u/scotcaz

I’m preparing and planning a set up for my personal journal (blue petrol GV XL) in 2027 and was wondering if the Hobonichi day free A6 would fit with the GV XL?

Any other alternatives which is similar to the Hobonichi?

Thank you in advance 😁

Hi, I’m poly and partnered but dating separately. I identify as queer & non binary / genderqueer.

I like:

• Going on long walks and exploring cities
• Museums and art galleries
• Board games, from quick card games to mystery-solving adventures
• Books and films

I’m experienced in kink and am interested in exploring power exchange, but connection, communication, and trust come first.

Looking to meet polyamorous/ENM queer people for romance, FWB connections, comet relationships, or regular play.

If you like what I’ve got to offer, chat with me and see what it might lead to! 😁

An update on the last happy post I made here: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/kAAzTQJaQJ

TL;DR: Person I was excited about cancelled our picnic date a few hours beforehand, despite apparently knowing for two weeks they weren’t feeling it. Hurt and frustrated, but also grateful for what I learned about myself and for the support from my partner.

River (NB, 30) cancelled the date and said they weren’t interested in exploring things further because they “weren’t feeling it.”

Normally I’d be upset but be fine with it. But what really got to me is that they sent this text literally a few hours before our picnic date. And in the same message they admitted they’d apparently been thinking about this for the past two weeks. Wtf? Why not tell me sooner?

What makes it even worse is that we were literally texting the night before confirming the time and place we were meeting. This part upset me more than the rejection (although it does sting a bit being rejected). I’m a bit pissed off, but mostly just sad and disappointed.

That said, three positive things have come out of this:

1. I’ve rediscovered my kinky side and learned a lot more about myself through our chats. I really exposed myself to them and while I didn’t get much back, I’m still glad I explored that part of myself.

2. At least I didn’t end up sitting outside in the sun all afternoon 🤣🤣

3. I got to spend the afternoon with my partner Kitty instead, and thank goodness for her. She’s taken such good care of me, reassured me that I did nothing wrong, and reminded me it’s better to find this out now rather than further down the line. She also fully understood why the last-minute cancellation upset me so much.

Virtual hugs and positive encoring comments are welcome if you can give them! 💜

Wanted to share some excitement!

(Fake names)

I have been in a relationship with Kitty (NB, 40) for nearly 3 years and have not dated anyone else since ….

(I bumped into River (NB, 30) a while ago after chatting on what’s app and lost touch for a bit - personal reasons, at a bus stop of all places and we went for a drink and a chat and we liked each other enough to want to meet again)

Tonight we went on a proper date, dinner and drinks afterwards. It was a fun date and we flirted with each other a lot. We had a kiss at the end of our date before going home - separately!

I really like them and can’t wait to see where this might lead to! ☺️

What about you? Did you go on a date lately? Met anyone new? Any happy stories? Come and share with me! Let’s be happy together! 😁

TL;DR: Partner invited meta to the end of our date without asking me first, which made saying goodbye feel awkward and uncomfortable. I plan to talk to my partner about checking with me first in future. I’m also unsure whether to bring up that my meta has seemed distant/off with me lately after we used to get along fine. I don’t need friendship from him, just to feel comfortable around him again, especially for overnights.

Now into to a longer post;

There are two parts to this. The first part is mostly something I need to get off my chest — I know I need to talk to my partner about it. The second part is where I’m unsure whether to bring up my meta’s behaviour/manners.

(Fake names)

I’m (45 NB) with Kitty (40 NB) and we’ve been together nearly 3 years. She’s married to Dan (M40s). Kitty is autistic, so sometimes she processes things differently/slower or misses cues when we are discussing our relationship, which is fine. She shows love in other ways 💜 Please keep that in mind.

First part:

Yesterday I had a lovely date with Kitty from about 11am until 3:30pm. We had a really fun day out in the city doing loads of fun things.

At the end of the date we were at a park watching a silly but fun ladder festival, and Kitty mentioned she’d texted Dan asking if he wanted to come. He did come. Normally I probably wouldn’t have minded, but what bothered me was that Kitty didn’t ask me first — she just told me he was coming.

I felt a bit annoyed even though the date was basically ending anyway. I also felt uncomfortable with Dan standing there while Kitty and I were saying goodbye. He was mostly glued to his phone, but still. We only had a quick kiss and hug because I felt awkward, whereas normally we’d be a lot more huggable etc, especially since I won’t see Kitty for nearly a week because she’s going to Germany for work.

I plan to talk to Kitty about it and ask that in future she checks with me first before inviting Dan onto the end of our dates. I’m just unsure whether to bring it up now by text so she has time to process it slowly, or wait until she’s back from Germany.

Second part:

I’m also unsure whether to talk to Kitty about Dan’s behaviour/manners in general. I know I don’t need to be best friends with a meta, and that’s completely fine.

The thing is, for the first two years of our relationship, Dan and I were friendly enough. He’d say hi, sometimes chat to me (with Kitty interpreting because I’m deaf), and we’d all do day trips together sometimes.

At some point that changed. Now he often disappears into the guest room without saying hello or acknowledging me. When I try to be friendly, he seems uncomfortable and leaves quickly.

Maybe I’m overthinking it. Maybe he’s just withdrawn because communication between us is harder since I’m deaf and he doesn’t know sign language. I just don’t know.

I’m not looking for friendship from him, but I do want to feel comfortable around him, especially because I’d like to go back to doing overnights more often. We don’t do that much anymore — partly because my place is noisy and Kitty is sensitive to sound, but also partly because lately I feel uncomfortable staying at theirs because of Dan’s vibe/manners.

Would you bring this up with your partner or just leave it alone?