u/nishthahaha

hi reddit!
the purpose of this post was to genuinely get some real advice that i would want to implement to make my life productive and healthy for once. im in my teens (17yo 5’2ft and 78kgs) and my insecurity bubble often never lets me feel confident in anything and everything i do, given the kind of people i am surrounded with. ive always been that one fattie that gets bullied into thinking she’ll never be wanted. i would always feel inferior around girls even slightly thinner than me and disgustingly jealous because ive been dreaming to have their type of body. ive been fat all my life and it has not only given me mental problems but major physical ones too which can be prevented through weight loss. that said, i want you guys to help a girl out so i dont feel ashamed when i look at myself in the mirror again and not just that but also live a healthy life.

hi reddit!
the purpose of this post was to genuinely get some real advice that i would want to implement to make my life productive and healthy for once. im in my teens (17yo 5’2ft and 78kgs) and my insecurity bubble often never lets me feel confident in anything and everything i do, given the kind of people i am surrounded with. ive always been that one fattie that gets bullied into thinking she’ll never be wanted. i would always feel inferior around girls even slightly thinner than me and disgustingly jealous because ive been dreaming to have their type of body. ive been fat all my life and it has not only given me mental problems but major physical ones too which can be prevented through weight loss. that said, i want you guys to help a girl out so i dont feel ashamed when i look at myself in the mirror again and not just that but also live a healthy life.

hey reddit! i genuinely never thought id be the person that posts about their relationship or ask other people for advice but here i am. i truly don’t know where to start but… me-18F and my bf-21M have been together for almost 9 months now and i love this man with all i have, yk that once in a lifetime kind of love? that. now this isn’t because we’ve been together for so long but because my existence has completely accepted the concept of him with me that he is all that consumes my heart and mind. with that said, i know no relationship is perfect and to make mine even more imperfect, we’re in long distance, like since the very start with a five-and-a-half hour time difference. i also know that relationships have this phase where everything becomes very usual and boring and the exciting phase of the relationship passes. but, during my relationship with him i went thru two major surgeries (one of which being extremely life-threatening) and i usually avoided telling him about my health after seeing him so worried after my first surgery. now the problem is, after these surgeries i started getting depressed about how uncertain my life is and i think he didn’t like me being sad and grumpy and just like anybody also maybe got tired of me always talking about my sad and unhealthy life. the real relationship problem started from when i started to fight with him for not giving me enough attention. remember how i said the exciting phase ends and the boring one starts? that’s what our relationship was going thru but he still cared for me and loved me like he always did. slowly the fights became a daily thing, not to mention my insecurities and overthinking almost all the time. then about three months back he started being very rude when we fought and called me things that would hurt me such as dramatic, annoying, selfish etc. but we would also go back to being the way we were in about an hour after such arguments. however the past few weeks we got on the verge of actually breaking up, starting with blocking eachother everywhere but then again, we’d come back to eachother and share our iloveyous.

ik this sounds like a pretty normal long distance relationship and one that is usually normalised. yet whenever i see couples on social media, every girl’s boyfriend is doing something or the other to keep her happy and to make sure she’s spoiled. i dont expect the spoiling part from my man but i would surely love to see him do those small things that matter, even the thought. in our last fight a few days back he snapped and told me that i am the reason he has become distant and that me always needing him has kept pushing him away from me, which im still not able to understand if it’s actually me that made this relationship a mess. the only possible thing we can give eachother in a ldr is attention and communication. so am i really in the wrong for always wanting his attention and being mad he’s mostly gaming with his friends? back then we both used to call and ps party quite often (he hates calling) but nowadays it’s barely twice or thrice a month.

my mind is very blank while i write this but i genuinely don’t have anybody to talk about my relationship to and i need help fixing this. i want you guys to tell me what to do to bring back that excitement because we do love eachother a lot and just don’t want to give up on eachother.