u/outcastreturns

Sometimes I'll make plans with someone. We'll agree on a day, we'll agree on a time, we'll agree on what we're doing.

Then the day of the plan that we had arranged, I will get there at the right place at the right time and they won't show up. I'll wait a bit. They still don't show up. I'll check my phone. No calls from them. No messages from them. So I give them a ring or send them a message: "Hey, I've arrived".

And I'll be met with a response along the lines of "Oh sorry, didn't realise our plans were still on"...

Well, um, neither of us cancelled the plans, so why wouldn't the plans be on?!

"Oh, you should have messaged me this morning to remind me it was still happening" ffs

Sorry just venting.

19 years old with 3 La Liga titles, 2 Spanish Super Cups, 1 Copa del Rey with Barcelona... European Championship winner and World Cup winner with Spain.

Is he the most successful teenage footballer ever?

So I've been on 2 dates with this girl.

First date I iniated and planned it myself. Date went well. I payed for all of it and was happy to do so, since the date was my idea after all.

Afterwards she went on holiday so we didn't make any immediate plans for a second date.

When she got back from holiday she asked me out for a second date at a bar / restaurant near the beach. It was a very pleasant surprised that she asked me out on another date - that's never happened to me before.

We had a good time. But at the end of the meal when the bill came she made no offer to split it nor did she reach for her purse at all. So I just reached for my wallet and paid for it.

So the thing is I was fine with paying for the date. The restaurant was nice, but not particularly expensive nor did she order anything particularly expensive.

However, even so, the thing that bothers me is that she didn't even offer to split the bill when she asked me out on the date. I would have been happy to pay for it all anyway, but the fact that she didn't even offer seems like a potential red flag to me. Am I overreacting?

Booked a cinema date with a girl for this weekend. We've been regularly texting and she just dropped in the conversation that she's going on a date with another guy in the morning / early afternoon before our cinema date.

I can't lie, this has kind of ruined my excitement for the date. This isn't a random girl I met online. This is a girl who I used to work with and she asked for my number at her last day at work (before she changed jobs).

Would it be bad of me to cancel our date (or pretend to be ill) ? Or am I overreacting?

I'm not completely opposed to people dating multiple people at once (although I don't do it personally), but going on another date just before our date just doesn't give me good vibes.

What's the funniest team name you've seen in your mini-league so far?

Was wondering what are some of the funniest fantasy team names you've seen this year

Every time I'm on the motorway I see multiple drivers tailgating the car in front with a 0.5-1 second gap. Every single day without fail I see it.

When I learnt to drive it was drummed into me about leaving a 2 second gap in good conditions and a 4 second gap on wet roads.

I do wonder if this is people knowingly being bad drivers? Or is the 2 second rule a relatively new concept and maybe most older drivers just weren't taught about leaving a safe breaking distance?

Girlfriend (F23) asked me (M25) if we could have a threesome. I asked her why, isn't our sex life fulfilling enough as it is? She said yes, but she'd like us to explore together and have some new sexual experiences together. I asked if she meant 2 guys, 1 girl or 2 girls, 1 guy and she said "both".

For context I am my girlfriend's first and only sexual partner, and I feel like she's having some kind of sexual FOMO for not "having fun" and sleeping around in the past.

I feel like she knows that she can't independently sleep with other people without us breaking up, so instead she's suggested trying a threesome together (hoping that I'll like it) - but it's not really to make both of us happy, it's just so she can sleep with other people and have experiences with other people. Thats what it feels like to me.

Idk, just the fact she brought up the question, feels like it might already be over.

Thinking of buying a property in one of these places. Ultimately my decision will probably more come down to how much I like the property itself than the exact location.

However I'd still like to know if anyone here has lived in one of, or some of these places and what you think about Romsey / Chandlers Ford / North Baddesley as a place to live?

I see a lot of posts on Reddit from women talking about getting ghosted by men (of course it's common vice versa as well) and I wonder if it could be partially due to men trying to date women that they don't find that attractive.

The reason I say that is because a few years ago I downloaded dating apps. I was already aware that I was unlikely to get a lot of matches, so like a lot of men I just swiped right on everyone and waited to see who matched with me.

I did get some matches, but they were all women that I didn't find particularly attractive (I didn't realise I was so picky until I started using dating apps). Despite this, a part of me was still tempted - maybe out of desperation - to set up a date with some of these girls and trying to develop an attraction to them that wasn't already there. In the end I decided against it, but the thinking was there.

Looking back, I wonder if men on dating apps trying to date women that they aren't that attracted to could be partially the reason why its so common for women to get ghosted.

Just wondered what people's thoughts on this are?

M24 UK. I don't want to lose my V-card to a sex worker, but damn, I feel touch starved af. Like I'm yearning to cuddle someone, wrap my arms and legs around someone and just hold them, hearing them breathe, feeling their chest go up and down.

But I dont know if it's realistic to ask a sex worker for a cuddle and not have to pay a tonne of money for it, like if they had given me "a full service".

Also would look really sad if I'm contacting a sex worker not for sex, but for a long hug. Lol.

Aaaaaaaaaaah

Looking to buy first "house". I live down South. Within my budget I realistically can only buy a 1 or 2 bedroom flat or a 1 bedroom maisonette.

I'm finding cheapest 1 bedroom flats for £90k-£135k

Cheapest 2 bedrooms flats £160k+

(If I bought a 2 bedroom flat I would rent one of the bedrooms out).

