u/nonamegirl_xoxo

Hi everyone!

So just like the title says, I need help with improving my conversation skills. I’m an introvert and can be very shy in the beginning of meeting someone, but as time passes I become more outgoing in the company of people I know and I’m not so quiet like in the beginning. But I still struggle with starting a conversation sometimes and I want to improve this since it’s happening in all my relationships (with family, friends, my boyfriend). I am generally a person who likes to talk, especially with my boyfriend, but I am more comfortable with people asking me questions or starting conversations so I can join in more easily. Although I know that’s not fair and that is one of the reasons why I want to fix this.

It was never pointed out as an issue before, (everyone knew that’s how I am, a quiet person), up until now. It’s been causing issues in my relationship with my boyfriend. He is the one who leads the conversations most of the time and communication is a way for him to feel connected, but lately he is starting to overthink all the quiet moments between us and is questioning our connection, or at least that part of it. I don’t mind those quiet moments but I do understand how he feels and I do feel like I am too quiet sometimes. Also, the issue isn’t that these moments happen here and there, the issue is that these moments are sometimes prolonged and frequent.

When those quiet moments happen I want to start a conversation badly but then I start overthinking, wondering what would be an interesting topic and in all that overthinking I end up worrying about the quietness even more which blocks me from talking about anything. My boyfriend reassured me that it’s okay if that’s who I am and that we can find different ways to connect, but I truly do want to work on this, not only for the sake of our relationship but for my sake as well, and for other relationships too. But the relationship with my boyfriend is the priority right now, I want him to feel connected and to help him stop overthinking these situations, and I also don’t want him to be the only one putting effort into this part of our relationship.

So how can I work on this? What are some good tips and tricks for me to practice everyday so I can naturally start conversations without it being forced or me overthinking about it? How can I easily find topics to talk about even if they are random or just part of little things that happen every day? If someone struggled with this before, how did that change and what helped you? All advice will be greatly appreciated and I wanna thank everyone who’s willing to help me with this in advance!

Hi everyone!

So just like the title says, I need help with improving my conversation skills. I’m an introvert and can be very shy in the beginning of meeting someone, but as time passes I become more outgoing in the company of people I know and I’m not so quiet like in the beginning. But I still struggle with starting a conversation sometimes and I want to improve this since it’s happening in all my relationships (with family, friends, my boyfriend). I am generally a person who likes to talk, especially with my boyfriend, but I am more comfortable with people asking me questions or starting conversations so I can join in more easily. Although I know that’s not fair and that is one of the reasons why I want to fix this.

It was never pointed out as an issue before, (everyone knew that’s how I am, a quiet person), up until now. It’s been causing issues in my relationship with my boyfriend. He is the one who leads the conversations most of the time and communication is a way for him to feel connected, but lately he is starting to overthink all the quiet moments between us and is questioning our connection, or at least that part of it. I don’t mind those quiet moments but I do understand how he feels and I do feel like I am too quiet sometimes. Also, the issue isn’t that these moments happen here and there, the issue is that these moments are sometimes prolonged and frequent.

When those quiet moments happen I want to start a conversation badly but then I start overthinking, wondering what would be an interesting topic and in all that overthinking I end up worrying about the quietness even more which blocks me from talking about anything. My boyfriend reassured me that it’s okay if that’s who I am and that we can find different ways to connect, but I truly do want to work on this, not only for the sake of our relationship but for my sake as well, and for other relationships too. But the relationship with my boyfriend is the priority right now, I want him to feel connected and to help him stop overthinking these situations, and I also don’t want him to be the only one putting effort into this part of our relationship.

So how can I work on this? What are some good tips and tricks for me to practice everyday so I can naturally start conversations without it being forced or me overthinking about it? How can I easily find topics to talk about even if they are random or just part of little things that happen every day? If someone struggled with this before, how did that change and what helped you? All advice will be greatly appreciated and I wanna thank everyone who’s willing to help me with this in advance!

Hi everyone!

So just like the title says, I need help with improving my conversation skills. I’m an introvert and can be very shy in the beginning of meeting someone, but as time passes I become more outgoing in the company of people I know and I’m not so quiet like in the beginning. But I still struggle with starting a conversation sometimes and I want to improve this since it’s happening in all my relationships (with family, friends, my boyfriend). I am generally a person who likes to talk, especially with my boyfriend, but I am more comfortable with people asking me questions or starting conversations so I can join in more easily. Although I know that’s not fair and that is one of the reasons why I want to fix this.

It was never pointed out as an issue before, (everyone knew that’s how I am, a quiet person), up until now. It’s been causing issues in my relationship with my boyfriend. He is the one who leads the conversations most of the time and communication is a way for him to feel connected, but lately he is starting to overthink all the quiet moments between us and is questioning our connection, or at least that part of it. I don’t mind those quiet moments but I do understand how he feels and I do feel like I am too quiet sometimes. Also, the issue isn’t that these moments happen here and there, the issue is that these moments are sometimes prolonged and frequent.

When those quiet moments happen I want to start a conversation badly but then I start overthinking, wondering what would be an interesting topic and in all that overthinking I end up worrying about the quietness even more which blocks me from talking about anything. My boyfriend reassured me that it’s okay if that’s who I am and that we can find different ways to connect, but I truly do want to work on this, not only for the sake of our relationship but for my sake as well, and for other relationships too. But the relationship with my boyfriend is the priority right now, I want him to feel connected and to help him stop overthinking these situations, and I also don’t want him to be the only one putting effort into this part of our relationship.

So how can I work on this? What are some good tips and tricks for me to practice everyday so I can naturally start conversations without it being forced or me overthinking about it? How can I easily find topics to talk about even if they are random or just part of little things that happen every day? If someone struggled with this before, how did that change and what helped you? All advice will be greatly appreciated and I wanna thank everyone who’s willing to help me with this in advance!