u/purple-penguin1729

Sorry it's a long post.... Idk where else to put this up.

A little background - So I'm 23F and my mom is a single mother. My dad passed away 16yrs back. Amma doesn't work. We manage our income with the help of fixed deposit. I'm right now at home after internship preparing for pg exams.

My mom has three siblings. Two elder sisters and one younger brother. The eldest sister and her brother live together with his wife and children. My ammumma passed away 2 years back. The land that was once ammuma's was divided among the siblings a few years back. My uncle took evryone's land. He paid my mom's other elder sister who is a gem of a person 7 yrs back as she needed money for her daughter's marriage and under that same registration process took my mom's land under his name with the promise that he would pay her in a few years time during my marriage.

My uncle has never been that supportive of us. Even when my dad was sick, he came home once and took Amma's debit card and withdrew money for himself. He asks my mom for financial help, and Amma used to help him when my dad was alive but now after he passed away she hasn't been able to. He once asked her to lend him 1lakh and Amma couldn't cause we ourselves had taken a loan and uncle stopped talking to her and hadn't spoken for many years.

Not only is he like this wrt money, but he keeps screaming at her occasionally. Amma wanted ammumma to stay with us, but she really loved her only "son" and anytime she'd come here would long to go back and be with him. Once Amma went rushing to Kerala when ammumma fell sick and Amma didn't have money to come back home and she never even asked my uncle but he came and screwed her and told that she had to pay for all the hospital expenses and that even if she never has any money left she should walk back to Bangalore where we stay. He screams at her and have told me that I should never end up like my mom, who is a terrible person according to him. But my Amma is a very strong lady and being called my Amma's daughter is a compliment for me.

So here's the thing. My Amma asked for the money for the land cause she's worried about my pg seat. She asked him very nicely but he screamed at her.

My ug graduation happened a few months back and I had told them I'd call my family, but my college said that I could bring only two people extra so I called my 10thgrade tution aunty and one other neighbour uncle who would lend us money anytime we need urgent cash. My mom even called my uncle's wife up and explained the situation. But then my uncle and his wife left our family group, lashed out on me saying that I didn't have the decency to call him and I only care about my work and that I base my relationship with them based on money.

My mom now badly wants the money. My dad's side of the family is really sweet and they helped us financially for my online classes. But we'd appreciate getting the money that's rightfully my Amma's. Is there anything we can do ? My uncle keeps postponing the payment and anytime we'd ask he'd verbally abuse her. So any help would be appreciated.

I started going to the gym from yesterday!! Yes, I'm finally going and taking care of myself guys. It must be the adrenaline and endorphins talking but I feel really good.

And now I have a question.

What doyou guys eat to increase protein intake ?

Im a vegetarian so please suggest veg friendly options.

And how long did it take you all to see visible changes ?

And do you have any tips or advices for someone who is new to this ?

The great Dr. Jonas salk discovered the vaccine for polio and rolled it out patent free. Smart and kind, what a guy he was... And yet my role model is my very own amma.

And here's why...

My unit head, under whom I work was very curious about our culture and our cuisine. " Vellappam, what's that, I really wish I could try it " he said one day. I happened to casually tell this to my Amma and today she made vellappam for my entire unit, 20 of us. She woke up at 4, cooked us all vellappam , cooked me a seperate lunch too, and even dropped me to my work place. All by herself.

Amma didn't have a great life growing up. An abusive sister who tore her books, pulled her hair and who made sure she never married anyone cause marrying meant escape from her, marrying meant she was free. She stopped alot of proposals and the only one she accepted was the proposal from a guy 17 years older than amma and a divorcee - my dad. " 17 yrs older, divorcee, her life will be so sad " her sister thought. But my dad was the best dad. The marriage was Amma's way of escaping from the prison her sister once created. And so she fled..... Things went great for a really long time. A house to stay, food every single day and she had two pairs of chappals which was once considered a luxury growing up.

I lost my dad 16 years back. He had been sick even before that. My Amma took care of him, she would shuttle between the hospital where he was admitted and home to take care of me. Amma would make sure i had a breakfast to eat, she'd make sure I was never sad. She showed up to all my annual days, all my ptm meetings. I remember how it rained one day and i had forgotten to take my umbrella and all the kids' parents had come to pick them up. I was crying cause I knew Amma was with dad in the hospital. Yet somehow there she was. Running towards me with an umbrella.

My SuperAmma did everything possible to make sure I was happy.

Oh god, she'd screw if I didn't study and looking back I'm so happy she screwed me. I am successful, I am who I am because of my Amma.

She taught me to be kind, taught me never to enter a house empty handed . Taught me to always be respectful and yet stand your place when needed. Taught me to see everyone equally cause in the end we are all humans.

She herself learnt all this from my ammumma. She was a phenomenal lady herself. Raised 4 kids on her own.

I'm proud to say that I come from a matriarchial family.

Im proud to say that I'm my Amma's daughter.

Im proud to say that my role model is my SuperAmma

" person X can never love you. I know the type of girls he likes, and they all look hot. You are not that "

" Bro, you only wanna get into a relationship cause we all arein one. You are jealous of us "

" Bro, why do you keep studying so much. You know right there's life outside your field too. "

" I scored this this much, you should also score like me okay "

I once got an ear piercing a long time back and she had liked it then and had asked me from where I got it and how it felt . She eventually got one. A few months later when I went to her house she said - " wow, you also got a piercing like mine, nice "

One day when the friends group decided to meet I asked them if we could meet 2 days before my night duty that is on Saturday and not the day before, Sunday cause I didn't want two continuous sleepless nights. But then she told everyone that she wanted to meet on Sunday only cause on Saturday she has work till afternoon and so she won't be able to put make up and come dressed to the meeting that was supposed to be at night.

One of my close friends commented the above statements. I was sad, insecure for a long time. Always doubted myself, always felt I'd never be enough. That I won't be taken seriously, my needs are small.

I then started talking to her less and less day by day, stopped hanging out with those who'd tattle to her demands.

I now surround myself with people who tell me -

" I love your drawings, you should draw more, i feel so proud seeing them "

" Bro you are like my little sister, you mean a lot to me "

" Hey, i heard you fell sick, are you okay "

" Hey I hope you aren't overworking, health and sleep is more important"

" Bro I met your ex, what an asshole. You dodged a bullet and remember i love you okay " and proceeds to hug me.

" Me loves puffu" my goofy friend who calls me puffu

I'm happy around them, I'm dancing and singing around them. I feel beautiful around them. We motivate each other to study and aim higher and higher.

Choose your friends wisely guys