u/pompouswatermelon

I’m currently 7 weeks and starting to feel very sick most of the day. I can barely stomach any food so I’m also feeling a bit lightheaded, and have noticed my temper is shorter and I feel more “ditzy”.

I moved to QLD from VIC so I don’t get all my sick leave ahead of time - meaning I only have 3 days paid leave.

I’m expecting symptoms to keep getting worse, obviously I don’t want to tell people I’m pregnant yet - especially as I’m applying for training for next year.

Does anyone have any strategies to deal with this without having to sacrifice too much time off work. Obviously will see GP for antiemetics but otherwise I don’t know what to do

I am crying as I am typing this.
We started IVF with no fertility issues, just needed a sperm donor. We even thought we were going to do IUI - but couldn’t find a donor we liked suitable for IUI. I am young, healthy, slim, eat well, exercise etc.
No issues with egg collection - got 15 mature
10 eggs fertilised - great
6 made it to blast - 4x5AA, 4AB, 4BA (non tested as I am 29 and donor is 27)
First transfer - failed - I cried. My wife was upset but said you know what, could be just down to luck.
Second transfer - we tried immediately after the failed transfer, no break. One of our blasts did not survive thaw. No problem, we defrosted another one. Fail.
At this point had another discussion with FS, she said we can keep trying or we can do more tests. Opted for the full thing :
- autoimmune testing - normal
- clotting disorders screening - normal
- hysteroscopy with biopsies - normal, no endometritis, normal number of NK cells
- laparoscopy - superficial endometriosis which was all excised

Great! We have a potential reason for it not working. Let’s try again knowing that now there is nothing in my body that could be causing this!

Third transfer - fail.
My FS says she’s out of ideas and that I should be pregnant by now. Suggests trying PRP for our next round just to see, even though my lining is always 9mm+

Fourth transfer with PRP - currently at 6dp5dt . Had a faint positive on easy at home test yesterday - negative today. My bloating has gone down. And I’ve just been crying all morning. I will continue taking my meds until my blood test, but it’s looking rather grim.

I only have 1 embryo left. I now go into the transfer with the horrible expectation that it will fail. I don’t want to and I always try to be positive but it’s just so hard.

We will change clinics if we don’t get pregnant with our exisiting embryos, find a new donor, and start the whole process all over again.

This process is so hard. I hate being in a position where I am told there is nothing else we can do but keep trying. Even my FS seemed defeated during our last transfer and was kind of giving vibes like she thought it wouldn’t work from the get go…

Has anyone been in a similar boat and then managed to get pregnant? Specifically those who have never been pregnant. What worked for you in the end?