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I can’t watch anything set in the 80s with my happily oblivious millennial spouse because I won’t shut up about the hair.

Stylists seem to think that curls + a side part = 80s and I’m sorry but that just doesn’t cut it. 80s layers and/or feathering is needed and *bangs are an absolute non-negotiable must.*

I used to think it was never right because modern audiences just found true 80s hair to be too ugly. But nowadays a lot of 80s fashion, including some aspects of the hair, is coming back into style for better or for worse. So what’s their excuse now?

And the makers of period pieces love to tout how painstakingly researched and authentic everything is to their era. This stuff is in *living memory* people! Also hairpieces nowadays are really realistic, so it’s not like you need to convince the actors to commit to 80s hair.

ETA: I want to clarify that I’m not at all saying that everyone (or anyone) needs to have the giant teased crunchy hair à la late 80s high school. I also get that hair was different throughout the decade, regionally, and between age groups. What I’m saying is that even the variations aren’t accurately represented. Including (and even especially) the men’s hair.

Hear me out! I’m like you, I swear.

Ive always looked young for my age and was (and sometimes still am) often on the receiving end of comments like “you’re too young to remember x” and “I’m old enough to be your mother!” etc. (it didn’t help that I was a waitress for a really long time which people perceive as a young person’s job).

Even when they were reading my age correctly, these comments were super annoying, not funny, unhelpful, and condescending. If you’re reading this you can probably relate.

However, now that I’m officially an old and some of my colleagues are quite literally young enough to be my children, I find myself tempted to make comments like this.

I consciously stop myself from making them, or I reframe them as something like “it’s weird to realize how old you’ve gotten” instead of “you’re the one who’s weird for being young,” but I’m honestly so surprised how often the urge to make these comments comes up! It makes me have a little more empathy for the people who made these comments to me (a *little* more).

I’m wondering if anyone else here:

a) Has made the conscious decision to not make these comments when the time comes because you were on the receiving end so often, and

b) Also finds themselves tempted to make these comments way more often than you expected.

Let me know please