u/picklepaapad

r/vegan is a subreddit dedicated to veganism, the ethical opposition to animal exploitation and consumption. Most users on the subreddit see veganism as more than just a diet and view it as a serious moral issue. This brings us to OP referring to her husband as a "corpse lover"

ORIGINAL POST - Vegan married to a corpse lover

Mods removed the post Here is a screenshot

The OP explains that both she and her husband used to eat meat before she watched *Dominion* and became vegan "instantly". According to her, her husband’s reaction to the documentary was basically:

>"ya, I dont really care"

she now finds his continued meat consumption "absolutely disgusting" and is considering divorce, especially because their children also eat animal products sometimes.

Some users supported OP and argued that veganism is a moral issue, not "just food"

>....If he saw animals going through unimaginable suffering and that was his response, then his empathy might be so low that it's like being a sociopath or similar.

>Dont spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn‘t have empathy. That would be a sad life. >>OP :THIS. so freaking true. Thank you. Like he also doesn't give 2 fs about what is going on in Gaza with ICE, like gets mad if I talk about any of it.

>Just a warm word to express my full sympathy. I have gone though the same kind of path once. Living with meat eater is just impossible for a genuine ethical vegan indeed. If he "doesn't care" no relation is possible.

OP further in the comments revealed there were other issues in the marriage, including domestic violence

>This is outside of Reddit's paygrade. OP find a couple's therapist that can help you navigate whether this can be fixed. There's vegan therapists as well. Remember, this can still be solved/sorted >>.....If OP is in the angry vegan stage then this combined with the stress of life/work/kids does not seem inductive to an easy resolution. This needs handling with sensitivity to each partner in the marriage. Nobody said it was going to be easy. >>> OP:I'm only seeing what people's opinion / advice / similarity is on the vegan aspect of our dysfunction. I can't go to a marriage therapist anymore, we did try in the past, because there is also extreme DV in our story. >>>>I was going to suggest a book that involves making peace between vegans and nonvegans but excuse me???

Several commenters warned OP that divorce would not stop her children from eating meat

>One thing you do need to be aware of is if you divorce the chances of him being legally made to feed a vegan diet on his custody time is slim to zero. So regardless your children will be having animal products probably more often than they do now.

>Divorce would likely not result in any change since your ex husband would likely continue cooking and serving meat during his custody time.

>If you divorce, his legal right is to 50% custody. You can control anything that happens on those days. The kids might be fed nothing but meat. He could be taking them out hunting, and you'd never know. They'd get zero message of compassion those days.......

>there are parents in similar split custody situations over at r/veganparenting . Hopefully the history of DV will play in your favor during custody hearings. Lead by example for your kids and talk to them about why you're vegan and why they eat vegan at mom's house in an age appropriate way.....

>If you divorce him, his influence doesn't magically disappear.Your children will spend time with him and I doubt he'll cook vegan. So chances are your children will eat more animal products than now. >>So she should stay in a marriage she resents and raise her kids to see that mommy and daddy dont like each other and think that's normal? >>>Ofc not but she should leave because she's not happy in the relationship, not because of veganism but ultimately it's a choice one makes. Even if she imposed it on her kids they can later grow up and move out then go back to eating meat again.

Meanwhile, some commenters used the thread as proof that "all vegans are INSANE"

>The fact you need a divorce over the fact you went vegan and he didn't AFTER being married shows who the real problem is. Please get out of that relationship. Mostly for his sake. 🤦

>Marrying a non vegan and then wanting to divorce them for not being vegan is absolutely unhinged. You need a reality check. >>I don't think this is accurate. They're contemplating divorce because of differences in morals that are bound to shift and change over time for any person. >>Not unhinged at all. People get married because they share common values and now she values veganism and he doesn’t. Why would she stay with someone who doesn’t share her values?..... >>>Then don’t create families with children and make them suffer because of your selfishness >>Yea, it's like changing the rule of the game mid game. It feels like a made up reason to leave the guy.

>Just imagine another scenario... you were both atheists and one day, your husband became a born again Christian, tries to convert you but fails. He decides to divorce you. How would you feel? Is that reasonable?

>You ranking veganism over domestic violence as reason to leave shows me you enjoy drama. The way you frame this makes you look gross. Like the DV claim was made up to reinforce your flimsy disgust for your chosen life partner. Your kids are gonna eat meat. More if you split custody. And even more so if you push them away from it. Think you need therapy and couples therapy.

>I really hope he finds a decent person to love

:OP mentioned in her post that:

>Another thing, with people who make podcasts or music, alot of the time i search if their vegan because I dont want to support or take advice from people that are complicit with the torture and exploitation of other species you feel me?

Now back to one of the comments

>this is absolutely insane. I know several couples where only one is the vegan and they get along just fine. You are exactly the reason people find vegans so cultish and annoying. >>OP :But veganism is not a diet, it is a philosophy. To not be vegan is to be ok with the exploitation and torture of animals, how could I spend the rest of my life with someone who is ok with that? How is that cultist or annoying? >>>With that logic how can you— take a bus with a carnivore driver? Go to work with meat eating peers? Walk in your house built by non vegans? Were shoes made by carcass cravers?…. >>>>OP:Who drives the bus and who I plan to spend the rest of my life with are 2 very different situations 🤣 >>>>>You use the “🤣,” but you said this in your post: "Another thing, with people who make podcasts or music, alot of the time i search if their vegan because I dont want to support or take advice from people that are complicit with the torture and exploitation of other species you feel me?" Normally I would agree with you because we live in a carnist world, but you’re talking out of both sides of your mouth here.