u/nushface

Hi all, could really use some advise from anyone in a similar situation..
my now ex partner and I (lesbian and unmarried) recently had a baby. I’m the bio mum. My ex partner has autism was always on the fence around having kids (more leaning no.) but she knew for me it was a deal breaker.
She agreed for me to start trying, but due to her not really wanting a child I went through fertility treatment on my own, she didn’t attend any of the IUI appointments and I funded everything. I suffered an early miscarriage and my ex partner did not care and offered me no comfort whilst I was grieving. When I finally did get pregnant I was desperate for her to feel kicks/connect with baby but she was uninterested.
In hindsight these were all major red flags I chose to ignore..

she attended the birth and surprisingly fell in love with the baby immediately. However she then decided to go on holiday whilst I was 2 weeks post c section for a few days whilst I begged her to stay. ( my mum had to come help me).
3 month postpartum and we have decided it’s for the best to go our separate ways. I’m trying to navigate how her parental role will look in the baby’s future.. she is desperate to still be mum, however she isn’t on the birth certificate.
I’m struggling to come up with a plan.
Any advice on how to work this out or anyone been in a similar situation?
Please be kind and gentle with me, I am 3 months postpartum and this has already been hard enough…
Thank you ❤️

Hi all, I keep reading on here that the best position for newborns/ first few months is chest to chest? My baby is 3.5 weeks old and slept on my chest on an incline position for the first two weeks, however recently she seems so uncomfortable sleeping on my chest.

She lifts her head constantly turning side to side, the whole night- kicking and making straining and grunting noises.. like she can’t get comfortable. she’s slipped off me twice which really scared me. Last night I went straight to the c curl and she only woke twice to feed the whole night and seemed to sleep really well..

Is this unusual? /something I’m doing wrong? Are some babies just not comfortable being on their chests? Anxious FTM 😅

Hi all! Would love an opinion on these two names. We have a baby girl and are torn between these two names for her.. my partner is Italian.
Chiara
Or
Robin
Which one do you prefer and any thoughts?

Thanks!