Cheapest 1 bedroom maisonettes £135k+

Originally I was tempted by flats due to low price, but after walking past the flat complexes, I kind of realised how many people would be living around me and how possible noise from so many neighbours would get on my nerves. Maybe it wouldn't be that fun to live so close to so many other people. Which turns my attention more to masionettes I suppose.

I'm not really sure, but if anyone has experience living in maisonettes or flats (or both). I'd love to know what you liked and disliked about living in them.

Looking to buy first "house". I live down South. Within my budget I realistically can only buy a 1 or 2 bedroom flat or a 1 bedroom maisonette.

I'm finding cheapest 1 bedroom flats for £90k-£135k

Cheapest 2 bedrooms flats £160k+

(If I bought a 2 bedroom flat I would rent one of the bedrooms out).

Cheapest 1 bedroom maisonettes £135k+

Originally I was tempted by flats due to low price, but after walking past the flat complexes, I kind of realised how many people would be living around me and how possible noise from so many neighbours would get on my nerves. Maybe it wouldn't be that fun to live so close to so many other people. Which turns my attention more to masionettes I suppose.

I'm not really sure, but if anyone has experience living in maisonettes or flats (or both). I'd love to know what you liked and disliked about living in them.

Asking for a friend

(It's me, I am my friend)

Players that you used to like but ended up disliking?

I'm M25 living in the South of England. I've been going on dates for some time now but seem to struggle to "hold anyone down".

My way of dating has always been dating only person at a time. This method feels right to me.

The idea of dating multiple girls at once just doesn't sit well with me for some reason. It feels like I'm practicing polyamory, whilst I'm looking for something monogamous.

I also want intimacy to develop naturally over time as we get to know each other. For me this means that I don't kiss (or have sex) on the first date (or first few dates).

Unfortunately this has held me back on a couple of occasions, where girls have actually rejected me for not initiating intimacy on the first date.

However the more hurtful issue I'm encountering is that after I'm a good few dates in with a woman, I often suddenly get rejected, ghosted or "flaked" as a result of her dating another man or not feeling a spark with me (or some other reason). This really sucks because, with her being the only woman I was dating, I have to start all over again with a new girl every time this happens which feels incredibly demoralising and feels like I just wasted a load of time.

I've been discussing my dating struggles with a good friend of mine who successfully met his girlfriend during a phase of dating multiple people at once, and he advised me that my "take-things-slow, one girl at a time" dating strategy is hurting me way more than its helping me.

He explained that the majority of the dating pool just isn't that great, and that I have to filter through all the bad, incompatitable, flakey people until I find a someone who I'm compatitable with - and that the best way for me to do this is to date multiple women at once. This way if I get rejected by one, I already have another date lined up with someone else. And the dating process is just happens a lot quicker.

He also advised me to initiate a kiss on a first date if I like a girl. He explained that a lot of girls see "no kiss" as a rejection or a lack of interest regardless of whether I try to ask them on a second date or not.

Honestly, I feel like I'm not really built for dating multiple people at once. However what I'm doing now isn't working and my friend did meet his girlfriend whilst he was dating 2 other girls at the same time.

His advice does also making sense. I'm more likely to find the right girl for me if I date more girls and the only way I can really do that is unfortunately by dating more than one at a time...

Idk, I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that this is a good or bad idea for me.

I'm M25 living in the South of England. I've been going on dates for some time now but seem to struggle to "hold anyone down".

My way of dating has always been dating only person at a time. This method feels right to me.

The idea of dating multiple girls at once just doesn't sit well with me for some reason. It feels like I'm practicing polyamory, whilst I'm looking for something monogamous.

I also want intimacy to develop naturally over time as we get to know each other. For me this means that I don't kiss (or have sex) on the first date (or first few dates).

Unfortunately this has held me back on a couple of occasions, where girls have actually rejected me for not initiating intimacy on the first date.

However the more hurtful issue I'm encountering is that after I'm a good few dates in with a woman, I often suddenly get rejected, ghosted or "flaked" as a result of her dating another man or not feeling a spark with me (or some other reason). This really sucks because, with her being the only woman I was dating, I have to start all over again with a new girl every time this happens which feels incredibly demoralising and feels like I just wasted a load of time.

I've been discussing my dating struggles with a good friend of mine who successfully met his girlfriend during a phase of dating multiple people at once, and he advised me that my "take-things-slow, one girl at a time" dating strategy is hurting me way more than its helping me.

He explained that the majority of the dating pool just isn't that great, and that I have to filter through all the bad, incompatitable, flakey people until I find a someone who I'm compatitable with - and that the best way for me to do this is to date multiple women at once. This way if I get rejected by one, I already have another date lined up with someone else. And the dating process is just happens a lot quicker.

He also advised me to initiate a kiss on a first date if I like a girl. He explained that a lot of girls see "no kiss" as a rejection or a lack of interest regardless of whether I try to ask them on a second date or not.

Honestly, I feel like I'm not really built for dating multiple people at once. However what I'm doing now isn't working and my friend did meet his girlfriend whilst he was dating 2 other girls at the same time.

His advice does also making sense. I'm more likely to find the right girl for me if I date more girls and the only way I can really do that is unfortunately by dating more than one at a time...

Idk, I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that this is a good or bad idea for me.