u/prinkaiqq

I saw them earlier but was busy and couldn’t watch them. Now they’re gone?

So I (31 f) have been with my husband (28 m) husband for 6 years. Prior to being with each other we were both into bdsm/DDlg. When we met we connected on a vanilla level, but then quickly found out about each others kinks. In the beginning things were great. We had a contract, rules, a schedule. Everything my little heart desired. He was the perfect Daddydom for me. Then things started falling off. Throughout the years we have put our dynamic on the back burner. We’d talk about rekindling it, and he would just not put the effort in, and that caused me to not put the effort in. We’d have spurts of dynamic, but then it would be ignored again.
Now we’re in a place where we haven’t had any dynamic outside the bedroom in over a year. Ive thrown some of my little gear away because it hurts to look at it and know where our dynamic stands currently.
Yesterday we had a pretty emotional discussion about how I miss it, but it hurts to even think about it, and how I’ve pushed that side of me down and locked it away.
He says he wants to fix it. He says he wants the dynamic that we had promised each other in the beginning. He doesn’t know where to start. He is asking me what he can do. But like I said I’ve pushed that side down so far that idek. Just thinking about it hurts. It’s been promise after promise of rekindling and doing things right with no change.
I have tried to initiate things just to be brushed off.
I guess my question is has anyone been in this situation and has anything helped?
Thanks.