u/ryrygaba42069

This girl, 27 yo, followed me, 25M, on IG few days ago, answered her stroy about the « American Gods » TV show since i was surprised even somebody knew about it here.
We started talking and it was nice, it was fluid, we were both engaged into the conversation, shared commun intrests which is rare asf for me, she also seemed very confident (+100 pour Gryffondor) and serious about getting into a relationship (+100 whdokhra), i literally was smiling like a dumb ass on the phone, felt 17 again, i was already thinking about rings prices haha.

I don’t see the point in wasting time, so i asked her to go on a date, she agreed and told me it gotta be sbah which limited my dates ideas. Went to get a fresh cut, washed the car, bought her flowers, i really wanted to leave a good impression since i didn’t meet someone i liked in a long time.

Picking her up was already a mess it had to be somewhere a bit far from her home which I understand and is normal f dzair, then tel3at melor, qatli bch tban chghel Yassir, ok i guess, i can understand that too.
Took her to some chill coffee shop i like, yea not ideal but wsh ak hab dir sbah ? Tel3at mel qadam après, and her confidence in messages suddenly dissapeared, she would answer with short answers, said « ah ok » to the flowers, didn’t want to choose a song to listen to. Ok, maybe she’s shy ?

The coffee shop wasn’t far (thank god)
So we set, asked her what she wanted to eat or drink, said just a tea, tried to impulse some conversation but it was like swimming against le courant, made her laugh a few times but yea that’s all, nothing came from her. It got a bit awkard, asked her if she wanted to play some board game, she said nope.

Ok, it was around 11 am, i suggest we would go to some a fish restaurant, she said she can’t stay long so we better stay there. So it kept going, me doing the Steve Harvey and her, answering. It was like playing tennis against a wall.
I don’t look different from my pics, i am not short (5’11), i was a gentelman, went to open her door for her, but yea i concluded that i just wasn’t what she was waiting for i guess, it’s ok, dissapointing but ok.

So i paid and took her home, parked a few streets away so she could sit in the back, she said thank you and left the flowers there (which to be fair faded a little bit due to skhana, just like my hopes did fade).

Roht lel qahwa nechreb qahwa te3 sah, smoked chuiya, listened to some music and went home. She texted me saying during the night and said she was sorry and don’t really know what happened to her, that i did good but she just really don’t know why she acted like that and would understand if i don’t wanna see her again.

But idk, i just don’t want to anymore. I went through a long phase of not wanting nor looking for a relationship, i don’t DM, i don’t send follow request, i keep it friendly at work and i assume that if a girl glances at me, or smiles at me, she’s either polite, meaning it for somebody else or ani netkhayal. She really got my hopes up, but it just put me back in the worst place of the state i was in before meeting her. You really can’t understand what i am saying if you didn’t go through it. Told her no thanks, i might regret it in some months, but after all, confidence is one of my standards.

I like this community, some people here seem emotionally smart and talk some sense usually and i needed to share this story, thank you for reading.

Je laisse le choix aux meufs et je m’en occupe financièrement parlant, mais je suis curieux de savoir sur panel représentatif la réponse à la question avec plus qu’une réponse en un mot.
Merci pour votre temps mesdames.

The dynamics between people regarding love and relationships sure do fit a lot of criteria to be described as a market, but the materialization of that concept by describing it as such surely did empty it of the ‘magical’ component that used to make relationships and romance that beautiful thing one would yearn for. Now, when someone describes this area and the problems people face in finding their better half, it sounds like they’re talking about cars or houses. I find this pretty sad. I don’t know if this is the place for it, but thoughts?

What’s a physical feature you absolutely cannot deal with and is a deal breaker even if the person’s personality is just perfect ?

Hello. I’m looking for some unbiased book about the algerian history, pre war, during war and post war until lately.
Id also like some suggestion about biased books from people that actually experienced war and colonization, you know, getting different perspectives.
For the first one, i want recognized authors, either Algerian, French or any other. Thank you.
If you can throw in there any other intresting book about colonization, im open. Im intrested in what happend in Congo and Rwanda.

After few painful heartbreaks, several meaningless sort-of-relationships or « situationships » and endless talking stages that led to nowhere, i have have lost any willingness to be in a romantic relationship or to even put the effort to find someone, it’s been like that for few time, i just enjoy being alone, working, trying to be healthier, playing video games, reading and learning new things like guitare or spanish and finishing my to watch list. It’s very peaceful. I don’t DM, i don’t entertain any flirting and most importantly, i am myself all the time. Things are good.
Dudes that are in the same state of mind. How are you ? Have you achieved anything lately ? How’s life ?

I am a sensitive person, or used to be. I would relate to people in different situations, even the ones that were very alien to me and i was always met with a lot condescension from my peers.
Don’t get me wrong, a lot of people here do good deeds and help others but it feels like it’s more pitty than compassion, and when someone is a bit different or is inherently foreign to us in terms of who they are and what they represent, we often get wicked.
I take for exemple the algerian girl that got recorded dancing on omegle. People didn’t have an ounce of compassion toward her situation. Whatever your opinion of it is, at the end of the day, it’s a human being suffering a humiliation and that can literally be harmed by her entourage or herself, and a lot people did « cheh » her. It’s almost like our compassion or pittiness is conditional.
Thoughts ?

Most women i have talked to, been in talking stage with, flirted with and even dated never ask « how about you ? » or « et toi ? »
We can spend hours playing the entertainer, the conversation drivers, you’ll not have her ask you about you, never. And they usually don’t see a problem with it.
That observation don’t come from interactions with women that were not intrested, but it seems that the amount of intentions most of you get have made y’all so self centered. I just lose intrest if she doesn’t reciprocate the act of showing she’s intrested. Learn how to be more hearing, you’ll get better results.

Anytime i meet someone cool with whom i vibe, they are in the process of leaving the currently soon, it didn’t happen to me once, not twice but several times, feels like a curse.

This is directed to women particularly, but men can answer how much they are willing to give.
I am a 25 yo male, i make around 100k a month, i support my familly, brothers as much as i can but i had debts when i started to work, so i had to pay them, then i got sick which kinda costed me, but now im clear, i have around 200k savings and i plan to put aside 50k a month to start « ndir tawil » lol.
I think most people will say i have a great salary buy i really don’t see it that way, because, first of all, i want to first get my personal car and then put a deposit on a house before thinking about gettind married, and those things will probably takes me the next 5 years, i want also be sure to be able to give my wife a consequent amount of money each month while being able to save up at the same time, but how much would be a decent amount of money for a woman to not feel like she’s missing out ? I’d rather stay alone then have someone’s daughter feeling like she’s sacrificing anything for being with me.
The more i think about it, the more i realize it is almost impossible to reach those goals before my 40´s. Id be around 250k a month at 35 yo, even i give her 100k a month, would that even cover clothes, nails, hair dresser ? But then i realize we all live in algeria i don’t think people are spending that much, yet again when i see my collegues, or girls i know, they seem like Jeff Bezos if financing them.
I yapped a lot, what’s your opinion on the matter.

Hi, i hope you all are doing well.
Could you please recommend some Algerian good movies, movies betwen « a 20 ans je me cache pour fumer » and « kendilate el bahr », movies from genuine artists that wanted to express something. i got sucked up into some pieces of tunisian cinema and was curious about what we had to propose.
Thank you very muchw

I’ve bought a PS5 and when im connecting it to the Internet, everything is fine except when it comes to connect it to PlayStations servers, i get this error « NW 102636-8 » and it seems to be an internet issue related to algerie telecom, ever happened to someone else in Algeria ?