u/okayillshowmyselfout

I have many. I have had discussion about veganism with my non vegan friends all the time.

My top one: Being vegan makes you more moral than a meat eater.

This is one that has really triggered my friends that still eat meat, but I stand by it. Most people aren't vegan because they dislike the taste of meat, dairy or eggs. They're not vegan because they hate easily accessible food and love having to bring food to gatherings because there is nothing for them.

People are vegan because they disagree with how animals are treated and used, and actively live by wanting not to be a part of that.

I have many more, but just wondering what your thoughts are.

It's a small thing, and I know she can't do anything about it. But it's one of those things that just frustrate me. I, 21F, moved two times during our relationship. I don't have a good relationship with my parents, and my GF (F21) was always on vacation. So two times, I did everything myself, by train, moving everything one thing at a time (I don't have a drivers lisence).

My gf has to move, I lay her entire floor, her parents hire a van to move all her stuff, I help with lifting and reassembling everything. It's done in 1-2 days. My gf barely has to do anything. My roommate gives her a fridge for free. She has everything she needs.

My fridge hasn't been working at all, so I found a new one (I was originally planning to ask my roommate for his fridge, but my gf asked before I could). But this new fridge is multiple stops away by metro, and I can't get it that far on my own. So I ask my gf, who've I just helped so much with her entire moving process.

She has to work. Of course she does.

And I get that this is a me-problem. I really do. But it's just really frustrating. I feel like I spend so much time helping others, especially her. And then when I ask for something, she can never help me. I know it's not her fault. I'm just really frustrated.

How on god's earth is oat milk more expensive than normal milk? The amount of water it takes to get milk is insane. People always talk about how meat takes up a lot of water. And yes- that's true. But buddy, milk is also from cows. They eat the same food, which takes up a lot of water. 1L of milk takes about 1000L water. And that's not even considering the INSANE animal abuse that takes place! Like it's so bad. And so much has to happen in order to get milk. And oat milk? You mix some water with some oats. That's it. So why the hell is milk CHEAPER than oat milk. HOW? WHY? WHO THOUGHT OF THIS?

let me make two scenarios:

option A: Milk

1. Get a milk cow

2. Get food for cow

3. Feed her to keep her alive

4. Get cow pregnant

5. Feed her more to keep her and baby alive (which takes an insane amount of water everyday)

6. Cow has baby.

7. Remove baby.

8. Cow produces lots of milk now. This takes quite a bit of energy. Cow needs to eat more.

9. You can milk the cow now. Now you have milk.

10. Milk is raw. Bad. Milk needs to go to factory.

11. Factory pasteurizes milk.

12. Now you have milk.

Option B: Oatmilk

1. Grow oats

2. Harvest oats

3. Heat treat oats

4. Mix oats with water.

5. Drain it

6. Now you have oat milk.

How on gods earth is the first option often cheaper? I didn't even write the making of the food for the cows! I even put more detail into the oatmilk! And its still only half the steps!

You literally need to get a cow, get that cow pregnant, take away the child, and only then can you milk the cow. It takes longer. Costs more money. Abuses animals. AND ITS STILL CHEAPER THAN THE ONE WHERE YOU MIX SOME OATS AND WATER?

that was my rant, bye

I don’t know if it is allowed for me to do this here. So if it is not, please inform me and I will remove this post.

I have spent the last week asking you guys questions. I feel like I have gotten a much better understanding of you guys in doing this. I have had really pleasant conversations.

I have noticed that during my questions, people have asked me questions back. I really like this, because i feel we can have a conversations.

So i will tell you a bit about myself:
I am a jew, and a part of my family lives in Israel. I study psychology, which is why i like to answer questions about how people feel and think. Even though i know a lot about the history, i prefer to not throw studies and facts at each other. Maybe later, but I am still very young (21) so i don’t have the wisdom I sometimes feel i have lol. I feel that my english is decent, but sometimes i struggle with expressing myself, or understanding complicated words.
I have spoken with Palestinians and Israeli’s, although a lot more Israeli’s. I also live with pro-palestina protestors. So i have experienced a lot of views on this topic.

I enjoy hearing people out, and trying to place myself in their shoes. This subreddit has been really nice for me. I am also a pacifist. For me it is really important that we always stay nice to each other. If i have any more questions, i will absolutely post it here. But i wanted to give you this chance too, because i know i’ve asked some really sensitive topics. And that requires trust and understanding.

So if you have any questions for me, please ask.
And if this is not allowed on this subreddit, please do inform me! i will delete it if that is the case!

Thanks for answering on my last view posts. I am still going to answer some of the comments there❤️
I must say.. after talking with you guys for a few days, and having really pleasant conversations, this news has hit me quite hard. I don’t know what to make of it. Was wondering what you guys were thinking about it.

