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I'm realizing how few restaurants I can go to now and it makes me pretty sad. Everywhere my partner and I love to go is off the table now. No vegan foods. There is one known fully vegan restaurant in our city and every menu item is very complicated (lots of stuff and weird textures) and I feel offput by it. I just want some normal ass pancakes that are also vegan. Why is every vegan place a health nut place as well? And why is every "vegan option" at normal restaurants just basically a boring salad?

I've been transitioning to a plant-based diet for the past month or so, but what really sealed the deal on going vegan was watching Dominion. The thought of eating meat or dairy now makes me sick. But seeing my partner and our roommate eating meat and dairy is also making me feel pretty repulsed. I feel upset, and I'm worried about this causing a resentment to build up on my end. My partner is a leftist and they agree with my thoughts about veganism being the ethical choice, but they say they can't go vegan and last night said they won't watch Dominion (because I expressed interest in having them watch it) because they've already watched similar documentaries years ago and that they "just feel bad". They say that they can't restrict their diet because of their ED struggles and that when they tried to be vegetarian years ago it ended up being an excuse for them to eat less so they're worried these things are a slippery slope for them and that they need to just not think about food stuff. I understand this but it still feels like an excuse. Being vegan is not that hard.. most of what they enjoy is bread and hummus anyway. I'm just struggling to fully understand, as someone with Anorexia myself. And they were saying that everyone has different capacity for changes like this and that they can be uncomfortable. I feel like real change requires being uncomfortable. If we centered our comfort all the time, no hard changes would ever come. They're so against the status quo, but in this case it feels like they refuse to even try to challenge it. I feel hopeless because I want to feel less alone in this and I thought my partner at least would be willing to try with me, but I also don't want to be controlling. It's just hard because I feel like nobody else I know is willing to do the right thing with me. How do you cope with these feelings?

I also feel like being upset makes me a hypocrite because I didn't magically 100% become vegan overnight. I ate meat pretty recently (KFC) before watching the documentary and I am still struggling with certain things. Like my yogurt (one of my main ED safe foods) contains dairy but I haven't found a non-dairy one with the same nutritional information. But I am trying. I just feel like I'm being a hypocrite too :(

I've recently been diagnosed with HSD (possibly hEDS, but my pcp says she needs to do more testing at my next appointment to be sure), and my partner got me a Nova walker (it was an available free resource from their medic group) to help me walk easier with my knee and ankle problems. I've been curious to try a walker, and I appreciate it so much; but when I tried it, I immediately felt discomfort in my arms. My forearms, elbows, and shoulders. I imagine it could also hurt my wrists over time. Should I just look into braces for my arms, or is a walker not an option for me? I can't get good braces right now for my knees hyperextension :( Im just worried that it isn't worth the slight pain relief in my legs to put so much weight on my arms. But I really want the walker so that I can take breaks and sit down during walks and outings.

I'm curious if anyone has good experience with any cheap knee braces from Walmart. I've found out recently that I'm hypermobile and suspected to have EDS (not yet diagnosed) and my knees hyperextend and hurt when standing. When I try to stand normal, my knees feel unstable and wobbly, and it hurts. My doctor told me to get a simple compression brace. Are those actually helpful? Which ones are the best? Walmart is definitely the most accessible option for me atm. Thank you!

I'm very tired of people - in relation to any hobby - treating newbies like shit when they ask questions in spaces like these. It's annoying enough by itself, but especially at this time. We should be celebrating attempts to learn a new skill and welcoming someone who is actually coming to other human beings to ask questions. What do you think that acting like a d*ck will do? Make more people interested in the skill or hobby you supposedly care so much about? It will push people away. It will push people to resort to asking chatGPT how to code their website. By pushing newbies out because your ego is so massive and you need to feel like your hobby is special and unique and that you're so special for being good at it, you are effectively killing this hobby, and killing the indie web. Get OVER yourself and help new folks have fun with the thing that brings you joy. Jesus christ.

I was just diagnosed with HSD (possibly have EDS but my doctor said we need more appointments to be sure), and I want to get knee braces that prevent my knees from hyperextending because I can't just stand like that on my own and I've been having lots of knee pain and discomfort when standing and walking. When I brought up braces, she didn't even tell me getting it prescribed was an option. She just showed me some options I should look into on Amazon🤦🏻‍♂️ so I'm not even sure how to go about getting them and having it covered by insurance, hopefully. But even if I could, I'm worried that I would need new braces often (which would be a big problem if it couldn't be covered by insurance, as I'm on SSI and can't afford that) because I also have chronic Anorexia Nervosa. I'm currently relapsed and losing weight rapidly. I go in and out of recovery so my weight kinda yo-yos between a high and low weight sometimes. If I were to get a custom fit knee brace right now, I may keep losing weight very fast, or go into recovery again at some point and gain weight, and either of these would mean the braces wouldn't fit anymore. Is there a solution I'm not seeing? And please do not just say "just recover" because that's not helpful. It's much more complicated than that. This is my situation and I'm trying to work around it best I can right now.

