Breakup, no-contact. Does it get better?
I (31F) broke up with my BPBF (30M) a month ago. I was hopeful it would be a temporary break that would allow him to stabilize and pursue treatment after some truly abusive episodes, but it’s been a living nightmare. We have stayed in touch - frankly, it was too hard not to given that he was living in my apartment, his continued outreach, and my heartbreak - and sometimes it’s been good and reasonable conversation, but other times it’s just been pure bipolar rage directed nonstop at me. He has threatened to hurt / kill himself multiple times because of the abandonment he feels and I called 911 yesterday after another threat. They did a wellness check and I texted his family to let them know and that he needs serious help (which I’ve done a few times without much response or acknowledgment.)
His family told me via text that “for everyone’s sake,” they need to cut ties with me, I need to stop communicating with him and them immediately and they “wish me the best.” Now that he’s moved out of my apartment, I know no-contact is the best route, and it’s helpful to have such a firm boundary set by his family (although I found their communication to be quite cold and hurtful given that I’ve been emotionally and financially supporting my ex through these kinds of crises for several months, before and after the breakup). I’m somewhat relieved to be forced out of the chaos, but I’m heartbroken about all the time and energy and hope I’ve lost, the future I wanted, and the emptiness I feel in my life.
Does it get better?