u/retromani

men on tinder think i'm a minor

this happens all the time, it's having an actual impact on my life

most recent experience; met up with a guy (29yr old) for adult activities. only when we're 30 minutes into said activity does he asks if im 18. and im confused (tinder has my age), i let him know im 27, he's shocked af saying that i look nowhere near that age, he had thought i was a minor....(weirdo for not asking before things got started)

a few minutes later he asks me if he's a bad person for imagining that im a younger age cause it's his kink. i say that as long it's not a minor ahe cause that's weird af

but that i get where he's coming from cause i have braces which dont help, he gets excited, "no fucking way you have braces, smile "

i smile and he literally grabs my face saying that this made things even better and that i looked cute and perfect

when i head back home im left just feeling weird and wondering if im attracting perverts. it made me remember that a guy described the faces i make during adult activities as cute which threw me off cause what grown woman wants to be called cute while participating in adult activities

idk how to feel about it or how to avoid it. i even got nose piercings a few years ago to try to age my face and it's obviously not working. it makes me not want to engage in the dating scene anymore. especially with how rampant incest and barely legal content is on adult sites, i get asked to say daddy too

should i just get an ugly tattoo on my face?

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u/retromani — 6 days ago

being nonchalant will ruin your life

talked to a guy i thought was pretty cute and had an interesting personality for about 3 weeks. the convos were deep, personal and also fun. he talked in depth about his struggle with mental health.

i think he was lonely, and needed some sort of emotional intimacy but decided to seek physical intimacy instead, and i happened to be there.

once he got what he needed to feel good enough, there was no point in interacting with me anymore

i hope he realizes that one day, every feeling he's stuffing down will explode in his face

this generations obsession with coming off ok will genuinely ruin their lives

i went out on a solo date to a late night korean restaurant for some jjamppong and kimbap

eta: jjamppong is soooooooo fucking good y'all

eta: some extra context cause there are some really weird comments here

we had agreed early on that we were both seeking long term relationships. we talked for almost a month before seeing each other in person.

when he came over (he drove 2hrs), he worked on my car, helped me move furniture, and built a hutch for my kitchen i had from amazon. he volunteered to do all this. i had the tools, skills, and money to do all this myself.

he had brought his guitar with him and serenaded me

i asked him his intentions for a relationship with me and he said he wanted to support me, to make me happy, and to help me with anything i needed help with

this wasn't a casual interaction

im not upset that i did an adult thing (im 27, come on, grow up), it's just annoying to interact with people who are emotionally unavailable, and i say that as someone who has been deemed an avoidant by my therapist

u/retromani — 13 days ago
▲ 169 r/prius

3 weeks between gas fillups

filled up my tank for the first time in over 3 weeks today

i genuinely tend to forget the last time i got gas

2017 V Five, 88k miles

i read the other day someone talking about paying $70 to fill up a camry

eta: i never said i drove this car very efficiently lol

i work from home, most of my trips are 15 minutes one way at most, speeding on the highway, never anything longer than that.

i also park and listen to music up to 2hrs just for the vibes

~ im actually doing that right now lol, it's been an hour, lemme get out of here

u/retromani — 13 days ago
▲ 354 r/piercing

hi y'all!!

last month i posted after getting my high nostril piercings, today i finally got my mantis piercings!!!!

im sooooooo excited to have these, ive been wanting it for months now.

may 7th is my bday, so this is my gift to myself yayyyyyy :))

i genuinely thought my nose size would limit how much i could get done, im so glad my piercers saw the vision i had

i cant wait till everything is healed and i can start experimenting with my jewelry

AAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH🤸🏿🤸🏿🤸🏿🤸🏿

u/retromani — 16 days ago