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Hi! I’m 26F and recently bought the Michael Kors Nolita Large. I like it, but I’m second-guessing myself because I keep seeing smaller, cuter, more trendy bags everywhere.
Im also 5’1
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months. Around 3 months into the relationship, I had an ectopic pregnancy and had to undergo emergency surgery where my right fallopian tube was removed. That experience affected me deeply emotionally because I’ve always wanted kids and a family someday, especially since I lost my mom when I was 6.
After the surgery, my mental health got really bad and our relationship became very unstable. We’ve broken up and gotten back together multiple times. During fights, he tends to completely disappear for hours or even longer ,no calls or texts and I end up begging, crying, and panicking. I know he has a very avoidant personality, while I have a very anxious attachment style.
The thing is, now that I look back, I feel like a lot of the fights may also have been caused by my own behavior. I became very insecure, overly emotional, and reactive because I constantly felt unloved or ignored. Most of our fights were over “small” things like him not giving me enough time, poor communication, me overthinking, etc. But we also never properly talked through issues, so everything just kept building up.
Now I genuinely can’t tell:
Is this relationship unhealthy/incompatible?
Or did trauma and my anxious attachment ruin something that could’ve worked?
Another thing weighing on me is that after the surgery, I’m scared it’ll be harder for me to find another relationship or build a family in the future, so part of me stays because of fear too.
I really want honest advice, especially from people who’ve experienced attachment issues, grief, or relationship trauma.