u/phymns655

Thanks for reading. I'll try to condense this... Ex and I have been divorced for about 12 years and we finally co-parent well. It definitely wasn't easy in the beginning, as I had to swallow a lot of paint to keep the peace. I overpaid a lot of old expenses and she would run from paying certain shared things until I used all I had to pay it off. Including an old car she claimed in the divorce but both our names were on the loan. And after all that, she raised support on me when she could from $600 to $1000 a month! Its put me in a stranglehold ever since where I basically live check to check. I'm single by choice and enjoy that. And over the years she has improved her on life as well.

Problem now is that I work remote at my job. 1 week in office, next week at home on rotation. I work second shift and my whole life consists of work/sleep/work/sleep. Not much else. So when I am remote at home, I value my time to be in my peaceful place, do housework inbetween work jobs to do, spend time creatively and peacefully. Its "my time" and its all I get cause weekends are for the kids. Now she has figured out what weeks I am remote and always asks me to watch the autistic one of our children while she and our youngest take trips 4 hours away to a famed amusement part. (They are part of a whole subculture there of roller coaster enthusiasts) Which that is great and I am glad our boy gets to travel a lot, but I can't help but think that I cannot afford such luxury. I haven't been on a vacation since 2018! I'm getting burned out, but I cannot afford anything. Plus, I FEEL like I cannot show the boys as good a time as she can because of my financial strain.

Now she is asking me to take them even more on remote weeks this summer so she can go alone or sometimes take our youngest like she has been. She has a great job now and makes far above what I make. I haven't bothered to seek support adjustment because of this, because our autistic son will be 18 very soon... so this does have a shelf life to it. Just not sure if I feel justified in being upset in "losing" my space, time and freedom. Plus I'M WORKING! Our autistic son is high functioning and doesn't need much supervision when he is here, but still it is the principal of the matter. Is it justitfied that she shouldn't be asking/pressuring me to take them more just because I happen to be home and she wants another trip out of town? Or is it a small form of envy/jealousy that she can? Its more like frustration on my end, honestly. I'm burned out. I love being with my kids, but am I justified in being a bit upset by this?

Long post, thanks for reading. Would love some kind thoughts and perspectives. I Wanna wrestle these feelings I am having down. Not to keep the peace (Im a people pleaser) but figure out why I feel so "used" or conveinent, without considering my own personal time and space I need to keep my own sanity.

Thanks!

Longshot but I thought Id try. I remember STP appearing in a music magazine, like 2000-2002 and it was a part of an article about upcoming anticipated albums. The photo of the band was them working on a factory type machine. I wanna say it was babies on the conveyor belt. Scott was standing, holding a clipboard and was sporting a mowhawk. All wore labcoats I think. They mentioned thier next record would be a double album (pre ShangriLaDeeDa). Same article had Tenacious D with cowboy hats on and riding a rocket maybe? Been almost 30 years. My memory has faded. Anyone know or got this? Thanks!

Im an artist who always struggles with the commerce side of the “business” of art. Its hard to not see low sales or no likes or reposts as a sort of “rejection of me.” I know I shouldnt feel that way. Not about my art, nor anything else in life. As a recovering people pleaser Im still struggling to find self worth on my own and not care if something O create “succeeds or fails.”

Anyone have any tips the’ve used to be able to finally disconnect from this poor cycle of feelings and not care what others think or dont think? Thanks!

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I finally tried Keepees downtown. It has now dethroned all others! It is the undesputed heavyweight champion of Burgers in my town, IMO. Recomend!

48 male, sedentary job. Started at 367 pounds. Now down to 355, losing about.08 of a pound a day by doing the 18:6 and keeping my calories down. Daily maintain says I should do like 3500 a day, but I eat 2300 a day. When the weather stays consistent I will do some outside walking.

Pounds are practically dripping off of me, which is GREAT! I know eventually things will catch up and I'll have to put more work in. But this burst of weight loss at the start really puts a pep in my step and gets me through those late night snack/munchies temptations. Telling myself NO almost becomes a joy. And then I am rewarded in the morning with lower numbers. I'm loving it!