u/nirdybirds

TL,DR: Looking for books on American Black woman sexual autonomy from slavery-Jim Crow due to finding repeated instances of NPEs on my dad's side of the family.

Initially I was so stuck in my tree work for my dad's family because his father's family was from Mississippi and his mom's family were from Arkansas, a couple places notorious for ngaf about records generally but especially if they involved Black people. I pulled in my eldest uncle for help, and he was able to fill in some gaps - he has very intimate knowledge of his maternal line, not so much his paternal, but what he has given me so far has really opened up this part of my family.

He was very honest about our family being blended - his parents were married multiple times and had kids with other partners before they married and had their final sets of kids, but my grandfather has kids outside his first couple marriages as well. My uncle's maternal great grandmother had a ton of relationships and had a ton of kids as a result - my great grandmother is her only child with one man she slept with, who she'd initially named a different man before coming clean, for instance - and further work uncovered the fact that my paternal grandmother is not the daughter of the man we were told. My uncle told me this with no shame and I hold no shame over it either. These are things that happened.

I finally broke down and started using the LEEDs method and I think I found my uncle's paternal great-grandmother's family based on relatively high shared cMs and time and place on census records. However, the man who I see on documents as having been her father may not be her father, for her to fit into this family. The majority of her documents that I've found (about a dozen) has her surname as her alleged real father's, her stepfather's, and my great grandfather's, the name on her death documents. There is ONE document, a SSDI for one of her deceased daughters, that has her last name as the same as the family I found. My working hypothesis is that her mother named a different man on documents than who was her real father, but w/o other documents to make that connection, I can't say for sure, and I'm baffled as to why it would show up so late w/o any other records explaining it.

All this got me to thinking about Harriet Jacobs and the little bit of the work I've read by Dr. Davis on Black American women's sexual autonomy, slavery-Jim Crow. I think about how all three of these NPE situations have/may result in a different father than named, and if that happened because of their own personal shame of being seen as "loose" from voluntary sexual encounters or if any combination of these encounters were involuntary but not addressed for whatever number of reasons they validly held for those times.

Does anyone have any further book recommendations on American Black woman sexual autonomy during this time period? I think it'd be very informative not just for my own edification, but also be helpful in my tree work. I appreciate any input, thanks!

I've been searching to see if anyone has had the same issue I'm experiencing but I haven't seen anything anywhere.

I don't know why but I think the quest isn't launching correctly for me. My army and I kill all the Gunners at Hub City, I kill the Gunner with the holding cell key and take it off the body, but the mod isn't recognizing that I have the key and have killed all the Gunners so I can't get Jake out of the holding cell. Every time I've tried I've done multiple sweeps of the area to make sure I haven't missed one, but I'm still told by Aiden that we have to kill the Gunners.

I'd tried twice before I looked for help, and while no one seems to have reported the same issue, I did watch a playthrough and saw that a number of Gunners become tick marked once you've killed the majority of them, like when you're capturing an outpost and you're told to kill the remaining enemies. I tried one more time, but not only did I not get any tick marks, the HQ crew didn't follow me into the area. They only engaged in fighting after a while because an Assaultron came near the house where the mission starts. I still never got the tick marks identifying the last few Gunners.

I'm really frustrated because I can't even quest skip, since the next quest in the CM 2078 Holotape is conditional - it's for the path if Jake took the Receiver Module, which he didn't in my playthrough. Now it's looking like I can't finish the mod at all. Any suggestions?

I've been working with my uncle, let's call him Greg, on my paternal side of the family because records are scarce and he's the eldest surviving paternal relative I have. He has lots of family knowledge and has been very open about the fact that our family is very, very blended due to his parents' and grandparents' multiple marriages and other dalliances. He never shares the information with any sense of shame, he can be kinda jovial about it, actually. I say that to say whenever I give him a name, if he knows who they are and how they're related, he says so, regardless if they are a "legitimate" family member or not. When he says he doesn't know someone, I can believe it, and that he's not trying to hide some shameful family secret.

I have come across an older, still living DNA connection I'll call Helen. Helen and I have shared cMs in the 220s, so significant, but I didn't know who she is. I asked Uncle Greg and he didn't know either. I examined her tree and saw that she did have my great uncle (I'll call him Nate) there, but as her uncle-in-law (he had married her mom's sister). Together Uncle Nate and Helen's aunt had a son. I thought it was odd that she was showing up as related to me through my paternal line when Uncle Nate married into her family, but I didn't think about it too hard.

A few weeks later Uncle Greg gave me Uncle Nate's obituary. I noticed that there was only one wife listed, she was not Helen's aunt, and there was no mention of their son. Turns out the second wife was a petty witch according to Uncle Greg, but that's not important lol what's important is that I thought about it the following week on our weekly call, and I brought it up with Uncle Greg again to share what I'd found on Helen's tree and again he didn't know Helen but was appreciative of the new information. It really started to bug me that she was showing up as such a close paternal DNA match with no apparent link to our family. Then I saw the year when Uncle Nate's wife died (she died young) and the year cousin Helen was born (the next year), which triggered me to get to work, with help, on the analysis.

Turns out that, you guessed it, Uncle Nate was Helen's father. With his wife dying young, both a husband and a sister were in mourning, and maybe one thing led to another...

Anyway, Helen is still alive as far as I can tell, though she was born in the mid 30s. Her account is managed by someone else who I also have a DNA connection to, though it is far less (about 10 cMs, really distant, and distant to Helen as well, just 32 cMs). Judging by the manager's avi she's older as well, but she's active on Ancestry and she checks in at least weekly. If you were me, would you reach out to Helen's account manager? On the one hand, Helen may not be here much longer and it'd answer a question she may have, but on the other, she and her manager may have seen Helen's DNA matches and connected the dots themselves but refrained from updating Helen's tree to add Uncle Nate, for whatever, very valid, reasons they may have (Helen has no father listed on her tree as of this writing).

Please let's (respectfully) debate my path forward with this. I absolutely do not want to infringe on Helen's privacy or mental well being or the like, but I'm struggling with having info that she also has a right to know.

Hi, I'm on my second playthrough - I had to ditch playing through Xbox PC and start over on Steam because of poor performance due to low storage (right before Bethesda increased space for Creations ha ha). On both plays I got/am stuck on Commonwealth Rising due to Lupe's seemingly installable lust for workers. All other dept heads report adequate staffing, it's just her. I got up to 11 logistics workers on Xbox PC before I switched. I didn't see this as a reported bug when Googling, so is there a definite number of logistics workers needed, or is this just a bug,?