u/olcrazypete

First of all - this whole disease has impacted many members of my family in its various forms and diagnoses. I hope that this is a query that is ok to post here as we are currently having a huge problem coming up with a solution for something that should have been decided long ago and not now that it is a crisis.

My wife's mother's husband is 84 and has an Alzheimers diagnosis and is currently hospitalized after having a stoke that has left him unable to walk since Sunday. He has been living at home with my mother in law, who is 81 and has major health issues themselves.
For years my wife and her sisters pleaded with them to move closer to any of them to help with care, they refused. So now they are at a minimum 5 hours away in a different state from them. They reside is South Carolina.
They have very meager income from some retirement and medicare and their home is old and falling apart. My mother in law can't continue to care for him, releasing him home is an unsafe care plan at this point and frankly she needs care as well.
My wife has medical power of attorney for them. At this point the only option for care is a facility. Even in his current mental state he is making it very clear he does not want this and is being combative with the hospital staff, pulling out catheters and IVs and pressuring my mother in law to take him home, even though he can't walk and she can't care for him.
What are the options here? Noone in the family can handle this care themselves, nor do they have the means to hire in home care, and we are afraid he won't be accepted into a facility where he is constantly combative.