u/okaybut_4379

i am still trying to process this. he texted me thursday night but i fell asleep early so i didn't see the text until yesterday friday morning. it said "hey i'm sorry my girlfriend isn't comfortable with us texting. i truly love this woman and i respect her wishes. i am going to cut communication moving forward." i am in complete shock. this friendship was strictly platonic. i never had ANY romance feelings for this guy and we have never did anything sexual at all. i moved out of state back in october 2024 and that's when we met and he has helped out a lot and we did a lot together! we also hung out with this other girl too and it became our friend group during my time i was living in the other state. sadly, i had to move back to my home state 3-4 months ago bcus i couldn't renew my lease after getting laid off. we still stayed in contact and everything. he even deleted me off of snapchat. it's so out of nowhere, there's nothing in our texts that screams flirtatious at all. idk if the gf went through his texts or what. they have only been dating for a few months and we have been good friends for almost 2 years. i told the other girl in our friend group and she is in shock as well. she also got into a relationship but she told me her boyfriend doesn't make him cut off her guy friends and vice versa. she tells me that is controlling behavior if somebody makes you cut off your friends just bcus they're the opposite gender. so i just can't believe he threw away our friendship that i truly valued with no hesitation??? i never thought he would do this, but i guess he is insecure and so is she. he did tell me he is insecure too, but not to the point where you don't have boundaries to stand up for yourself and friends??? sorry needed to vent. i am just trying to process this. it's like i invested into this friendship for no reason???

hey guys! i am vietnamese and i grew up in america my whole life since i was basically 2 months old. i am receptive bilingual so i can only understand most vietnamese than to speak it. it’s so hard to actively speak it especially when you went to school learning english. i’ve been to vietnam twice as a kid, once in 2004 when i was 5 years old and another time in 2010 when i was 11. obviously i had to stick with family the whole time as a child in vietnam, but now that i’m an adult, i wanna go again with my family but be able to go out and explore my myself which means i definitely have to learn how to speak it to get around. any tips on someone who can pretty much understand it but can’t speak it back? what apps to use and how to get myself to consistently learn? my dad brought his relatives here in the US so i have my cousin to practice with. i already have the vietnamese keyboard on my phone. any youtubers to watch that you guys recommend! i feel very determined since i am planning to go next year :))) i also feel so embarrassed to not know my native tongue. i think life is too short to not know how to speak a second language!

ive been crying nonstop this is me trying to vent bcus i called the manager today to see my status after the final interview a month ago. he said he called those who had the offer last friday and those who did not get selected he would call today and i was the one who initiate the call to get rejected. i cant believe this ive been job hunting for 15 months. i get so many many many interviews yet no job offers and it makes me feel so awful about myself. it just feels like a numbers and luck game. he said over the phone that i was a good fit for the role and company but because the team was small they chose somebody else who stood out more. they said i was likeable and nothing on me but i still feel awful about myself. i just wanna give up and die in a hole :( i mean he said i can apply to other roles to work up to the role to get my foot in the door for the position i previously interviewed for. but idk i just feel so empty