u/overthetoptwin

My flight is in this week and I am still a little confused on how I planned my trip. The goal of my trip is to relax and take it slow.

Do you think as solo It is worth going through so many stations. I paid sidemen booking of a resort which messed up my whole plan as I wanted to stay there, and only these dates were available. All the paid hotels are great so I would not like to cancel them but the major issue is if managing Ubud for a week is better or try to squeeze in Lombok too. My new plan is

• 10th - 13th Canggu (Already paid booking) Goal is to relax after long flight and try cafes
• 13th - 14th Ubud (Can change)
• 14th - 18th Lombok through ferry (Can change) Goal is to see Sembulan and Tetebatu.
• 18th - 21st Sidemen (Paid booking)
• 21st - 24th Ubud (Can change) Goal is to do Mount Batur, Relax in Ubud, Cafes, Activities
• 24th - 27th Uluwatu and Fly Back (Paid Booking)

I'll be taking cars for all my transfers, that's not the issue. My options are that I eliminate Lombok completely and stay longer in Ubud, or be an adventurer and opt for Lombok as per to this plan.

What to do you guys suggest?

I’m planning to come to Bali in Oct.

First of all, ChatGPT has told me that It’s not going to be ideal so I need to know the reality of staying in Ubud, Sidemen and Canggu in Oct?

How should I pack? Does it stay hotter or does a little layering is needed?

I’m also concerned about the volcanic eruption that happened on Friday and don’t know if I should be concerned or not?

Lastly, I’m an extremely open minded person but my food preferences are to eat Halal. So is Bali food, halal-friendly and if anyone can help me out if I can eat anywhere at the popular cafes like Kynd etc?

How safe is it to be in bali as a solo female?

Are there any saunas which are only female friendly?

Would love to know your suggestions. Cannot wait to explore the beautiful island 🩷

If you come from Giga Mall side or DHA phase 2 or its Gate No. 04 on expressway where there’s a big Seven Star Mall sign and take first U-turn, something extremely uncomfortable has happened with me. I’m a new driver and I’m always feel a little insecure while getting to car. I lock my doors always and keep a taser but while I was taking the first u-turn today coming out of DHA II Gate 04, a beggar with complete black painted body came infront of my car and bended over the bonnet so I couldn’t run away. He looked extremely possessed or drunk and It scared the shit out of me. He literally looked like he was coming to harm me, and I had to drove to get him off my car. I was scared if it would harm me. He started kicking my car because the speed was slow.

What the actual f I just experienced. What should one supposed to do in this situation as a woman?

Whatever is the beef in between India and Pakistan on normal casual day, I have major respect for Indians coming out to protest. From my naive humble knowledge, to social medial figures to celebrities joining the movement. It has the potential to overthrow the egoistic Modi raj. The coverage of the protests has been phenomenal by the YouTubers like Samdish and some more.

Why cannot we uphold the government responsible? After Nepal, Bangladesh and now India, why Pakistan (with all the love and patriotism I have for my land) why cannot we bother enough about our rights and our people?

It’s giving me goosebumps to see a massive unity coming out from India despite of WHATEVER issues they have, the power of youth and resistance is always an act of courage and higher morality to exist fairly.

I cannot help but wonder when we will be united? When we will actual witness in Iqbal Bano’s word

‘سب تاج گرائیں جائیں گئے،
سپ تخت اُچھالے جاہئں گئے

آخر ہم کب دِیکھئں گے؟،

Long live resistence, from Palestine, Bangladesh to India and hopefully Pakistan ✨

I was inactive on Upwork as I already had a job, but now I want to go back to it. Unfortunately, and surprisingly they dropped my JSS from 100% to 69% with any negative reviews and solely on being active.

I’m unable to justify this to my new hirers as they are always suspicious that maybe It’s my work. Mind you I had delivered 6-7 projects and worked 50+ hours all with 5/5 ratings.

I recently reached out to a few clients externally but one replied saying they only want to hire if you will apply on Upwork. Is reaching out externally is a negative or professionally considered bad ethic?

What’s the best way forward? I feel my portfolio in design is solid & can get me hired but these things hold me back. Plus I’m tired of buying connects.

I also don’t use AI for my proposals. I’m awake & can apply at US timings.

Any tips can help.

