r/ufyh

it’s not perfect by any means and it took about 2 weeks longer than it should have but I did it! My fancy high thread count sheets are in the dryer and I cannot wait to get them on the bed. I’m finally the only tenant in this room (no more flies, hooray!)

Decorating is a work in progress but I will get there eventually.

Thank you all so much for your support on my first post a bit ago and I cannot explain how much this community has helped me ❤️ genuinely I am so grateful that this lovely pocket of the internet exists along with all of you kind and caring people

I'm sick of feeling guilty over dishes. It's one of my worst habits. I leave dishes EVERYWHERE. I've had many urges to just throw all my dirty dishes away. Well, now I can lmao.

Edit: This is a light hearted post, but recognize that a decision to buy paper plates and bowls to use on a regular basis is not one made lightly. I am disabled. I have ADHD and post concussion syndrome, which makes taking care of myself and my home difficult. I have memory issues, fatigue, and executive dysfunction. There have been days where I haven't eaten because I didn't have a plate to eat on. If you don't understand that level of mental illness, then good for you! Live your healthy, environmentally conscious life for me while I get my shit together. Don't worry, I'll be more mindful of my carbon footprint when I learn to love myself again.

I just found out I will have to move out of my apartment of 6 years at the end of the month, and I would love some accountabili-buddies along the way.

My place is BAD. A lot of clutter and I don't think I've ever deep cleaned. Honestly my focus is on decluttering and packing, and I'm going to pay a cleaning service once that's done.

Pictured is The Pile™️, the worst area of my apartment. This is not even moving related, it's looked like this for a long time. So I've got my work cut out for me.

Another complication is I'm moving to another country - so I need to have everything labeled and inventoried (i.e. no throwing things haphazardly into garbage bags at the last minute).

I'm starting on July 5, and have Friday-Monday free most weeks. I'm planning on 1 rest day and 3 packing days.

Anyone else who's moving or has a big ufyh job wanna connect? I'm thinking we can start a group chat on Discord or something. Please comment here and let me know if it's okay to DM you.

WE GOT THIS 👏

For the past couple years I have been spiraling, drowning and struggling so much especially after my father passed away unexpectedly. My habitat became so unlivable I couldn't see the floor tiles anymore. Until one day I just couldn't take it anymore and something snapped. I took the Before video during the end of cleaning and organizing but I wish I got the original state too but I felt too ashamed to document that.

Just wanted to share this small win. Still a long long way to do and a tough time ahead.

After my soul dog passed away, I let my apartment turn into a wreck for 12 days. I was so depressed I could barely get out of bed. But yesterday a cockroach showed up and I decided to clean. I recorded myself cleaning. This method works well for me. It only took 28 minutes to clean, even though I'd been putting it off for almost 2 weeks...

I have incredibly bad OCD that results in intense agoraphobia. This has compounded with an increasingly hostile living situation and the fact that I work from home to mean that there have been stretches of several days where I have not left my room at all.

Basically my entire life was lived in this room. I'd only leave when I was confident my roommates weren't home, and even then it was just to buy food. As you can clearly see from the photo my preference was McDonald's since it was right down the street and took like ten minutes to get and bring back so I could minimize the time my roommates might get back and force me into an interaction with them. If I was out and realized they'd come home in the meantime, sometimes I'd stay outside until past midnight to hope that they'd gone to bed when I got back.

The censored parts are, and it disgusts me to say this, containers of urine. I would get too terrified to even walk the distance from my room to the bathroom and risk them seeing me. I didn't keep track but there were probably 200+, some of which aren't caught in the photo.

Anyway - this all culminated in the horrible mess you see here. A month or two ago it got too bad to even use my desk and I was living off of my mattress. I wouldn't do anything at all.

My roommates were both out of town for two days and at the tail end of a breakdown I decided I simply had to take back control of my life. I know marathon cleaning is discouraged for a variety of very valid reasons, but the images shown were the culmination of about 16 hours of work across 2 days, with the assistance of 44 trash bags and more pairs of disposable gloves than I could keep track of (I'd thought buying a pack of 100 was gonna be overkill. It was not.)

Obviously there is still more to do but I cannot overstate how much of a relief this has been. I walked around my room and cried earlier today. It's been years since I've even seen the floor. I've arranged to move out on Saturday. It's really short notice but I think I can do it and I will do literally anything to not live in this fucking room anymore. I just have too many awful associations with it now. It feels like being trapped.

Thanks for reading this far if you got here. It really feels like I've remembered that life is worth living. I've felt so long that my OCD controlled me, and in many ways it still does, but this is a step at least. Hoping I can make it last. I've looked at a lot of posts on this subreddit and my situation seems like one of the absolute worst to be posted here so I hope this can be an inspiration for anyone who feels like their home is unfixable. It's not. Just takes a lot of work and a willingness to do it scared

Guests showing up tomorrow. 1 week, 3 spare rooms and a laundry now ready for guests. 2 rooms painted. All the carpets had to be cleaned because of puppy accidents. 2 dump runs. Garage reorganised to fit all the tools that had overflowed to the laundry. Rest of the house also cleaned. Capped off with a day in the garden. 1 blind 1 curtain, Pictures, shelves and the neon light sign that have been on the ground for years, finally hung up. I'm so exhausted and wanted to quit on day one but the support and motivation on here helped me. I just decided I was locking in and put in 12 hours the first day.

I know the before are not that bad but I've been on the ufyh journey for about 2 years. I was too ashamed to take photos at it's worst (I struggle to let go of stuff). It's been years of hard work to dig out. I kept putting off this next push for about 6 months but the time crunch came up fast.

This forum has helped so much over the years and I'm grateful to the positivity of the community and tips. In a couple months I'll start rennos on the laundry and have to address the doom cupboards, but at least its some cupboards now instead of the whole house. Really hoping we can maintain it and keep doing improvements.

I bought a robovac last black Friday and now Sir Sweepington can finally get around the whole house so I'm thrilled to hit a goal of 6 months in the making.

If you're reading this WE CAN DO HARD THINGS 💪

Here we go again…This effing dresser has been the source of stress for so many weeks now. It’s the only place in my house that looks so chaotic (my wife is very organized and tidy) the rest of the house looks great and ppl always comment on how neat we are. Little do they know, upstairs I have this mess on my side of the room. It’s not terrible but it’s a source of shame fr. Esp when I know it low key bothers my wife. She gives me grace in that ine spot of the house thankfully. I guess she realizes I’ve come a long way w keeping the rest of the house in order.
Anyway, I’m still working on figuring out a system to keep things like this. Any tips!???

This particular mess is a layer of crap under all the clothes. Also I didn’t have enough room to put everything away. So I had to donate mad clothes and toss a lot of things I was saving but not using.
The plan this time is to keep minimal things on the surface so when I leave something up there, it will be obvious and I’ll have to put it away. Any advice is welcome.