u/outcastreturns

We broke up.

We discussed it last night, she wasn't happy with my concerns.

My girlfriend phoned her friends. She gave them the address to my apartment and invited them over to talk to me (without telling me in advance). Two of her three friends came over. They were all dressed up, they must have been at the club or bar because they were drunk too.

It got pretty uncomfortable, one of her friends was pretty unpleasant. She started getting in my face basically saying I was controlling, insecure AH, whilst trashing my place and threatening to break my things. My girlfriend just walked into another room. At some point I called her to help me get her friends out of my place, but she ignored me. She barely said or did anything the whole time her friends were here.

This drunk friend started saying messed up stuff along the lines of "they're going to make sure she cheats on me as revenge for me being such an a controlling AH" (which didn't make much sense to me - surely that proves my point that the holiday is a bad idea).

Anyway I started threatening to call the police just to get them to leave my apartment and fortunately the other drunk friend convinces the aggressive one to leave.

After they left, my girlfriend apologises saying she didn't realise they were drunk when she invited them over. I'm just exhausted at this point, so I just go to sleep on the couch.

This morning I found a massive scratch down the side of my car. Her friend keyed my car. I tell my girlfriend and she basically says "how do you know her friend did it". Well it wasn't there yesterday. I ask my girlfriend to give me her friends number and I can probably get a confession out of her but my girlfriend refuses, still insisting "that anyone could have stratched my car last night".

Anyway, I talked to my girlfriend about last night: giving her friends the address to my apartment and inviting them over to shout out me. And then not helping me when her friend started trashing my place. My girlfriend basically said "I'm sorry for my friends behaviour last night, but she's also right" and she's still going on the holiday.

So yeah, single girls holiday it is then.

Every year my girlfriend (F24) gets together with her old Uni friends and they go on a holiday together. Last year they went to Rome, the previous year to the South of France.

Last week I (M24) found out that the plan was to go to Ibiza this year... This surprised me since my girlfriend isn't much of a party girl and Ibiza is... well, the party capital of Europe - and this just sounds like a completely different kind of holiday to the previous ones.

One thing I noted is that this is the first time in years that all 3 of her friends are single - my girlfriend is the only one with a boyfriend. In the past years at least one or two of them had boyfriends or were seriously dating someone. But now they're all single again, which gives me the impression they're trying to go on a "single girls holiday" together and my girlfriend, being their friend, doesn't want to miss out.

Also I'm aware that her friends have been going out party and hooking up with guys a lot this year already, and although my girlfriend doesn't really go out partying here in our home country, she also doesn't want to miss out on this holiday... which is inevitably going to involve partying, alcohol and her friends bringing guys back to the villa they plan on renting.

I explained to my girlfriend that I'm not comfortable with this and she seemed understanding and agreed to ask the girls to change to a different holiday somewhere else. However a week later the girls met up to plan the holiday and when she got back from the meeting I found out that they had booked flights for Ibiza.

When I asked her about it, she acted completely different to the first conversation I had with her about it. She started saying that it was controlling of me to try and tell her to change holiday and why should I have influence over where she goes on her holiday with her friends. It seemed like her friends had convinced her that I'm somehow the bad guy for not wanting my girlfriend to go on a party-sex-alcohol holiday with a group of single women.

And now my girlfriend keeps bringing it up that "why do I think she's going to cheat on me", "why don't I trust her?" Which is making me doubt myself a bit. Maybe I am being controlling? The thing is I do trust her not to cheat on me, but I also just don't like the idea of her putting herself in that environment when she has a boyfriend.

Honestly if she goes ahead with it, I'd consider breaking up.

As most people on here probably know all too well, a lot of people in dating apps are very flakey. You might go on a date, send a few messages back and forth and then boom, suddenly your ghosted or boom, suddenly you're blocked for no obvious reason.

What I'm wondering though is this increased flaky-ness just because due to dating apps. Or do think that even people that you meet organically (in real life), are more flakey than they used to be too? Like is this whole generation (20-30 years currently) just in general more flakey than the previous generations?

I know a lot of people would naturally think to rank most of the Class of 92 and 2008 squad above him due to their success.

However bare in mind everyone in Man Utd's UCL and treble winning squads had other world class hard-working players around them.

Bruno has never really had that, he's featured in some of the worst Man Utd teams we've seen for 35+ years and still managed to win trophies with them.