u/realsonofeden

Kinda ashamed to post here, but it's gotten to a point I don't feel good about myself anymore. If the tag is wrong just change it, I won't be offended.

DISCLAIMER
I want to start by saying that anyone who will jump in to give me "go to a psychiatrist/psychologist" or "google is free" will be blocked. Same for any emergency numbers, I've done all that, they said I was faking, lying or accused me of some other crap I don't care to remember.
I have been in therapy for years, I still am for god knows what reason, and they don't care.
All they "did" was give a diagnosis and call it a day. And all the google stuff never worked either ("keep hands occupied" type of stuff.)

Now that that's out of the way...

I've had it for as long as I can rememeber, I used to bite my nails too though luckily after years of failures I've found a way myself to completley recover from it (painting my nails works, I have really long nails now!) so I'm not a hopeless case contrary to what psychs tell me every appointment... I was able to reduce the pulling somehow before, but I still always pulled. I'd occasionally get small bald patches, but usually nothing big, I could easily hide it if I'd move my hair around a bit...

However, today I've seen myself in the mirror and I noticed I have a very large bald spot, up to the point that I don't have any hair in the middle of my head at all. I look like saturn. I know this sounds funny, but really that just makes me feel like an ugly freak. I already know my so called "family" will bully the fuck out of me once the sun goes up, probably even more than they usually do, too... so I don't need any nasty comments. Even then I still I can't really stop it, and comments usually make it worse.

I don't know why I do it, I don't know what's wrong with me either. My mother has even caught me pulling while I was asleep before too, on multiple occasions.

I'm tired of having it. I've tried everything. Their dumb meds. The distractions "strategies". The "therapies". Nothing works, and it just makes me feel worse, and I still always pull...

However, seeing some of the posts, how people have overcome it, does make it feel a bit less "forever" than it did before I came here... So I was thinking, maybe, some of you guys, who found ways to stop could share, please?

I don't have the courage to open these posts though, I'll admit it. I'm not even sure if I'll be able to visit this post again should anyone comment, I feel like I'll just delete it... I've already been on this screen for about an hour, contemplating whether this is even appropriate to post or not. This is my only reddit account and I don't really want to get banned...
Well, I suppose the attempt still matters. I'm not doing "nothing" after all...

I have a trans MtF friend, and she's really uncomfortable in her body.
Whenever she looks down at herself she feels really unwell, and we were wondering if there's such a thing like binders for "down there".

She doesn't have reddit so I'm asking for her.
She's also a minor and closeted so please keep that in mind.

Anything to make her feel less terrible is greatly appreciated.<3

Edit: my wifi bugged and I thought my first post didn't post, so there's 2 of the same from me... Apologies!

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I've been having issues with this one refund, it kept bugging out and eventually the period expired. I still got through to them by E-Mail, where they've requested pictures - I sent them.

Despite the issue being obvious, they stated that the proof isn't "enough" to prove that the product is indeed not as described - which is the whole issue.

On the product listing, it's a long jacket with strings.
What I've received was cropped and had no string - you can't have a more obvious difference.

So, how do I get through to them?

Some backstory: my "luck" with refunds is 30/70, I've tried a total of 3 times (this one included), one they insisted I return the item, which I refused as shipping anything to china is an insane amount of money, and reading through the forums I know there's no guarantee I'd get anything back at all, another item I got a full refund no problem almost instantly, no need for return with a commment saying "good purchase history"... the current one one, on the other hand, is another tricky situation.

What do I do?

TLDR; Proof is good quality, AE says it doesn't "show the problem" despite being an obvious mismatch from the listing. What now?