Just a sad rant.

So we finalized the guest count, and are a month away. I thought we had at least 50 guest… nope. We only have 37 adults (I’m not counting the kids but we do have a few kids coming!)

Everything is paid for already but I really regret doing the big wedding instead of just eloping and a dinner. I’m so worried my wedding won’t be as fun as I always imagined. I knew 50 would be risky but we didn’t even meet 50?

We only spent $500 on our dj, so like if the dance floor is a bust it’s not a huge loss but I worry it won’t be fun, like the beginning of a middle school dance where people are afraid to get on the dance floor and nobody else is so nobody wants to start? Or like only a few people at a time so it’s not a fun party.

My bridal party and friends ensures me well have a great time and it’ll be fun loved night. And I know the only thing that matters is if myself and my FH have a good time. I just always envisioned and been to weddings with 100+ people and with the amount of money we spent, I’m just getting insecure with what we have.

IM NOT DISSING on micro weddings. I just regret going about it the way we did because I feel like we don’t have enough people for the “full wedding” experience and I worry everything will look so silly being such a low guest count.

And I know this is probably just stress and anxiety as we lead to the big day, my fiancé complains to me every day about our finances and how we went way over budget for both our wedding and honeymoon and he’s constantly coming to me about money stress which of course makes me regret my decision because if it was up to him we would’ve just went to the courthouse.

I’m just feeling so blah and needed to rant.

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u/pixieswithoutstyle — 4 hours ago

Wedding makeup help!

So I went to a MAU to get a lesson on how to do my own makeup for my wedding a few months ago and have been practicing on my own since. She did my makeup while explaining every step along the way, and had me hold a mirror so I can watch her every move. When she did it looked flawless and lasted all day.

I bought all the products she used, if you swipe I wrote the steps, and the tips she told me.

Today, I did my makeup at 12:30pm and by 4:50pm it looked like this… I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. It’s not entirely hot, I’ve been in AC all day the only time stepping outside into the heat to walk to my car, i know I have a textured face, but again when she did it.. it did not look like this. From afar it wasn’t bad looking but when you got close😬 not great.

I did not touch my face all day, I worked really hard on no touching. I didn’t blow my nose or anything like that.

My wedding is in August.

Is it the hair on my face? I’ve seen people shave the hair off but does women peach fuzz grow back prickly like men’s beard?

Any help and tips are appreciated, thank you for reading and helping! 😅

Edit: I did use a different lipstick! But I’m more so concerned about my base not my lips 😅

u/pixieswithoutstyle — 5 hours ago

Advice on getting a second

I’m looking for advice from people who have experience keeping multiple conures together

I currently have a male Sun Conure who will be 3 years old in July. I’ve had him for about a year and a half. He wasn’t hand-tamed when I got him, my fiancé brought him home from petco, and while he’s social and excited to see us, he’s definitely independent.

A little about him:
• He’s very vocal when we come home and gets excited to see us.
• Loves interacting with our dogs (always supervised, if we put the dogs away he will scream until we bring them back out).
• Uses flight mostly to return to his cage when he’s overstimulated or doesn’t want to be put away.
• Has only voluntarily landed on me once (sat on my head and picked through my hair for a few minutes)
• he does bite a lot. But we don’t take it personally, he’s a bird.
• Doesn’t seem fearful, just very much on his own terms.

I’m getting married this summer, leaving my job at the end of July, and after our honeymoon I’ll be home full-time. As I quit my job! Because I’ll finally have the time to dedicate to training and socialization, I’m considering adding a second conure in September.
My goals are:
• A bird that is more interactive and people-oriented.
• A bird that could potentially become companions with him.

CAN you mix breeds of conures or should I stick with another Sun conure? I’m currently considering a Green Cheek Conure or a Half-Moon Conure

I absolutely love the coloring of Half-Moons, but I’m trying to be realistic about compatibility. I’ve heard of people mixing suns and green cheeks.

My questions:
• Has anyone successfully kept a Sun Conure with a Green Cheek or Half-Moon long-term? Ik every bird is different so it’s really hit or miss.
• Which species seemed to get along better with the Sun?
• Did your birds become actual friends, tolerate each other, or dislike each other?
• If you have a mixed-species aviary, what species are together and how has it worked out?
• If you could choose again specifically for companionship with a Sun Conure, what would you get?

One more question which could be very hit or miss, please don’t immediately come for my throat because it wasn’t my suggestion: A local bird store owner suggested temporarily clipping my birds wings to help with bonding because he currently flies away when he’s overstimulated or when he knows he’s about to be put back in his cage. For those who have worked with flighted parrots, would you try additional training first, or did a temporary clip help build a stronger relationship? We’ve tried countless hours of training but he’s just not interested in being a cuddly / hand trained bird. He just flies away from us. He’ll eat out of our hands, take treats but immediately flies away.

I’d love to hear real-world experiences, both positive and negative. Thanks!

u/pixieswithoutstyle — 25 days ago

My fiancé and I are currently paying about $1,800/month in rent in a 3 bedroom double wide mobile home in metro Detroit area (Michigan)

We’re getting married this summer and have been planning to move out of Michigan afterward—South Carolina is our top choice.

Originally, I really wanted to be near the coast or at least somewhat close to where I could make day trips. (Charleston is my top choice but we also liked the Columbia area when we went camping last year) because we love the ocean, and we’ve visited Charleston 3 times last year and loved it. BUT a new opportunity just came up:

My fiancé’s coworker has a 2 bed single wide mobile home on her farm near Greenville, SC and would rent it to us for about $650/month water included in rent. It would be a 6-month lease to start, so we could try it out without fully committing.

The downside is Greenville is about 3–3.5 hours from the beach, so it wouldn’t be a quick trip. That said, we already regularly drive 2.5–3 hours to visit family, so maybe it’s not a huge deal. We have a RV we can just do weekend beach camping trips?

Plan would be to move around December - January when our current lease ends. We’re also considering moving “light” and putting extra stuff in storage since we’re not sure if this would be long-term.

I’m torn between:
Taking the super affordable farm opportunity near Greenville (save money, try a new lifestyle, near mountains) but sharing a property with his coworker. This would give us time to save a lot of money, potentially for a house, baby etc.

Holding out for something closer to the coast (Charleston/Columbia area) but paying more.

Would you take the Greenville opportunity for 6 months, or go straight to the coast?
Would love any advice, especially from people familiar with South Carolina!

Other things to note: my fiancé’s job has multiple locations in Michigan, South Carolina, and North Carolina. Offices located in Greenville, Columbia, and Charleston. So no matter where we choose his job would be in tact. I’m quitting my job and starting school online full time after the wedding regardless if we move or not so I won’t have to worry about my job.

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u/pixieswithoutstyle — 2 months ago