u/phimthrowawat

My ex-girlfriend (27F) broke up with me in end February and while I was sad the first 1.5 months, I never really did anything embarrassing besides just texting her a few times about how I've changed and want her back. After saying no to me, eventually, she blocked me everywhere and that is when this whole thing started.

After the block, since I couldn't message her anywhere, I started sending gifts to her apartment. This lasted for over a month where I would send something to her place every 2-3 days. Usually, it would be a Sephora gift, a really fancy bouquet, plushies, or something that I remember she liked in the relationship. She buzzed in the delivery driver for all of those gift deliveries so I thought she was appreciating the gifts. Sometimes, I would also send in hand-written/hand-drawn letters along with the gifts. I probably spent ~$3000 on this.

This lasted till mid-May when she unblocked and called me to tell me to stop the gifts, how they were "too cheap and annoying," and that if I really miss her, I should just send money to her bank account instead. She also made a comment about how her family is really rich and that in a relationship, the guy should be spending more on their girlfriend (implying that I didn't spend enough on her). She also bragged about how I don't know how "popular" she is and that it was her mistake dating me in the first place which made me feel like she is better than me and that I missed out on an amazing person. Needless to say, I was really hurt by all of this and did not intend to send her anything after that. All the people I talked to also told me not to do that. Unfortunately, a week later, I caved in and sent her $2000 along with a personal message on how I hope that the money transfer shows that I'm willing to spend on her if she wants me to. Since then, I've been sending her money periodically and at this point, I have sent her around $30,000 in total. I am still blocked everywhere.

In addition to all this, I also started going to online "psychics" in end-April which has become my biggest addiction. They tell me how she regrets the breakup, how she's just being stubborn and is going to come back. Between April and now, I have spent almost $100,000 on psychics and while NOT A SINGLE prediction has come true, I still continue to call them everyday to check how my ex is feeling and they continue telling me we will reconcile this summer. The false hope feels nice in the moment until I realize how much I spent. Some of these psychics have the audacity to charge $25/minute because gullible people like me will pay for it...

That is $130,000 in total and was essentially over half my life savings. I have maxed out all my credit cards. I really really regret this now and wish I spent this money on a nice car or a bunch of vacations or literally anything else. What's worse is that I cannot stop and still keep sending her money or wasting it on psychics...

I hope to come back to this post in a few months and see this from a better place.

My ex-girlfriend (27F) broke up with me in end February and while I was sad the first 1.5 months, I never really did anything embarrassing besides just texting her a few times about how I've changed and want her back. After saying no to me, eventually, she blocked me everywhere and that is when this whole thing started.

After the block, since I couldn't message her anywhere, I started sending gifts to her apartment. This lasted for over a month where I would send something to her place every 2-3 days. Usually, it would be a Sephora gift, a really fancy bouquet, plushies, or something that I remember she liked in the relationship. She buzzed in the delivery driver for all of those gift deliveries so I thought she was appreciating the gifts. Sometimes, I would also send in hand-written/hand-drawn letters along with the gifts. I probably spent ~$3000 on this.

This lasted till mid-May when she unblocked and called me to tell me to stop the gifts, how they were "too cheap and annoying," and that if I really miss her, I should just send money to her bank account instead. She also made a comment about how her family is really rich and that in a relationship, the guy should be spending more on their girlfriend (implying that I didn't spend enough on her). She also bragged about how I don't know how "popular" she is and that it was her mistake dating me in the first place which made me feel like she is better than me and that I missed out on an amazing person. Needless to say, I was really hurt by all of this and did not intend to send her anything after that. All the people I talked to also told me not to do that. Unfortunately, a week later, I caved in and sent her $2000 along with a personal message on how I hope that the money transfer shows that I'm willing to spend on her if she wants me to. Since then, I've been sending her money periodically and at this point, I have sent her around $30,000 in total. I am still blocked everywhere.

In addition to all this, I also started going to online "psychics" in end-April which has become my biggest addiction. They tell me how she regrets the breakup, how she's just being stubborn and is going to come back. Between April and now, I have spent almost $100,000 on psychics and while NOT A SINGLE prediction has come true, I still continue to call them everyday to check how my ex is feeling and they continue telling me we will reconcile this summer. The false hope feels nice in the moment until I realize how much I spent. Some of these psychics have the audacity to charge $25/minute because gullible people like me will pay for it...

That is $130,000 in total and was essentially over half my life savings. I have maxed out all my credit cards. I really really regret this now and wish I spent this money on a nice car or a bunch of vacations or literally anything else. What's worse is that I cannot stop and still keep sending her money or wasting it on psychics...

I hope to come back to this post in a few months and see this from a better place.