u/not_my_first_acount

(Throwaway account just because.) I'm a 23 year old man and I've been trying to get back into the dating game after being single for about 9 months now (my last relationship lasted 2 years). I've mainly been using Hinge because that's where I met my ex and that was the longest relationship I've ever had, so I thought I could make it work again, but I haven't been having much luck recently. I'll talk to someone for a few weeks, we'll get along really well, we'll go out a few times, I'll even bring them to my place sometimes, and then they'll just disappear completely. The won't respond to texts/snap messages, and I'm back to square one again. I try not to take it personally or let it effect me too much, but truthfully, it hurts me a lot. I think it's unfair that the women I talk to get to lead me on only to completely dissappear like nothing we did means anything to them. It's gotten so bad that now, I want to take a week off work to have a little solo vacation where I spend the week in any town out of state I feel like, going to every bar I can find until I pick someone up and hook up with them, only to leave in the middle of the night for them to never hear from me again. I told my friends about this idea, and they told me I'd be a jerk because I'd be taking out my dating frustrations on some poor woman who doesn't deserve it. While that may be the case, my argument is that I've been emotionally hurt so many times by other women in the past, why shouldn't I be allowed to do that to someone else? It's only fair. Would I be the buttface?

(Throwaway account just because.) I'm a 23 year old man and I've been trying to get back into the dating game after being single for about 9 months now (my last relationship lasted 2 years). I've mainly been using Hinge because that's where I met my ex and that was the longest relationship I've ever had, so I thought I could make it work again, but I haven't been having much luck recently. I'll talk to someone for a few weeks, we'll get along really well, we'll go out a few times, I'll even bring them to my place sometimes, and then they'll just disappear completely. The won't respond to texts/snap messages, and I'm back to square one again. I try not to take it personally or let it effect me too much, but truthfully, it hurts me a lot. I think it's unfair that the women I talk to get to lead me on only to completely dissappear like nothing we did means anything to them.

It's gotten so bad that now, I want to take a week off work to have a little solo vacation where I spend the week in any town out of state I feel like, going to every bar I can find until I pick someone up and hook up with them, only to leave in the middle of the night for them to never hear from me again. I told my friends about this idea, and they told me I'd be an asshole because I'd be taking out my dating frustrations on some poor woman who doesn't deserve it. While that may be the case, my argument is that I've been emotionally hurt so many times by other women in the past, why shouldn't I be allowed to do that to someone else? It's only fair. Would I be the asshole?