u/pipasunflower

I dont know how to word the question, but ill give some context for better understanding. My boyfriend and his family is from poland (I am not from poland, and we do not live in poland). There have been a few instances where ive witnessed his father beating him as a punishment or „discipline“. My boyfriend and his dad know that its wrong but they both excuse it as something that us typical for polish people to do. I need to know if this can be confirmed, or not because I feel like they are both a little delulu.

Clarification: i know that in the past it was very common to beat your kids, but now times are changing and people dont really do that anymore because a) its scientifically proven that it doesnt help with discipline at all, and b) its typically frowned upon and in some cases illegal.

So again, is beating your child normal in poland?

Edit: I mentioned that we are not currently in poland. In the country that we are in it is ILLEGAL to beat your child and you will face social judgment for it. So the point that they both made „it is normal in poland“ is completely irrelevant because we are not in poland so in the eyes of the law and the general public here it is WRONG.

Every time I post something I get a lot of criticsm and unnecessarily harsh comments and replies. Its getting to the point where I dont feel motivated to even be on this platform. It‘s truly a shame, because I do think that reddit can be very helpful when looking for advice from very specific genres of topics.

I will admit that most of the comments wouldnt be considerd „a big deal“ by a neurotypical person, but I have social anxiety and because of that I tend to overthink and spiral over these type of things.

This subreddit is so far the only place where I havent received harsh criticism, and I think the reason for that is because most people here relate to my struggles and also understand that even the „harmless“ harsh comments that are simply passive agressive can deeply impact someone with social anxiety.

I‘m not looking for any specific advice, but if anyone has some tips on how to deal with this feel frr to share!! And I also want to know if anyone else relates to this :)

Some context: I used to go to spanish classes and I graduated those at a C2 level i think (it was a long time ago). Since graduating I havent been focusing on learning spanish anymore. My mother is hispanic and I have family in spain who we visit about 1-2 a year. I have not lived in spain, we only visit and because of that I feel like I dont have a lot of opportunities to speak spanish.
I‘m hoping to receive some advice on what I could do to get my spanish level back.

More context: I understand spanish very well, but I struggle with speaking it. I can form perfect sentances in my head, but as soon as I try to say them I feel like I struggle. (It doesnt help that I get really insecure)
I also have developed a slight accent when speaking, which I also hope to get rid of with time.
My mother speaks to me in Spanish, and Catalan and I also respond in those two languages.

I feel like watching tv in spanish could help or maybe some youtuber reccomendations that I can watch or perhaps some podcasts. I have duolingo, but I feel like it only works on beginners (correct my if im wrong). I could also maybe change my phone to spanish if that would help. I‘m open to any advice!!

My boyfriends little brother broke his arm last Saturday (lower arm).He went to the hospital and had to get surgery, basically there were some bone fragments and I think they had to take them out. They also stuck a few rods inside his arm, which will be taken out in 6 months i think (I‘m not a doctor, and I wasnt at the hospital when this happened so excuse my non-professional wording)

Yesterday he was released and to my surprise, he had no cast or sling or anything. His arm was orange and swollen because of the iodine, and he had 2 bandaids.

When I asked his mom why his arm wasnt protected in any way, she said that the doctors said it was „taboo“. She even tried making a makeshift sling out of some extra fabric, and the doctors said that it wasnt allowed. She was concerned and confused.

Basically, he has to hold his broken arm with the other one.

I‘m not looking for advice or loopholes, we will do exactly what the doctor said.

I‘m just hoping that someone please explain to me why this is a thing, and if this is even normal??

I have had social anxiety for about my whole life, and everyone I am close with is aware of this. People always describe me as introverted, and I used to describe myself as that aswell.

But to be honest my personality is kinda like „I‘m shy when i dont know you, and VERY outgoing and energetic when I know you“. I also get drained quickly in social situations, but when I‘m with people that I‘m comfortable with, in a place where I‘m comfortable I have so much energy.

I took the MBTI personality test, and i came out as infp. But I‘m questioning the validity of the results because maybe I am perceived as introverted because of my social anxiety.

I feel like this is one of those questions that I can only answer for myself, but how do I find out the answer.

I have had social anxiety for most of my life. It affects my communication in real life, nothing new. But what I also noticed is that it also affects me when I‘m typing online or in groupchats. Especially in group calls or public voice chats in videogames.

For me personally, its worse when I actually have to use my voice (in real life, voice calls) but I also get anxious when I type something out publicly. I‘m not sure if this is common, but I wanted to see if anyone else relates to this.