I’m F27. I’m looking for genuine advice from men. Unfortunately my father had passed away, and there isn’t any male adult in my family who can help me from their experience.

I’ve met an amazing human being at work & we have involved our families but we were talking to each other and initially everything was perfect. The salah, the motivation of him working hard for future and also, his commitment to get better at health/fitness and I had a belief and positivity that this is going to be the best decision for me.

But as a few months passed, I saw lack of efforts. He is extremely kind, sweet with me but I’m an ambitious woman who had worked very hard in my life. I have savings, investments for my future, working on myself in terms of religiosity, professionally as well as personally. I go to gym. I am continuously working on expanding my business. This constant hustling in my life comes from seeing financial issues at my home due to which I worked very hard to change the quality of my life.

I had never dated or seen a good man that leads up to marriage, but then I met him. After talking to him about his goals and all, he specifically shared how he would like to take up religious studies in a few years because he wants to learn about Islam, plus I saw and noticed his demeanor at work. Very respectful. Prays. Talks softly & seemed like a good decent working man.

When I say lack of efforts, I don’t mean he doesn’t work. But our energies are very different. He’s okay doing minimal effort at work despite of him not having savings, his place, any car or even sometimes he struggles to pay his bills which breaks my heart for him but it puts me in an extremely dangerous situation where I despite showing interest to him for marriage.

He doesn’t go to gym, financial reasons are there. He doesn’t want to change his jobs due to bad experiences in past. He also doesn’t want to move countries. He also smokes heavily which initially I was aware but not the frequency of it.

He has improved his efforts when I communicated that I cannot marry if my needs are not met, he started making efforts but I personally feel he’s not being smart about it all. He also doesn’t prefer to put himself out.

Now being in business all of these skills are important. Now comes the main confusion, he is a very good human being when I say it, I mean he has consideration, empathy & kindness for human beings. He’s humble & down to earth. He has this delusional positivity that Allah tallah provides but sometimes It annoys me because I feel that’s a disguise to not work harder.

He also doesn’t pray anymore. It’s been months. I do also skip my salah sometimes but It’s never months. Plus, he uses credit card to meet my expectations sometimes or please me which is not a good thing.
Because I don’t want to have my needs met likr this but in a respectful manner.

I’m confused because as a south asian woman coming from experiences with bad men around my community and personal life, I also want to hold onto a person who’s kind to me but I’m afraid if he is able to provide for me or even take up responsibilities. I’m okay with helping him out but I don’t want to be naive in a way that I keep helping a man to build himself and mother him to become someone strong.

I have also done istikhara a lot of times, and trust me I know Istikhara isn’t about dreams and symbols but each time I did Istikhara, I continuously saw bad dreams in a row involving him.

He expects me to give him time which I did and now I want to just take a decision and move on with my life. I feel guilty if I say no and scared because I genuinely connects with this person but our values don’t align anymore & that scares me.

I’m extremely scared of marriage and even divorce because again, I feel It will break me if it doesn’t come out as I expected dur to my past traumas.

Am I being too negative anxious due to his less ambitious energy? Am I being extremely judgemental and harsh as no human being is perfect. Any advice will be helpful.

I’m F27. I’m looking for genuine advice from men. Unfortunately my father had passed away, and there isn’t any male adult in my family who can help me from their experience.

I’ve met an amazing human being at work & we have involved our families but we were talking to each other and initially everything was perfect. The salah, the motivation of him working hard for future and also, his commitment to get better at health/fitness and I had a belief and positivity that this is going to be the best decision for me.

But as a few months passed, I saw lack of efforts. He is extremely kind, sweet with me but I’m an ambitious woman who had worked very hard in my life. I have savings, investments for my future, working on myself in terms of religiosity, professionally as well as personally. I go to gym. I am continuously working on expanding my business. This constant hustling in my life comes from seeing financial issues at my home due to which I worked very hard to change the quality of my life.

I had never dated or seen a good man that leads up to marriage, but then I met him. After talking to him about his goals and all, he specifically shared how he would like to take up religious studies in a few years because he wants to learn about Islam, plus I saw and noticed his demeanor at work. Very respectful. Prays. Talks softly & seemed like a good decent working man.

When I say lack of efforts, I don’t mean he doesn’t work. But our energies are very different. He’s okay doing minimal effort at work despite of him not having savings, his place, any car or even sometimes he struggles to pay his bills which breaks my heart for him but it puts me in an extremely dangerous situation where I despite showing interest to him for marriage.

