you can at least have some class when people engage with them. nothing is subjective about pointing out that society operates on how they perceive you and not everyone is going to agree with you. also, nothing is weird about asking what outcomes you’re looking to get out of your post. jeez.
EDIT: to clarify, i was relaying what I’ve seen on the posts…not my personal opinion on the grand scheme of the matter.
really curious … i’ve seen recent posts all over social media about considering the source of the compliments. apparently, it’s considered a red flag if the majority of the compliments are 1) from your racial group as a WOC or 2) from mayos that are older (35 and up ish?) with a strong liberal identity (especially if they look like amy schumer or elisabeth moss).
the second one i can def see as a red flag (mainly due to performative allyship). i think the first one depends.
some comments on those same posts also talked about not getting compliments from other women their age (30ish or younger), especially if they’re not mothers. i’m assuming it’s because people in their 20s are often in their own heads and moms can be more vocal about what they like about other women once they have daughters, I suppose.
but women (especially mayo ones) overthink it when complimenting attractive Black women imho.
i wonder if those posts were talking about getting them in person or online…
i don’t know…what do y’all think? 🤔
has anyone here been the ugly duckling growing up?
aside from the usual microaggressions from white people due to not being/looking white…black people would join them in making me feel ugly and fat for not having a flat stomach. black men especially…they were out to ostracize me so frequently and other black men/women would quickly join them.
this would be in addition to dealing with not being “black enough” to people or (women) accusing me of thinking I’m better than them. happened in middle and high school … even college to some degree.
i’m also autistic and had no support from anyone when it came to knowing what was socially unacceptable… people around me were physically or emotionally abusive. for any other neurodivergent peeps, you can imagine the amount of stress of being ND, non white, plus being a woman etc … people aren’t fond of NDs in many communities.
needless to say that I didn’t have anyone to help me improve my social awareness or how to avoid people without making myself a target. i’m been in therapy trying to deal with the switch in treatment from society after puberty and stuff.
i know not all black/white etc people are like this, i’m merely wondering if anyone can relate to being degraded for your appearance before the “glo up” stage (or whatever people call it).
thanks for reading.
hello! I’m a one year Tesla owner (and car owner in general).
part one: i went to the shop to get my cabin air filter replaced this past Friday. prior to my service visit, my air pressure for all four tires were fine. right after my service this weekend, I notice that the psi for one of my wheels would drop 10+ psi overnight. i made Tesla aware of this and they recommended that i put a service request in. my closest center is 30 minutes away, so how do i request them to do a home service and ensure none of this is overcharged?
part two: i was looking over my maintenance list and saw that the wheel alignment was $275. i am going down the list of tire companies outside of Tesla to see if they have cheaper and/or better alternatives. does anyone know of any companies i can add to my list?
thanks!