u/ratatouille211

It's a genius move, might be terrible for the general well-being of the nation but it's definitely working.

When any fuck up happens, the blame is shifted to bureaucrats and concerned minister which is fair but you know that phrase the buck stops with the boss.

Even in the recent CBSE case, I saw a group of parents hoping the PM would take notice and do the right thing. Like wow, dude you gotta be raging against the PM and his government but no, they wished the head of the family ( the honorable PM ) would discipline the errant members of the family ( the Education minister ).

The news is shaped like that. The news goes like " The PM is not happy with CBSE " ok good but it's his government and his ministers, and their bureaucrats.

I see the very visible parallel of how a traditional Indian family works. The head of the family, the patriarch, is exempt from any accountability. The members of the family are allowed everything till the patriarch does not intervene.

When things go terribly wrong, the patriarch disciplines the guilty party, and lives to see another day.

You know when did I realize this, the PM is the Amrish Puri version of the movie Hulchul. Ofcourse, it's hyperbole but it's kinda true.

Sooner or later, the very family is brought down by the "nalayak" offsprings. History is full of such stories how those who build an empire lost it all because they didn't realize their own blood is worthless.

I wonder which minister - who was loved ( at least admired ) 2 years back is now hated for his very weird sugarcane obsession which somehow is making millions for his offspring. I'm sure you all are smart enough to make you own realizations.

The good thing about reading history is it always repeats in some form or other.

It's a genius move, might be terrible for the general well-being of the nation but it's definitely working.

When any fuck up happens, the blame is shifted to bureaucrats and concerned minister which is fair but you know that phrase the buck stops with the boss.

Even in the recent CBSE case, I saw a group of parents hoping the PM would take notice and do the right thing. Like wow, dude you gotta be raging against the PM and his government but no, they wished the head of the family ( the honorable PM ) would discipline the errant members of the family ( the Education minister ).

The news is shaped like that. The news goes like " The PM is not happy with CBSE " ok good but it's his government and his ministers, and their bureaucrats.

I see the very visible parallel of how a traditional Indian family works. The head of the family, the patriarch, is exempt from any accountability. The members of the family are allowed everything till the patriarch does not intervene.

When things go terribly wrong, the patriarch disciplines the guilty party, and lives to see another day.

You know when did I realize this, the PM is the Amrish Puri version of the movie Hulchul. Ofcourse, it's hyperbole but it's kinda true.

Sooner or later, the very family is brought down by the "nalayak" offsprings. History is full of such stories how those who build an empire lost it all because they didn't realize their own blood is worthless.

I wonder which minister - who was loved ( at least admired ) 2 years back is now hated for his very weird sugarcane obsession which somehow is making millions for his offspring. I'm sure you all are smart enough to make you own realizations.

The good thing about reading history is it always repeats in some form or other.

I can only speak for my lived experiences, and my circle, talking with people around the same profile. This isn't going to be valid for all - because India is too diverse - and thus there's no absolute right or wrong.

In my bubble ( Bangalore, corporate job ), girls are definitely not that eager to marry. Even I'm not that eager to marry but I have had talks with colleagues, acquaintance & couple of girls I went out with on dates and what they have told me makes total sense. These are all 27 - 28 or above with at least an undergrad degree. Many have MBA degrees.

They are all earning like 10+ LPA or above. Some of them are pulling in 20+. They value their freedom a hell lot more than marriage. The ability to go out once an year to a trip with their friends is a privilege everyone should have. They are perhaps the first woman in their family living independently and making money. Think of that, they are literally chopping unprecedented waters as far as their family is concerned. Their mothers, grandmothers never had this. They never had their money.

This group of women don't really need a guy just to marry. Why would they? Dating is easy for them, and they will never run of matches no matter how late. Unless they have a massive desire of motherhood, they aren't going to " settle " so to speak. Even the ones who want to be mother know they can't afford to have a bad marriage.

Coming to physical needs, let's be clear there, girls don't ever have a problem there. I can't really elaborate that without being crass.

And, you know after all this talk with bunch of them who are in same position as me more or less in corporate ladder, I agree with them. Would I risk my job, freedom & mental peace for a lottery of AM? Absolutely not.

AM is mostly dead for these girls unless they find someone much better than themselves, and frankly that subset of guys don't really grow on trees. It's much easy to tune out your family when you don't ask for a single rupee from your family.

People having agencies on their own life is a good thing because I for sure wouldn't give mine away. It's definitely getting tougher for guys to marry and that's alright.

It applies to me too, see I like to have some drinks & while I detest cigarettes and won't allow anyone to smoke in my flat, I twice or thrice an year, light up a joint. I wouldn't want to have someone who'd stop me from doing that. I didn't get a job, move out, worked all these years only to be parented again. I guess this same logic works for women again.

I am also CF, don't want kids, and this also is a hard filter for me.

Now, my life has taught me that a good relationship is pretty fun, but your own identity is more important. You should NOT be dependent on anyone, you will get emotionally molested, if that's the case.

My mom does ask me why I am not willing to talk to some prospects, but I can't say this to her directly, she knows about my exes and strongly suspects I've been with women and tells me to tell her, but I'd have if I found a person like that. My last relationship was with someone I randomly found online & she was all sort of amazing but yeah... you know what.

It might not work out for me, I get that, I've fears too, but I've much larger fear of not finding peace in my own home which I am not strong enough to deal with. I've my cat, you know, she would make my life hell if she didn't get comfort she is used to. I'm just kidding, she does NOT care one bit about me. I should get a dog.

Back in hometown for few weeks, and why do I never see a stray cat? There are like 2000 stray dogs for a cat and while I understand cats are much more stealthier ( and, ofcourse resourceful & majestic ), the lack of cats makes me kinda sad.

Bangalore is full of them, so is Mumbai, so in Bhubaneswar.

I've read somewhere that places where people are mean to animals have fewer cattos and sigh, that's sad.

I want cats who ignore me when I go to pet them.

Where are they?!