u/ricettee

Hi everyone,

I am a 21F (basically, I turn 21 on Monday!!) dating a super kind and patient 23M bf, and we’ve been dating for two years. With everything I am about to say, keep in mind that I have Roman Catholic, Filipino parents.

I truly believe that the man I am with, is going to be the one I grow old with. We have navigated through every problem with communication, and he has so much patience with me and treats me with so much respect. Unfortunately, my parents don’t see it that way.

Around four months into our relationship, I lost my virginity. The reason why my parents found out was because they went through my messages on my computer, and looked through my bag. I had taken a morning pill (we were 100% protected, but I was freaked out and bought one because it was my first time). And ever since they found out I was sexually active, it’s been rough.

Yesterday, I took a power nap before my shift started. My phone was next to me, playing ASMR through Spotify. I change my password every week. I’m not sure how, but my mom got into my phone and went through my messages. Being the young adult I am going through ovulation, there were some spicy texts, but nothing even bad. I was stating how I miss his presence, his chest, his back and lips and stuff like that, which to he responded “do you wanna fuck” as a joke because he could probably tell that I am ovulating lol. It wasn’t even anything remotely bad in my opinion. My mom screenshotted the message and sent it to herself from my phone, and it went downhill from there.

She states that she’s sorry that I am dating a lustful man. “I'm so sorry you fell to someone whose parents broke the covenant and a tactical maniac who made you believe that loving back is to sin and sinning is nothing but a piece of his satisfaction and that to lie to parents is a beautiful trophy. Im so sorry if this is your happiness .” (Copy and pasted from text lol).

Shes threatening to get his parents involved, go to their house and talk to him about it. While I do understand why she’s upset seeing her daughter talking about that stuff, I am the one who’s mostly enabling these kind of conversations with my boyfriend. Isn’t it normal to be doing these things as a young adult?

Mind you, my mother was on the verge of cheating on my dad. She even showed me her dating profile. Isn’t that worse? My mom doesn’t like it when I date black people because she doesn’t want to “taint the bloodline”, she doesn’t like it when I date a woman because it’s against the Bible, and now she has a problem with my relationship. Nothing I do will ever make her happy.

I asked my boyfriend if he’s willing to put up with the hate from my parents the rest of our lives, and he said he can take it. I really want this relationship to work, I don’t think I’ll be able to find another man like him with the way he treats me with so much patience, never yells at me and makes me feel protected.

I’m just so lost on what to do. If you look at my previous posts, I really want to work as a nurse in the military. I’m really just debating on enlisting now to get away from my family life. It’s too much on me. I don’t have the funds of luxury to move out, as I am paying for my family’s phone bills (400+ monthly…) and saving up for my tuition. I’ve just been working everyday, having days where I work 17+ hrs a day just so I’m not home that often. I don’t know how to make them happy anymore. How would you guys cope with this situation?

Hi everyone,

Has anyone enlisted in the military just to get away from home and family life?!?

I feel that I have been exploited ever since I was a child. my parents tried to make me into this famous YouTube star (lol), and while I was in the right path like getting on national television and all this other stuff, they started to use it against me and guilt trip me. Such as “if you don’t perfect this one video, you’re not allowed to ______” and as I got older it would get worse.

it turned into emotional and verbal abuse. I started developing an ED (as if my mom didn’t put a waist trainer on me at the ripe age of 6) and it’s been very difficult. my parents basically exploited me to get some money since we come from a very poor family. It may not seem as bad, but it gets taxing when your parents are trying to use you to get themselves out of a situation and would use it against you.

I feel like I have no sense of identity and self worth. Joining the military has always been in my mind. I’m actually a nursing student in the process of getting my ADN. I wanted to commission as an officer as soon as I got my BSN and helped my family get a house, but it seems harder to wait that long with the more and more frequent fights we’ve been having. I mentioned it to my father, and he guilt tripped me. Saying that I was going to split my family apart just to get away from home and that I should deal with whatever is going on.

I feel that although the military would be tough, it would give me a sense of self-discipline, mental toughness and I feel like I would really be able to find myself and some independence.

hi guys,

my boyfriend and i had sex, and for the first time time put it in raw. he was never circumsized and was never taught to pull back his foreskin until I came into his life. The tip barely went in because it hurt his head, and I told him to pull out because I don’t want to hurt him and we were both lowkey scared.

I’m just nervous if I should take a plan b. My period is already irregular, and taking plan b has me miss my period by a month or two and being stressed about it makes me worse, which is why I try not to take any plan b. We were just way to into the sex this time.

I’m just nervous how high the possibilities of being pregnant. My period app said the chances of pregnancy were low but with how irregular my period is normally, I don’t know if i could trust it. Should I just take a plan b just in case and take a test after 2 weeks?!?

help guys im almost 21 I have less than a month to go I made a stupid mistake