I need to make a doctor's appointment, but the section on the patient portal website for booking a new appointment is bugged. It has two categories that just don't work as they don't allow you to click any options but they are both required boxes before you can book the appointment (Facility and Provider). I had this whole thing typed out for the "Reason for visit" and "Message" ... I find it necessary to provide the information and context which I cannot do over the phone. I literally cannot make myself verbally say all of it. It just can't happen. What do I do? Am I just fucked?

I'd usually not post in here a conflict I'm having as it feels possibly rude to the other person involved, but I genuinely don't know if I'm in the wrong here and I want advice.

I (22M) and my partner (21), just got into a short argument over our air conditioning. We have one of those portable window ones, as it gets up to 90 degrees in the summer where we live. This summer, it's started to randomly turn off. At first, it wasn't often, but recently it seems to turn off constantly throughout the day. We've assumed it's an outlet issue. When we mess with the cord or plug it back in, it turns back on. But I've noticed it seems to make the room less cold on the same temperature setting lately (something my partner and our roommate don't agree with, so maybe I'm just making that up) and the usual noises are not consistent. Nobody else notices.

I came out of the shower, and it was pretty hot which overwhelmed me as I had turned the A/C back on before, and it had immediately turned itself back off again while I was gone. We got it back on but I commented about how it sounded more quiet than usual and how we should maybe consider that something in the A/C could be broken, not just the outlet. My partner didn't seem to take that seriously, because they kept insisting it's just the outlet, and said we should try getting an extension cord. I got a bit frustrated because I felt like they were ignoring what I said and didn't even want to humor the idea that the A/C could have a problem and discuss with me how we could figure that out. They got upset and said they did give me an idea (the extension cord) but kept insisting that it isn't any problem with the A/C. They also said that they've already said everything useful they could and that it was my turn to put out an idea. I kept trying to tell them that it seemed like they were ignoring me/not taking me seriously and that what they said was dismissive. They said "no, you *felt* ignored. That doesn't mean I did anything." They kept asking me why I expexted them to come up with a solution, which I said wasn't what I was saying at all.

I eventually got so fed up and overwhelmed by the conversation that I left to our bedroom. We're all supposed to have movie night in a bit, and I don't even want to be around them right now. It feels like whenever we have an argument, they refuse to admit that they said something dismissive and it makes me feel crazy.

I want to clarify that this is my perception of the event, and I'm not intending to make my partner look bad at all or assume bad intentions. I want to know if I went about it wrong or if how they reacted was actually dismissive to what I was saying. And how can I resolve it when they won't see where I'm coming from?

Update: They came into the room trying to talk more about it. I apologized because I came at them in an overwhelming way while they were in the middle of a game, so that was my bad. But they still refuse to believe that they said anything dismissive and I still believe they did. They said it seems like I was just generally irritable and they couldn't have said anything right anyway, and that it seems like I'm just feeling dismissed and putting things on their words that aren't real. I get that their intention was probably not to ignore or dismiss me, but I don't understand why they can never admit that they said a dismissive thing anyway. I don't get why they immediately defend themself and don't care that they are making me feel this way. It makes me feel genuinely crazy. They left to hangout with our roommate in the middle of the conversation so I guess they're gonna hangout without me.

So I already had Rockbox installed and it was completely fine. I had a theme and it was fine. I installed the original software again just to see if I'd actually like that better now, and I didn't like how playlists work and stuff so I decided to install Rockbox again. But everytime I install it, my Mp3 won't power on at all. No matter what I try. The only thing that gets it to turn on is just installing the original software again. I don't understand what's going wrong when I had Rockbox just before and it was fine.

The ones I've tried to install are:

• 0.4 (240p)

• 0.3 (240p)

• 0.5 (360p)

I don't want to try a nightly build because I heard someone say they are complicated if you "don't know what you're doing". I'm not sure which version I had installed previously. I don't even know what theme I had, it was so long ago. What do I do?

I have been living with my partner and their (now our) friend for over a year. We're all in our early 20s.

When I first started to come over here often, before moving in, I would occasionally do a big chore that needed to be done just to help out. Cleaning a sink full of dishes that had left to get gross for a while or general de-cluttering. It made me feel nice to do something kind for my partner.

But once I started to be over more consistently and was transitioning into moving in, the cleaning felt less like I was doing a favor and more like an obligation. Both my partner and friend would thank me for it every time, and say that I was so wonderful for helping out.

