u/paradiseisinyourmind

Yesterday was the first day my husband’s kid came to stay with us. It was exhausting to say the least. They kept wanting attention and it was driving me crazy and made me overstimulated I had to go lay down. I kept asking myself, why did I sign up for this? I feel like I can’t do this. And to think, it was only ONE DAY. We have years to go.

I care for them and want the best for them but I’m struggling bad. I never wanted kids but I love my husband, we’re so good together.

How did y’all get over the needing attention all the time (hopefully) phase? The kid is 8.

Any encouragement would be deeply appreciated it. I want this to work.

I’m wanting to become a postpartum doula and have been doing a lot of research. I understand what the basics are but I mainly wanted to know what does it look like for YOU specifically?

I love babies and love helping others and have been told I have a very loving and compassionate heart. I feel like these are great qualities to have as a doula but I still wonder what a day in the life would look like and if I would enjoy it.

Although I love babies, I don’t really want me be looking after them for hours on end. I’d rather educate the parents but of course care for the baby when needed. Does this seem realistic or does being a postpartum doula mean you’ll have to care for the baby for long periods of time?

Thanks.

I’ve recently been looking into becoming a postpartum doula and I’ve been researching about different workshops close to me. I keep seeing ones that are one or two days long and at the end of it, you get certified. I’m just not sure how I feel about it. I feel like I wouldn’t be that prepared after that short period of time. I’d like to start out with an agency and then possibly create my own business one day.

Have you gone through these short workshops? What was your experience like? Did you feel prepared afterwards? I know knowledge comes with time and experience, but I want to be confident in my abilities when I start out.

Thanks for reading!

I’m getting very frustrated. I recently applied to disability because I can’t keep a job. I either get too depressed to go in or too overwhelmed. I don’t want disability to be my end goal though. I want to have a career. But when it comes to looking for one, I can’t choose. I go from being excited about one career and then the next hour, day or week I’ll be completely into something else.

It’s exhausting and was wondering if anyone else had this issue and is it a bipolar thing?

I was so excited about this job and thought it was finally my chance to go somewhere in life and then I actually do it. The training was really bad and they just threw me in with the wolves without properly training me. I felt so dumb and overwhelmed. I had to keep myself from crying.

Why does this always happen? Why can’t I keep a job? It’s just all too much for me. My poor husband is very successful and worked really hard to be where he is today and I feel so guilty that he has to pay all the bills and I have nothing to contribute.

Today was the first day I thought about leaving this world in a long time because I feel so hopeless that this will never get better and I’ll never find a job that’ll stick.

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Thanks for all the replies. This community is such a great one and I’m so thankful I found it. So much support, I really appreciate it. I will give myself grace and keep moving forward!

I’m not trying to be rude at all, but I don’t consider myself a mother. Yes I may be a stepmother but I don’t have any children of my own. I don’t mind not being recognized or not getting any gifts today. Is there anyone else?