r/ufyh

I'm so done with living in a mess. This whole spring and summer I've been finding maggots in places I didn't even know they could spawn, and of course the resulting flies. I own 4 fly swatters in my small apartment.

I can't ever seem to keep up, it's like I turn around and a new surface is cluttered with mess. Today I once again found my cast iron dutch oven with maggots.I never even lifted the lid for a fly to get into the pan so I thought I'd be fine. I'm now considering getting rid of it since this keeps happening. It's so nasty.

I'm trying to organize and clean today, and see if I can declutter a bit. Tomorrow I need to move a ton of soil to the soilbank since I'm not allowed to get rid of it anywhere else, so that's going to be sooo much work as well. Hopefully I won't tire myself out and keep up the good work.

I'm so embarrassed of my disgusting home since my neighbours who sometimes will by can look inside (that is normal in my country). I know people keep telling me to not care about what other people are thinking, but I do care, a lot. I try to use that feeling to clean more often, but it's still not great.

I've been putting off changing my bed because I wanted to clean the bedroom first. Apparently clean sheets required clear floors, an empty laundry basket and a version of me who folds things immediately.

Last night I moved the stuff off the bed onto the floor and changed it. Not a brilliant solution for the floor, but I didnt have another hour in me. Found a pillowcase I'd been looking for too, wrapped up inside the clean fitted sheet.

The old bedding went straight into the wash this morning. That's usually where I lose momentum and leave it in a heap for alot longer than intended.

Still stepping over things. Still have a mug situation. But getting into bed felt really nice and I don't want to wait until the whole room is done next time. Floor can have its turn tomorow.

Hi all. I’m so thankful to have found this community and know that I’m not alone!

I’m moving in a few weeks and just submitted my 30 days to my landlord. He just texted me to confirm he received it and let me know he’ll need to start showing the apartment. Great!

The problem? My apartment looks like an episode of Hoarders and I’m going to be out of town the next week house sitting for my dad who lives nearly 3 hours away until the 10th. I literally feel like I’m going to keel over and die because my apartment is NOT even close to show ready. I’ve got a few hours before I need to leave, so I’m going to do a power clean to at least start, but I’m seriously hating myself right now for letting it get this bad in the first place.

Like a lot of people here, I have mental health struggles (ADHD, OCD) and broke my arm earlier this year slipping down the stairs here that required surgery. Additionally I’ve been dealing with major burn out at work so the last year went from messy to holy hoarder. I’ve also got neighbors who love to comment on things like taking out a lot of trash at once, which just adds to the paralysis and shame.

On the plus side, I live in a studio. But it’s filthy, trash is everywhere, I’ve got a drain fly infestation, and there’s doom piles galore. I know it will only take me a few hours to realllllyyyy power through this to get it to a point where I can get cleaners in, but I’ve been absolutely paralyzed by shame and embarrassment and just sheer overwhelm.

I guess I’m just posting here because I need to let this panic out and I need some encouragement / accountability. I’m going to ask my landlord if I can have until the 12th before he starts scheduling tours since I’ll be out of town and I want to make sure it’s show ready, but I genuinely have no clue what I’ll do if he says no because I can’t back out of house sitting.

I really hate myself right now lol why can’t I just naturally want to keep things clean :/

With the help of my father, I recently moved into a new apartment. In my last apartment, I had gone through 3 years of horrible depression, especially during the last year there. There was garbage, gnats, roaches and spiders everywhere. I was miserable, my cats were miserable and my mental health was at the lowest its probably ever been.

I got evicted from that place for not paying rent, and had my dad help me move, and I did my best to clean but it was far from perfect.

In this new place however, I've been here for a week now and I've cleaned every single day. I haven't gone to bed with a dirty kitchen once. It's a small thing, and probably normal for a lot of people but as someone who could go *months* without cleaning, I'm really happy with what I've done so far. Just wanted to share somewhere, cause not a lot of people understand

Today we are still in our living rooms, but today we are going to do something a little different.

