u/reskort-123

Due to some issues in my childhood, I have developed the sense that my presence is never wanted with individuals or groups. At some point my closest friends have shunned me from the friend group for absolutely no reason on their own admittance, and this has shaped the person I am today.

Whenever I see someone who I am on friendly terms with I always assume that me saying good morning to them will not make a difference to them and might even annoy them. Even when people are hanging out in a group, I think to myself that they already have their own thing going, what can I possibly add to them?

I am very conflicted with my thoughts. On one hand I feel like people wont care if im there or not, or whether I say hello or talk to them. On the other hand, I am worried that this might be considered rude. Its just that I dont want to be the person who is always there and cant detect when their presence isnt wanted.

So Ive noticed this issue a few times when I play that I tend to lose sight of the ball when its in the back two corners. If I hit a tight shot, not necessarily touching the wall, and I just stand on the T I have no idea where the ball is and end up reacting late. Im able to read the next shot really well based on people’s swing but in these two corners im blind

Should I aim to stand a bit more to the right/left just to see the ball even if it puts me at a disadvantage to reacting to the boast or crosscourt?

I had this situation happen to me a few months back that im starting to overthink now. Basically, I met this woman at work that works in a different office when she came over for a company event. Our interaction went like this

Day 1: asked for her name and met her, exchanged some small talk and thats it

Day 2: had a bit of a longer talk, maybe 5 minutes or so. We talked about work for a bit and I threw a joke here and there. Nothing too much though

On both day 1 and 2 I would she was being friendly Day 3 : no contact as we were in separate departments for the eveny

Day 4: This is where I get confused. She looked visibly annoyed at me whenever our eyes crossed. She was presenting something, then I told her it was a nice presentation. She seemed very cold in that interaction. The whole team went out for a few drinks in which people socialized with each other. She seemed fine with everyone else, but when I just look at her she looks pissed. When I say look I mean 4 or 5 times across 4 hours, and not intentionally either its just when you make eye contact with someone naturally.

Now I know for a fact that I didnt annoy her, or say anything offensive, so what is the reason for this insane shift in demeanor towards me?

Whenever I walk into a public place that has women who are attractive and dressed well I always feel extremely down. Like I could walk into a restaurant or a bar and look around and think to myself that none of these people find me good looking. And even if I tried to strike up a conversation with one of them then I would just get shut down.

I genuinely have no idea where I stand on the attractiveness scale, but given that I dont get many looks from women I just assume that im below average. I dont know how do I change my thinking and maybe give myself a little credit. Im just stuck in this cycle of self loathing that I dont know how to get out of

To start off, im not from the UK, I moved to the Uk 6 years ago and a year ago to Manchester. People here are very friendly and have been soo nice to me in a way i dont think I’ve experienced before. But I just feel like I can only go so far in terms of forming friendships. I always get the feeling that people arent always 100% comfortable around me. Not in a sense that I make people uncomfortable, more like they are overly nice to me in a way that makes me skeptical of how authentic it is.

I cannot put my hand on what it is, because I am social with them and im able to hold conversations as good as the people born here so its not like a language barrier thing. I guess I just wanted some input as to whether this is normal or not, do people consciously treat people who are born here differently or am I seeing things? I feel like I am overthinking things, but something feels off at times.

So this is one of the things I genuinely have never been able to understand about myself. I have a pretty active lifestyle that mainly includes squash and the gym. I treat my body well, as in I stretch properly before every session, I strengthen my body in the gym, I run and ghost for conditioning, and I eat clean to fuel my body. Despite all of this I still get injured quite often, and by that I mean I can maybe sit a month out for injuries every 6 months.

I have no idea what I might be doing wrong, even others who get injured dont sit out for nearly as long as I do. So what am I meant to do to stop this? Obviously I dont mean dont get injured at all but the frequency as to how often it happens to me is insane. Is there a piece of the equation that im missing? I like to think I play at a pretty decent level, around 6-7k squash levels if that helps with anything.

Ive had some groin pain when playing for about 3 weeks now. First time it happened I didnt really listen to my body straight away and continued playing for a wekl before a properly rested it for about 5 days. I played a few times after that and it was fine, but felt it again 3 days ago and have been resting since. The pain is very mild and hardly noticeable in my day to day activities.

My question is what is the best way to ensure I recover as fast as I can? I mean rest of course is essential, but does that mean not put any sort of strain on it at all like a low intensity run for example? A few things I was thinking about were solo squash sessions, stretching, foam rolling, light weight training to strengthen the area, what should I be doing at the stage I am in

I have never been the type to get compliments at all, for the first 20 years of my life I dont think I genuinely got a genuine compliment from anyone. I always told myself that the reason im not confident is because of that.But as I grew more confident and being able to actually show my personality, style, humor I began to recieve some compliments and confidence boosting events.

What I did find is that these things definitely helped but it was not a fix, just a bandaid. I could spend days or weeks feeling good because something that has happened or something that has been told to me. After that period however I am right back to doubting myself. Even though these things are genuine and something I have been wishing for my entire life I still dont believe im good enough at some times.

So why would I feel that, and is this something normal to feel at times? I would definitely say that im more confident now than I was back then, but I still find me not backing myself enough when it comes to certain things.

So far most of the settings I have been in where I have had conversations with women have been in ones where it is likely they would be nice just to be friendly and nice out of interest. Places like work, social events where you go to meet people, sports clubs, all of these places are not someplaces you go to meet people to date.

Some of these interactions are started by them and some by me, and in both cases I cannot tell. There is the aspect of being interested at first but theres also whether they still are during the conversation if its going ok. I was never sufficiently sure that there are signs for me to escalate things in terms maybe asking for their contact. I know this is mostly a guessing game and you can never be sure, but im just unsure how to navigate these settings

I had my first session last week and it was for a particular issue I was trying to solve in my life that I needed guidance with. At the end of the session, they told me that I probably wont need many sessions because I am very intelligent.I am just wondering whether they would say something like this because they really think this or because of a hidden reason? Do therapists even say that sort of stuff?