He doesn’t go to gym, financial reasons are there. He doesn’t want to change his jobs due to bad experiences in past. He also doesn’t want to move countries. He also smokes heavily which initially I was aware but not the frequency of it.

He has improved his efforts when I communicated that I cannot marry if my needs are not met, he started making efforts but I personally feel he’s not being smart about it all. He also doesn’t prefer to put himself out.

Now being in business all of these skills are important. Now comes the main confusion, he is a very good human being when I say it, I mean he has consideration, empathy & kindness for human beings. He’s humble & down to earth. He has this delusional positivity that Allah tallah provides but sometimes It annoys me because I feel that’s a disguise to not work harder.

He also doesn’t pray anymore. It’s been months. I do also skip my salah sometimes but It’s never months. Plus, he uses credit card to meet my expectations sometimes or please me which is not a good thing.
Because I don’t want to have my needs met likr this but in a respectful manner.

I’m confused because as a south asian woman coming from experiences with bad men around my community and personal life, I also want to hold onto a person who’s kind to me but I’m afraid if he is able to provide for me or even take up responsibilities. I’m okay with helping him out but I don’t want to be naive in a way that I keep helping a man to build himself and mother him to become someone strong.

I have also done istikhara a lot of times, and trust me I know Istikhara isn’t about dreams and symbols but each time I did Istikhara, I continuously saw bad dreams in a row involving him.

He expects me to give him time which I did and now I want to just take a decision and move on with my life. I feel guilty if I say no and scared because I genuinely connects with this person but our values don’t align anymore & that scares me.

I’m extremely scared of marriage and even divorce because again, I feel It will break me if it doesn’t come out as I expected dur to my past traumas.

Am I being too negative anxious due to his less ambitious energy? Am I being extremely judgemental and harsh as no human being is perfect. Any advice will be helpful.

So I have a good background, I was recently shortlisted for a very competitive scholarship but I wasn’t given funding. I’ve been working with a US client for two years, he does not give visa assistance but I know that my job has a great market and industry in US.

My sister moved to US on Masters but on funding but my field is design and getting funding in this is not possible as much as I researched. I have 4M saved and I would like to ask if I should still opt for self-funded masters in US and eventually land a job which would be a possibility given my experience with Dubai, Netherlands, Australia and US team already. (remotely as full time contractor)

Is this worth it OR should I opt for Finland or Germany/Belgium? Are these countries good for jobs or not? Asking as per current scenario from those who are already there. I also believe I can land a good job in Australia and would love it THE MOST if I can get to Australia but my points are not that much on Skilled worker visa. Currently my points stand at 95.

Masters is a reason to just get and land a better job and pivot in my career.

Help is appreciated.

Is inflation hitting everyone or am I poor? I earn 6-700k a month and I save big portion of what I do, but now the savings ade getting tighter because as a woman, I cannot afford skincare less than 50-70k and trust me I use only 3-4 things. And if you’re into clean diet, then everything is sooooo expensive especially protein. What’s happening :( Plus why everything requires a presence on social media now especially being infront of camera especially if you need more clients?

I’m unable to learn how to invest because of lack of time and again I’m just not very good at numbers. I’m more like a human science and arts person. I’m already 30. What do I need to do ASAP with my savings. I have around 4M saved and a car worth 3M.

My health and circumstances do not allow me to go to full-time job in-house. I work independently and as a part-time remote contractor.

Suggest me some ways I can be easy on learning to invest and not eventually ending up regretting with depreciation of my savings.

Also, due to this subreddit, last year, I successfully learned taxes, how to file them and also ended up getting a savings account. So I’m taking everything very seriously at this point.

We are currently a family of 5 people. Our portion is upper floor so the heat is unbearable nowadays. Surviving without AC all day is not possible anymore. We are at a rental space and we don’t have awareness on which system we can go for which can easily help us use 2-3 ACs. The loadshedding also happens off and on and due to working remotely, we also want to solve this issue.

I know this is a very basic question but I’m a woman and I need to solve this issue for my family asap. Can spend upto 10-15 lakh but my issue is the logistics if we plan to move out in future and if it helps to minimize the electricity bills in future completely.