Today we are going to do or plan something fun. Now I know, money is tight. So it doesn't have to be a trip to Disney.

Make lunch and take it outside on a blanket (or in the living room if it's raining) for a picnic.

Visit the library.

Pop popcorn and watch a movie.

Invite some friends over to play a board game.

Get out the Legos and build a town.

Build a blanket fort and read books.

Just spend a minute or two actually planning and enjoying your life. We are all so busy with work, house work, kids, etc, that we sometimes forget to actually enjoy it.

It's raining on most of the Eastern states today. Hubby is going to organize his man cave (the garage) and I am going to do a little genealogy. Won't cost us anything and hopefully the thrift store will get a visit as well this afternoon. (fingers crossed)

Be sure and share your ideas so those of us that struggle to find fun ideas can try out yours!

Is it ridiculous for me to be this excited?

I have a good friend coming by next week to help me take a bunch of stuff from a demolished shed over to my storage unit. This got me thinking about the rest of my decluttering, and I decided to find out if there’s any way I can get an extra trash bin or if it’s worth renting a dumpster for trash.

But what I really need is an extra recycling bin because most of the stuff that’s here cluttering up the place is cat food/people food cans, glass containers, litter jugs, milk jugs, old reading material I printed out for classes that I finished and I still have all the PDFs so I really don’t need the printouts anymore… And the cat cans come in cardboard boxes and so do a lot of other products and I just have the stuff stacked up everywhere and loading up bins every week to drag to the curb hasn’t made that big of a dent.

And then I found out while looking up the cost of dragging stuff to the trash drop off or landfill versus renting a dumpster, I discovered that our recycling center is open 24/7 and it’s free!

And now I’m super excited because I can finally get rid of all this cardboard and paper and plastic crap that has been jumbling up my house for longer than I am willing to admit!

Is it ridiculous to be this excited about cleaning? I’ve never felt this way, I want to keep feeling this way because now I’m motivated.

I should also mention that I was diagnosed with autism and ADHD in 2024 and I’ve been burned out for months since leaving my job in December and this is the first time I’ve been excited about anything in years.

I struggle mostly because I just don't have room. Should I just get rid of the stuff? I'm trying to improve my habits, it's just so damn difficult.

Hi everyone! I have some cleaning tasks I've been putting off and it would really help me if I could clean alongside someone, just let me know what you're planning on cleaning and we can hype eachother up and check in periodically! The accountability would really help me🫧✨️

My starting tasks are to:

Deep clean the toilet

Clean the dishwasher filter & run a cleaning cycle

Descale the kettle

Do washing, dry washing, fold and put away

I have other tasks too but these are the ones I'm hoping to actually complete!

We were trying to buy the house we have rented for 8 yrs but the deal fell through. (Appraised for 10k lower than the selling price and loan is requiring one repair to be completed on a second floor window. Landlord refused to do the repair or move from his price and we don't have 10 k extra to bring to the table. Landlord is choosing letting the two properties go to foreclosure vs losing 10k, even though the sale of our home would cover the amount due for both properties.)

Sorry, had to vent a bit...

So we have found another house and are terminating our contract and placing an offer on the other one. Will probably be about 3 wks until we can possibly get the other house. So we should have at minimum another month to be in the current house.

*** My Plan ***

What I am hoping to do is to "move into" the new place as soon as possible. Appliances, furniture, what we "need". But I am hoping to then do trips between the two houses where we attack what remains, taking only what we want, use and have room for. When we get close to the end I want to open it up to have a moving/estate sale of whatever remains and then rent a dumpster/hire a clean out service for whatever is left.

Before when we have moved it has always been scrambling to get everything packed, having boxes upon boxes of "stuff" that has ended up stored in boxes and shuffled to the basement to never be addressed again. To end up just being moved to the next location. I'm tired of it. I want the stuff gone and I want peace in the new house.

Does this sound like a workable plan?