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Thinking of doing a movie night with cousins (one of whom is 10 yo). Trying to sus out how "horrifying" it actually is.

I have catsat often, and going to be a cat mom soon. Trying to learn some nice ways to discourage certain behaviors because I've already learned how to encourage the wee things (okay, I admit, I tend to spoil them!).

So, far I've heard smells can be a deterrent to have cats stay out of a certain area in the house. And I've read sounds (like a disapproving tone or clapping) can also let them know that what they did is not a vibe.

Anything else? Would love to hear your stories.

Will adopt a kitten of 2 months in 3 weeks. I'm currently living with my parents in a large flat. They request the cat not go into the their room or on their bed. The kitchen during cooking also discouraged. Any practical advice on how to do this is welcome 🙏🏽

I'm talking uncut gems that you personally like. I don't care if it's a bhanga building or a particular tong, not looking for posh places specifically or anything.

I realized I should make more of an effort to appreciate Dhaka (flaws and all) for what it is rather that just whine about what it isn't. 🤷🏽

I'm all for people asking questions and clearing up doubts about Asexuality. But I feel quite emotionally exhausted that the same questions and same arguments are being made about it being something bad, as a cause or an effect. Really, do you not do the slightest bit of research? Or do you just want a self-pity party, and some attention?

Just FYI: Asexuality is not a trauma response. It's not something that is foisted upon you. You're supposed to feel a sense of freedom after you've placed your sexuality, and if you don't feel so, it means you're still exploring, you're still figuring stuff out. That's okay too. You don't have to be anything you don't want to be.

I generally don't support censorship, but the number of people posting about Asexuality like it's a symptom of a disease or something is too high. it's really frustrating.

Sincerely,

Someone Who Loves Being Ace

*UPDATE: Found a similar train of thought in this post and leaving it here for archival reasons. https://www.reddit.com/r/Asexual/comments/1szqxoj/the_fact_that_commenters_like_this_exist_on/

*UPDATE 2: Thanks to all for engaging with this post. Some of you have really provided some solid arguments. I realize that I approached this topic with more vitriol than I should have so I'm going to give myself some space to think. My opinion is still unchanged but I need to do some more research (objectively) before pursuing this any further.

But just for clarity's sake I'll end with this: My intent was not to exclude but to define Asexuality better. Victims of trauma should be welcomed everywhere regardless of labels. I think the labels themselves should at least have well-defined meaning.

Till next time, ciao. 👋🏽