore like this" without real, deep sex. He says he feels like we never really had real sex in our entire 9-year history (we've been married for one year). I feel like I've been lied to this whole time because of all the validation he gave me in the past.
Now, he says he cannot support me in my recovery process anymore because he claims I keep postponing getting proper treatment and things aren't getting better. He bluntly said he wants "professional sex."
We currently live abroad in Switzerland. I am a doctor, and I'm currently in the middle of a very long and exhausting process of getting my medical diploma recognized here. My husband plans to start medical school in Poland this year. The academic year there starts in October, which explains the exact 4-month "deadline" he gave me. He told me that if my condition isn't completely resolved by then, he won't be able to handle this marriage anymore because sex is fundamental to him. He "apologized" for taking so long to realize this and said he regrets doing this now, but it doesn't change his mind.
He strictly refuses to go to couples therapy. He says, "What is a therapist going to tell me? That there are other forms of sex? I already know that, and it changes nothing in my head."
I am devastated and completely alone. He has cut off all affection—no kissing, no hugging, absolute coldness.
I am seriously considering packing my bags and returning to Poland, where I have my own apartment and a support system. However, I don't want to throw away my diploma recognition process here, which has taken so much effort. I am starting a part-time job in Switzerland on June 15th, but right now, I cannot afford to rent my own place here because life is too expensive.
I don’t know if it even makes sense to keep fighting for this marriage. How am I supposed to live under the same roof with someone who treats me like this? Are there any ways to cope with this situation? Should I stay and push through for the sake of my career, or just leave?

Hey! Me and my husband would love to spend some time tomorrow together in an active way - Maybe somebody wants to play volleyball? Or something else? Ps. We don’t have a ball xD

Hey, I have been diagnosed with vulvodynia. I had always had this problem with painful sex and taking cytology by a gynecologist. But in my country they don’t treat this condition very well. I Heard i need to do physiotheraphy and before going to the gyn use 2% lidocaine. That’s It. I found that niwadays they treat vulvodynia with this cream 2% amitrypylinum 2% baclofenum and 6% gabapentinum. Do you have experience with it? I’m a little scared to use it. Does someone have an experience with treatment in Switzerland?

Hey, i’m a 26yo girl living in Basel. I’m looking for a group of people - could be online too - to spend some time with, just chat or talk. Maybe you have some ideas where can I find something like this? I want to travel through the Switzerland or do 1/2 day trips to Italy/France, I’m doing this on my own but I would love to do it with someone too :) It would be lovely to hear your recommendations :)