u/ryetheman9

This feels so impossible. I, 18f and my old boyfriend, 19m, just broke up last Wednesday. He was on a vacation and I was pet sitting for him. I don’t want to get into specifics, but this feels so impossible. How can I feel better? I try to distract myself and it works sometimes, but I keep bouncing between the 7 stages of grief (other than acceptance).

I feel like my world is ending. I know I’ll be okay, and I understand his reasoning (he wants to grow spiritually and mentally, find out who he is as a person, etc.) but I just don’t know how to deal with it. Sure, we fought! But I didn’t think it was that bad, I thought we could just overcome it.

It’s so hard. It’s been six days and I don’t know what to do. I can’t delete any pictures so I put them in my hidden folder. I can’t get rid of anything so I’m putting it all into a box in my closet. i can’t even call him my ex yet. I want to grow, but I also just want him back so desperately. It feels like he doesn’t care. Of course we aren’t speaking right now so I don’t know that for sure, but when we did speak I was so devastated and he just… wasn’t. And I know guys usually have issues with that, but I want to know if he’s as hurt as I am.

We were together for two years. All of my junior and senior year of high school were spent with him. All of his senior and freshman year were spent with me. I don’t know what to do. I thought we were going to get married. It feels like my world is crashing down around me. What do I do? How do I do this? How can I get over this? I know we could reconcile one day but I obviously can’t hold out hope for that.

I want to get closer to the Lord so desperately. It feels like He isn’t present. I just want everything to be okay. I want the Lord to promise me that me and my old bf will grow into who He wants us to be and then reconcile, but I know that isn’t a promise that will be made. It hurts so badly. I just want Jesus, but I also want my old boyfriend. I want him so badly.

I don’t know why I’m making this post. I guess I just want to feel less alone. I want advice. I want to know what other Christians think. Yeah I have a support system, but no one really understands what I’m going through. Gosh, this sucks so badly. It isn’t fair. If anyone has anyone advice it would be so appreciated. Prayers, scripture, anything. I don’t know. I’m just so broken. I’m holding onto Psalm 34:18 and Proverbs 3:5-6, but I still feel so empty

So a couple weeks ago, my boyfriend and I got into a really bad fight. I won’t go into detail, but it was not good. We’ve had a history of arguments, but nothing truly terrible and definitely no abuse or anything. The day after the fight, I asked the Lord to show me a hot pink car if I should leave my boyfriend, and a light blue car if I shouldn’t. The next week, I saw a pink car and was filled with the worst dread. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he reassured me. That was last Wednesday.

That same day, I asked the Lord to show me a lime green corvette if I was supposed to leave, and I said I would give it a week. We’ve been great for the past two weeks, no big fights or anything. But yesterday, as we were going to play volleyball with some friends, I saw it. In the parking lot was a lime green corvette. I immediately felt the same dread and thought I would be sick. He reassured me again, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was wrong. I eventually got over myself and was able to play normally, but after that I was still shaken and worried.

I woke up this morning feeling weird again. Like I didn’t know what to do. Because those were what I asked for, but at the same time I was anxious and hyper aware of everything. I don’t think I want to leave him, but I also want to do what the Lord wants me to do. I’ve just felt so much doubt about our relationship all day, and it’s been horrible. I know I shouldn’t have, but I asked to see a specific purple car if we were supposed to break up, just to be sure.

He truly is a wonderful guy, and there’s no Biblical reason why we should separate. I don’t even know why I asked for a sign in the first place. I’m a very anxious person, so throughout our relationship I’ve prayed that if my bf wasn’t for me, that the Lord would remove him from my life. Surely, God wouldn’t use a car to tell me to leave, right? I don’t even know why I’m making this post. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Are physical signs like that real? Was it just a coincidence or a self-fulfilling prophecy? What should I do? I’ve been praying for wisdom on the subject, and my boyfriend has prayed over me for peace. I just feel so, so weird.

Prayers and advice would be so, so appreciated ❤️

My boyfriend has had this piece of wood for the past four or five years, and during that time, it's just been sitting in a corner of his room. He's attempting to make a better home for his turtle and wants to put the wood inside the tank. He has no clue what kind of wood it is, and knows he needs to sterilize it somehow. How should we go about it? It's too large to boil, and he doesn't want to accidentally set his house on fire by baking it in an oven. Is it worth it to put it in the tank if we don't know what wood it is? We have no clue where to start with it, so any and all advice would be much appreciated!!

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