r/AskAChinese

I dated a Chinese girl that grew up in Shenyang and moved to the UK when she was about 9 years old. We've been dating for about a year and have had some great times together.

We recently started looking for a place to rent out. For context, we both went to uni, have decent jobs and I make slightly more than her. We spoke about how we'd work structurally, and I was ready to take on the provider role as it's important to her culturally. However, she also expects me to take on half of the household duties, including cooking and cleaning. And she goes by the 'her money is her money, and my money is her money' standard. Whilst I wanted to take on the traditional role, I would only do that if she also acted as a traditional woman, which she made abundantly clear she wasn't willing to do. I felt blindsided by this, and felt that she was simply picking the parts of Chinese and Western culture that suited her, whilst dismissing any accountability on her.

After a lot of discussion, I called it off and blocked her. Did I dodge a bullet or have I messed up?

So I have a guy friend who is Chinese (I'm a foreign girl )for a year now , and he texts me everyday and shares meme with me , and talks to be constantly, on free days we go out together (not in group just us) as well and he takes me to different kind of chinese restaurant to try different dishes. He has even shared about his life story. When we meet in person we can't stop talking for like 6 hours straight.

I know he is constantly using a dating app because he tells me how he is talking to this gurl and that girl , but is this normal or he has some other motives .

Hello! I'm planning a trip to China from Sept. 17th-Oct. 5th this year. Here's my current itinerary:

Hong Kong Sept. 17-20 (2 Full Days, 3 Nights)

Zhangjiajie Sept. 20-23 (2 Full Days, 3 Nights)

Chongqing Sept. 23-26 (2 Full Days, 3 Nights)

Xi'an Sept. 26-28 (1 Full Day, 2 Nights) - thinking of removing Xi'an and flying right to Bejing...?

Beijing Sept. 28-Oct. 2 (3 Full Days, 4 Nights)

Shanghai Oct. 2-5 (2 Full Days, 3 Nights)

Is this too fast-paced or just right? I'm worried with the train times between Chongqing-Xi'an and Xi'an to Beijing being 5+ hours each trip will consume a lot of the time I have in China just on sitting on a train, which I don't mind, but figure if I remove Xi'an from the itinerary I can add an extra day to Beijing and Chongqing or Shanghai.

Is removing Xi'an the right idea or a bad one, and has anybody done a route similar to this?

First time in China for me as well travelling from Canada and I'm not fluent in Mandarin so I'm not 100% sure what to expect and how difficult getting from place to place will be for me.

Thanks for the advice!

Hey! I'm a Chinese girl living in Shanghai. I've dated both Chinese guys and foreigners, traveled to like 30 countries, and lived abroad for years. I love sharing dating tips with my friends. I'm just super into understanding how international dating works.

I know Chinese girls and boys really well, especially when it comes to dating across cultures. So if you have any questions about dating in China or how Chinese people think about relationships differently, just ask!

I'm happy to help. 💕

大家好！想请中文母语者帮忙做一个小型角色命名测试。

这是一个国际儿童媒体项目。主角 CosmoBuilder 是一位遨游宇宙的超级英雄。他主要不是战士，而是建造者、创造者和发明家：通过制造工具、设备和各种结构来解决问题，强调创造而非破坏。

在看备选名之前，您会怎样为这个角色取一个自然、适合动画、电影和电子游戏的中文名？

我们的暂定选项是：

A. 星际创侠

B. 星创侠

C. 星际建造侠

想请教：

1. 哪个最自然？

2. 每个名称会让您联想到什么？

3. 在日常交流中，尤其是孩子们，可能会怎么简称这些名字？

4. 有哪个听起来奇怪、好笑或带有负面含义吗？

5. 您会提出更好的名字吗？

非常感谢！

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English summary:

CosmoBuilder is a space-travelling builder, creator, and inventor superhero for an international children’s media project. He solves problems by making tools, devices, and structures rather than destroying things.

Before seeing the candidates, what Chinese name would you naturally give him? Our current options are 星际创侠, 星创侠, and 星际建造侠. Which sounds most natural, what associations or possible abbreviations do they have, does any sound strange or negative, and can you suggest a better name?

麻辣烫 is very popular in my country, but what do local Chinese people think about it?

Where can you see linux desktops used compared to window desktops? (In universities or?)

中国人为什么歧视海外的华人？对海外的华人特别的不礼貌。比如有人被种族袭击了之类的，这种事件发生，然后下面有人评论都是活该什么的，这个那个的。

然后不光是海外华人，就是你说按说是，比如说你拿了绿卡了，就你加入国籍了，确实就是中国政府不管你了，你就是成为外国公民。但是就是留学生，还同时，就是留学生在海外被人欺负了，然后下面也是这个，谁叫你出国的？谁叫你出去的？活该，全是这种的。

I am British Born Chinese female in my late 20s, living in the UK. Just wondering how I can meet more Chinese men. I want to find love and settle down someday but I’m struggling to find someone to connect with. Do you guys have dating apps or anything, I don’t want anything long distance, UK only. Please comment or message me.

i’m moving to china for uni from europe and i’m curious about how the “smoking culture” is different? are there specific things and signs of “politeness” i need to know? additionally, is iqos a thing there? is vaping seen as okay?

edit: i will be in shanghai for a few weeks and then move to beijing for my studies so these are the cities im most interested in. additionally, if you know any good chinese brands lmk so i can try them out

I have a friend from China who told me that it was easier for him to learn fluent Japanese in two years with courses than it was for him to learn English in his entire life as a school subject. Is this common?

Which brand of instant hot water faucet is the best? I am in China, but I don't mind using foreign brand.

I’m looking for something cost-effective for use in a bathroom. It’s currently connected to a wall-mounted boiler, but I’ve found that the boiler takes too long to heat the water.

It's not for shower only for wash face and hands.

I (28M) recently had a disagreement with my Chinese girlfriend (25F) about boundaries with male friends.

To be clear, nothing has actually happened, but we were discussing hypotheticals regarding friends of the opposite sex. I mentioned to her that, moving forward, I would not be comfortable if she were to hang out one-on-one with a male friend in a private space (like her apartment or his apartment) behind closed doors. I emphasized that I have no problem at all with her hanging out with male friends in public.

She disagreed with my boundary and told me that doing this is completely normal in Chinese culture. She said that men and women frequently hang out alone in private spaces even when they are in a committed relationship, and that I am being unusual for having an issue with it.

I am not very familiar with Chinese cultural norms, so I wanted to ask people here. Is this truly a common and accepted practice in Chinese culture? I want to understand her perspective better and not judge it purely from my own cultural lens, but I'm unsure if this is a cultural difference or just her personal view.

Not about the current government but how do Chinese folks view the history of the United States generally?