I started to build some resentment as I was fully moved in because now this was my space too, and I want to be comfortable in the space, but I'm the only one who even notices a mess or even something being straight up gross, and wants to clean it. I've talked to my partner and friend about this a lot, and we even tried a chore chart that ultimately fell apart as nobody did the chores, and now it hasn't been touched since April.

I'm depressed and exhausted, so it's hard for me to take care of everything. So things go uncleaned for a while until I get the energy and motivation to clean it. But still, I'm the only one making an effort to maintain anything. And I don't know what to do. I know that if I ask either of them to clean something, they would if they were able, but I don't feel like I should have to constantly ask them to help me clean our apartment. We're all adults. I feel like if they can't see or notice the problem, then they should figure that out rather than just letting me deal with it all because I notice it.

My mental health is inpacted negatively by such a dirty and cluttered space, but I can't be the only one maintaining the space. What do I do?

I'm 22, and I feel like my brain is mush and any wonder and creativity that I had in my childhood is completely gone. I feel like a shell of a person.

When I was a kid, I could read books so fast. I was constantly reading and engaged. I kept journals and actually wrote in them every day. I wrote whatever came to mind, and so much did come to mind. Nothing comes to mind anymore. I feel like I'm broken. I try to keep a journal and I forget about it just a few pages in, nothing to write about. I try to write songs, but I can't come up with a single lyric. I can't write ANYTHING. I have books on my shelf that I barely ever touch, no matter how badly I want to read them. I can't focus on anything too long, unless I'm driven by impulse or novelty.

Before you say so - yes, I am pretty sure I have ADHD. But all of these problems were MUCH less prevalent when I was younger. You couldn't get me to be able to pay attention to anything uninteresting to me, but I could fixate on my favorite book series at the time and get through them within 2 days. My head was clear, and I felt like I was actually awake. Alive. I just don't really anymore. I feel like a dead person walking around and pretending to live a life. I feel so cloudy and just,, not here.

I have very bad phone/computer addiction, like everyone, and I know this is probably the main source of this. I own a flip phone to take out with me so that I don't have to be tied to my smartphone, but I haven't been able to fully move away from it, and I have no idea how to regulate my computer time. But either way, I don't even know if I can get those qualities back. If I can get my brain back. I feel so broken and hopeless. Can I be like I was before? Is there hope?

I swear, I have some kind of reverse seasonal depression. I have pretty bad heat insensitivity, so all summer, I'm restricted in what I can do and where I can go, so I can get into a really bad place from being so isolated. Our apartment is TINY and we only have a window AC in the living room, so if our room gets too hot, we have to spend the entire day stuck in one room. The living room is small, and it sucks. I get irritable easily from this situation, and I worry that the summer has potential to fuck up my relationships as I'm cooped up with my partner all the time and can't leave to hangout with anyone else for months. We don't drive, so walking and bus is the only way we can go anywhere. I have no clue how to cope and I dread summer every year.. and because of climate change it'll only get worse and worse :(

I'm just wondering if there's any known places you can busk without cops harassing you for it?

I'd like to make an official report of this person, but I couldn't see her nametag, and I haven't run into her since this incident.

On May 2nd, at around 10:37pm, on the Emx going from Commerce Station (by the Walmart on West 11th) to the Eugene Station, a female transit officer with brown hair tied into a ponytail started harassing a highschool girl because she couldn't pay for the bus ride. By "harassing," I mean cornering her and intimidating her until she started crying. This girl was very obviously a teenager and said she was a student but she hadn't had much time to pick up her student pass due to a bad situation at home. To which the officer replied, "Well then, I guess you're not really a student, are you?"

My partner had got up and walked over to ask if they could just pay for her pass. The officer tried to stand between them and the girl and said that doing so would be "bribery." They walked past her to ask the driver about it (to which he said "oh, that's weird") but said he couldn't interfere or take cash payments. So my partner got off at the next stop to buy her a pass. The officer had apparently called on 3 other transit officers to help intimidate the girl and threaten to arrest her. One of them tried to lecture my partner (for being kind, I guess), and then after a bit, the 3 of them left except for the original officer. She continued to corner and berate the girl - even after she now had a pass - until we got to her stop.

I've seen this particular woman multiple times, and she's always being extremely mean and unprofessional. LTD will not get back to me about the situation.

I put the code in that it gave me but I get an error on neocities that says "Named entity expected. Got none." Google says to replace every & symbol with "&" to fix it, but it's not registering as anything on my site when I do that. Just completely blank. I'm confused because earlier when I first pasted the code, even with the error, it was appearing on my site like normal. Now it isn't. But how do I fix it and get rid of the error? This is the code:

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