Hi everyone :)
I am adopted from China and have always wanted to get my Chinese name tattooed on me. I was hoping someone could help me with the characters for my name.
My Chinese name is Qing Na. I’m not 100% sure what it translates to or what it means.
If anyone has some more in depth information about my name, I would love to know!
Hi everyone :)
I am adopted from China and have always wanted to get my Chinese name tattooed on me. I was hoping someone could help me with the characters for my name.
My Chinese name is Qing Na. I’m not 100% sure what it translates to or what it means.
If anyone has some more in depth information about my name, I would love to know!
Hi everyone :)
I am adopted from China and have always wanted to get my Chinese name tattooed on me. I was hoping someone could help me with the characters for my name.
My Chinese name is Qing Na. I’m not 100% sure what it translates to or what it means.
If anyone has some more in depth information about my name, I would love to know!
Hi everyone :)
I am adopted from China and have always wanted to get my Chinese name tattooed on me. I was hoping someone could help me with the characters for my name.
My Chinese name is Qing Na. I’m not 100% sure what it translates to or what it means.
If anyone has some more in depth information about my name, I would love to know!
Am I actually toxic? I (F24) and my bf (M25) have been together for a little over a year. We don’t live together but we do try to hang out when we can. Up until recently, I was in grad school and working so I had either school or work to do 7 days a week so I had very little free time. In between some of those months, there were time when he would hang out with his friends and ask me if I wanted to hang out later. I would ask about times and such because I am a very busy person. He would be out with his friends for over an hour after the time he would give me. I told him that it hurt my feelings when he would make plans with me and then completely ignore them (that’s what it seemed like to me). He would tell me that I’m controlling and eventually would just tell me that he won’t hang out with his friends if it’s such an issue. I told him that the issue was not him being out with friends but making plans with them and then making plans with me and not communicating that he would be out with them longer. He would never apologize and when he did it would be something along the lines of “I’m sorry you feel that way” which to me is not an apology.
I talked to him about why, to me, that doesn’t feel like an apology and it’s placing blame on how I am feeling. He didn’t really care and told me that he wasn’t even sorry in the first place because there wasn’t anything to be sorry about. We’ve had many arguments leading up to today about how certain interactions or scenarios hurt my feelings and what behavior/action hurt my feelings. Every single time, he gets defensive and tells me that he didn’t mean to hurt my feelings. I acknowledge that I didn’t think he would purposely try to hurt my feelings but he doubles down and goes on to ask me “why is it an issue then?”
I’ve tried to explain to him multiple times about why I think it’s important to talk things out so that we can work on things. His response to that was that I am always getting my feelings hurt and always blaming him. I told him that I don’t feel like I am blaming him but could understand why it seems that way. I explained that I am blaming an action or behavior but not him as a whole, he then went on to tell me that i am always controlling what he does, and who he can see, and what he’s allowed to do and i tried to explain that it’s never about the people he is with but the way he treats me when he’s out with them. again his solution to all of these “problems” is to just tell me he won’t hang out with them or he just will stop making plans with them or he will always just cancel them.
fast forward to today, he had plans to go out with his friend (m24) and i was free so i asked if this was just a him and his friend thing or if other people were going. he told me that one of their coworkers (f21) was invited by his friend. his follow up to that was “i guess you can come if you want to”. I told him it sounded like he didn’t want me to go and he said the same thing”you can come if you want”. i told him i wasn’t comfortable with him going out with this girl that i don’t know and his response to that was “then i just won’t go and it won’t be an issue”
i told him he could go it just feels weird that you’re going out with a girl i don’t know. he told me it felt like i didn’t want him to go and that he didn’t want to talk about it anymore and he felt like i was making a big deal out of nothing. i tried to explain that i just wasn’t comfortable with him going out with this girl because i don’t know her and he proceeded to tell me that he was strictly going just to hang out with his friend. and i told him i understood that but it wasn’t just him and his friend going. (he still is arguing with me that it was just him and his friend going and their coworker was just gonna be there)
this whole thing turned into an argument because he didn’t want to talk about it but then would continue to talk about it after i told him i wasn’t upset with him. this turned into him being upset at me because he really want to go with just him and his friend and he didn’t want me there. and my response to that was that it wasn’t just him and his friend and he argued with me that it was. i tried to talk to him about it and he kept giving me attitude and saying backhanded comments and questions. he then proceeded to tell me that i’m toxic and that i’m always trying to control what he’s allowed to do. (he even told me he would quit his job if it was such an issue)
i feel like i am crazy and am missing something but i don’t know what? am i toxic? like i seriously am trying to understand but i can’t wrap my head around it.