Hey yall, after my google attempts came up short, I figured I’d post here and ask: are there any adult puppeteering or puppet making classes in rva? YouTube tutorials can only take me so far! Thanks in advance :)
Despite the struggles that come with my specific situation that lead to being a homemaker, I truly love providing for my family. That being said, I can’t clean all the time! I want to know your favorite hobbies, what you do outside of cooking and cleaning that still enriches you and your space, and how you spend your time every day :)
For background: I’m a 25yo stay at home wife and caretaker to my disabled mom. My husband and I live in my childhood home with my parents while my dad gets ready to retire and so we can save for our first house. I’m a homemaker and spend most of my day cooking and cleaning, and it’s honestly killing me. Im also bipolar and dealing with autoimmune issues causing chronic pain and a migraine disorder.
Every day is the same. I get up, I take my meds, I get my mom ready for the day, I send my husband off. And then between doom scrolling and staring at the wall, I drag myself around trying to maintain a clean space. Luckily cleaning and cooking has gotten easier to manage and my meds help a lot, but the anhedonia is crazy. I also can’t drive, so I really don’t get out of the house much.
I don’t have enough enrichment in my enclosure. My friends all work full time and my husband is too tired after work to spend much time together. My hobbies aren’t interesting anymore and nothing is satisfying. I feel like I’m circling the cage and ripping my feathers out. My screen time is 9+ hours despite using every method to keep myself off. I don’t want to be on my phone, it’s not relaxing or enriching. I try to engage in my hobbies but it’s just not interesting to me.
TLDR: I spend all day cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my mom while I’m scrolling on my phone in between. I’m experiencing severe anhedonia and nothing is fun or interesting.
What do you all do when you’re home all day? How do you handle unemployment? What can I fill my day with? Any advice is appreciated :)
Hey yall, I’m a 25 year old stay at home wife and caretaker of my mom living with my parents, older brother, and husband. At the moment, I’m the only person in the house that cooks and cleans. My mom is disabled, my husband and dad work full time, and my brother isn’t exactly someone I get along with. He views the house as my responsibly and refuses to do more than take out the trash.
I have dedicated days and schedules for cleaning up (bathrooms Monday, bedroom Tuesday, declutter Wednesday etc) but I can’t seem to keep up. I clean most of the day every single day but it’s like my family can’t keep themselves from making messes. My dad, husband, brother and I all have ADHD. I’ll admit I’m not the cleanest person, but I’ve gotten significantly better, and we’re all on medication.
My husband will help a little bit on the weekends, but it just makes me feel worse as he views it as “helping me” rather than the things he’d have to do if we weren’t married. My mom has very little energy and mobility issues, so I don’t ask her for help. My dad works 60+ hours a week at a high stress job and he’s in his 60s, so asking him for help is also not exactly possible. I feel so stuck. The kitchen is always overflowing with dishes and trash because I can’t keep on top of it despite using the dishwasher and taking the trash out every day, multiple times a day. The laundry is always piling up even though it seems like the washer is always running. The floors are always dirty even though I mop every week. I don’t know how people are doing it. I just want a clean home :( I feel like I have no time for my hobbies, rest, or my own issues. I’m exhausted. Any tips or advice would be appreciated, TIA :)
My parents have a habit of stacking and leaving things in corners/around the perimeter of the house instead of finding homes for things. Over a day, I took apart and sorted the bookshelf, cleaned behind our old washer, and declutterred/cleaned our hallway area under our window. It currently has a bath mat on top of a stepstool for my senior kitty that insists on being high up and on that specific bath mat. Eventually we’ll get her a perch that looks a little nicer. I’m nowhere near done, but this was clutter from 10+ years ago before my mom got sick. I’m so happy it’s finally taken care of!!
I just received Paris Corner’s Lactea Divina in the mail and I am OBSESSED! It’s like a beautiful clean, cold milk scent with a hint of sweetness. I love it on paper and on my skin, but on my clothes it has a strange note… maybe like rubber? Or a tire? I’m assuming it’s because it’s mixing with the scent of my laundry detergent, so I’ll avoid spraying it on my clothes in the future.
I’m not sure what fragrance it’s duping, but after smelling it as I’m typing this, now I’m not so sure. I love it. I want to love it? Ugh. What do yall think? Would letting it sit help the weird rubbery smell? Thanks!
my parents are hoarders in the sense that we can’t see our floor, but our walls are lined with things without a home, especially books. We have a roach infestation that we’re currently trying to control with roach gel bait and borax until I can clean enough for an exterminator to come in. The biggest issue is that our washing machine broke and a new one is being installed on Thursday. I have two days to clear enough of a path for it to be brought in.
I need to figure out how to deal with:
•a broken book shelf next to the old washer filled with books I’m not allowed to throw away or recycle
•a pile of random boxes filled with various things next to the book shelf that I’m also not allowed to throw away
•a desk blocking a doorway filled with bills from the 2000s that I’m not allowed to throw away that’s infested with roaches
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated, TIA!
Hey yall, my girl has multiple comfy spots around the house, but she’s going blind and has arthritis, so I’d like to get her a perch with small steps for our window so she can still lay in a sunny spot without our younger cat harassing her for attention. Does anyone have any recommendations? Cat tax included :)
8:30 am and it’s so dark outside! How are you dealing with the rain this week? Any fun plans if you have tomorrow off? Should we all go worm hunting?
Talk amongst yourself :)
She’s a chicken fiend, and she knows exactly how to get a little piece off my plate (by being so adorable).