I am having a hard time to express my words properly in this topic. This is because english is not my first language. If you have any questions for me, please do feel free to ask. I will answer all of these in the comments.
I am trying to find the words to reply to the comment on this question. I am planning to answer. I just need a bit of time, to write my words well

A few additional question you may answer if you want

How was it when you were drafted?
Did you connect with other soldiers?
What was the most difficult thing you saw during your time? how did you move on from it?
What was your favorite moment in the IDF?

Thank you again for all the comments on my other post🙏🏼 i really feel like i understand you guys better. it helps me a lot

This is something I have wanted to ask after my last two questions. In the responses, I noticed how much october 7th affected you all.
I want to say thank you to everyone who responded to my last two posts. I was really fortunate to be able to hear from you guys. This has really helped me in understanding the Israeli perspective better.
I have really heard your pain on this attack. I ask you to please answer this question (only if you want, of course) about your own personal experience. I am not here to judge you. I am here hear you, and to see you. I want to understand your perspective.

For people that want to talk about it more, i have a few more questions. These are questions I wonder from some of the perspectives i’ve heard from you guys. Please only answer if you feel up for it.

Did the attack of 7 october change your view of the palestinians?

How did you move on from 7 october?

How did it affect your personal life? Did it affect your family dynamics? If you are a parent, did it change the way you talk to your kids about the conflict?

How did the world’s response, and here I mean especially the pro-palestine movement, affect you?

Did 7 october change your view of a possible two state solution? and if so, how do you look at it now?

I will try to respond to everyone. I am still going to respond to people on my last post as well. If you notice i don’t respond to you, it might be because i’m trying to find the right words, or because english is not my first language, and some things can be complicated for me to understand.

Thank you🙏🏼

Yesterday I posted a question about what you guys think of jews that support palestine. I really liked being able to see your perspective. And i talked to some really pleasant people, so i decided to ask another question.

English isn’t my first language, so i am going to try to explain it best I can. I think it is obvious many innocent palestinians are suffering. And especially when you see a picture of a child dead, or starved. I mean, I don’t think anyone hears the story of Hind Rajab, and is happy about it. I can understand that being so close to it, and living in a country that’s part of the conflict, this can be very difficult. Especially because there’s no clear way out because of the conflict. I was wondering how you feel, watching all suffering happening, knowing it’s so close.

I am genuinely wondering about this. Please feel free to speak your truth openly. I tried to make the question as clear as possible. But i struggle a bit with explaining things well sometimes.

I can see how this can be hard for Israelis, so I’m wondering what you guys think.

Edit: Realized the question was a bit vague, so I’m going to make the term a bit stricter:

Anti zionist jews, that support Palestine, but do not support Hamas.

I’m a 21F. My mom is a difficult person. I grew up feeling very unloved, and at times, unsafe. My dad has never been in my life, and when he was, it was also not safe.
But my mom is the relationship that breaks something in me. And I don’t know why, but I know it will never be fixed. Like there’s a piece broken of my heart, and I can feel it is unfixable.
I grew up reading ‘adopted by x’ fanfictions. Always older women. Never sexual. I would read thousands upon thousands of pages where the only plotline was a mother loving her daughter.
I crave the attention of older women, and at the same time I cannot bear it. Because I feel so strongly if any older woman might love and care for me, they will never care as much for me as they do their own kids (I often to talk to the mothers of my friends) and this is completely unbearable to me.
I cannot imagine hugging my own mom. I’m uncomfortable with even touches. I listen to podcasts of older women who have kids- just so a part of me can pretend that I’m her daughter.

My girlfriend has a very stable family. I feel so awkward eating at the table with them. Everyday used to be a ‘fend for yourself’ night growing up. It genuinely triggers me to eat at a table with a family, because I feel SO strongly that that is something I have never truly experienced. I genuinely feel like a part of me dies.

I don’t see myself as traumatized, and I don’t like feeling bad for myself. But this feeling of pure jealously, and genuine grief is something that follows me my entire life. It’s all consuming, and I feel it so strongly. I just needed to tell someone

I’m trying to become vegan, but having quite a bit of difficulty doing so.

For context, i was eating meat and animal products up to a month ago. I decided I could no longer do it, and decided i wanted to work towards becoming vegan.

Usually, i go to the gym 4-6x a week. Because of this, I need about 80-100 grams of protein per day, especially on days i go to the gym.

I’m also currently doing a thesis in animal behavior. Because of this, I am in the library, working on it from about 10 AM to 10 PM.

I have a lot of difficulty finding convenient vegan foods, with enough protein. I don’t have time to cook often, because I’m out of the house daily from 9AM to 11PM.

Often, I end up consuming dairy in the form of protein shakes, or cheap cappuccino coffee’s that my local supermarket sells.

Most days, I barely eat anything. I drink coffee, sometimes soda’s for the caffeine. And for food, maybe 1-3 snack bars or protein ‘gurt’, if anything at all.

I just don’t know how to do vegan convience foods.

Apart from my struggle with convience foods, I also struggle with replacing cheese and eggs on days where i can cook. These foods give me so much comfort, and when I’m so exhausted, i just crave them so much.

Does anyone have tips for me?