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I had an early anatomy scan for my 3rd pregnancy, and they couldn’t get a good view of the 4 chambers of the heart and left outflow. My first was the 1 where I TFMR for heart defects. When I asked if there was any concern, the MFM doctor said she wasn’t concerned about defects this time since the other views of the heart were normal that would indicate defects if they were abnormal. Of course, I’m still anxious over it. I have a follow up anatomy scan in about 3 weeks. Anyone have experience where this happened?

My husband and I have been together for a little 15 years. We have an 8 month old baby and I’m currently 4 months pregnant. We just bought a house last year as well. He was diagnosed with BP1 last year, and started to take abilify and fluvoxamine. Before that, he was unmedicated and with some of his behaviors or thoughts I thought there was something up.

About 10 years ago he had cheated on me with a married coworker without protection. I caught it because I came home early from work that day, and she was leaving our apartment. We worked through it or so I thought.

During my pregnancy last year, he kept insisting we have a threesome or I give him a pass. He said he loves me, but he can’t stop thinking about having sex with other women. I’ve firmly said I’m not into that and to talk to his doctor and therapist. I thought that was the end of that.

Fast forward to this pregnancy, he brought it up last night. He asked me to give him permission for a 1 time thing or have an escort. He also said I don’t make him horny anymore, and that masturbating is more stimulating because he sees something new every time. I said he already had his 1 time thing 10 years ago, and he said it doesn’t count because that was without asking my permission and cheating.

He said he can’t take it much longer, and threatened to end his life over it. I said I thought he wanted to have a family and that he cared about the well being of our babies. He said he does, but he also wants that since the urge has been worse lately. I told him to contact his doctor or therapist, and he says the medicine and sessions aren’t helping. He also hasn’t shared everything he feels with them because he feels ashamed. He won’t give me either of their info so that I could contact them. He says nobody can help him. He tried to gaslight me by saying I don’t care about his well being and if something happens to him it’s my fault. I told him either he tries to work on his issues for our family, or choose his fantasies. I’ve suggested couples therapy before and he won’t go through that.

We talked for awhile, and I stood my ground about not being ok with that. He said he’s settled on masturbating and not have sex with me anymore.
I know that kids usually thrive when they have both parents together in their life, but I don’t know if I can trust him going forward with his thoughts. He thinks he can’t transmit anything to our babies, because he wants to screw someone who’s 18.

I’ve looked at divorce as an option so I can protect my son, but we live in NC which requires spouses to live apart for a year before divorce. He won’t leave and I’m not leaving. I’m the bread winner and pay for most of the mortgage and house related expenses. I also take care of our son most of the time since I work from home. We don’t have family nearby. I’m also in the process of figuring out what I want to do with my current pregnancy.

How else can I deal with his hypersexuality if he won’t even talk to the medical professionals about it or won’t let me contact them? It just seems like he tells them everything is fine.

My husband applied for his parents around September 2025, and their case is with the Chicago FO. The last thing they did was fingerprints in November, but no news since. Anyone have a recent timeline?

I’ve narrowed my stroller choices down to the baby jogger city select double and the bombi double stroller. My son will be 13 months when baby is born. Ideally would’ve liked the bugaboo donkey since I saw it’s highly recommended here, but I want to avoid shelling out over $1k for just a stroller. Anyone have experience with the first 2 strollers or have another recommendation? I’ll be having a C section again and would like something that’s easy to take to appointments and fit through doors.

We’ve been using the joolz aer+ for my son.