u/seacreaturestuff

I am a stay at home mom raising two little boys. Right now I am having such a difficult time with my 4 year old. Talking back, saying mean things, and a big one for me is wasting food. We buy mostly healthy food, lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and I make many things myself. My son will ask for something, let’s say a croissant and then just break it into small pieces and make something out of the pieces (a robot, a monster, etc) and this is one of my big triggers.
Today at the park, he started throwing some of the blueberries I brought, on the floor and crushing them. When I confront him about it (“why would you do that?”) he gets defensive. My main form of discipline is putting him in timeout if we’re at home. But at this point I just don’t even know what to do. He’s a smart little guy but he has such an attitude.
When I was little, I was afraid of my mom because she would hit me. I turned out okay (I think) and certainly don’t want my son to feel like that but at the same time, speaking calmly and logically to him isn’t working and I’m exhausted.

Just got home from a stay at the contemporary and received a really incredible pixie dusting from a cast member there. It was the most unexpected and really thoughtful thing that was all a result of me trying to find a pen from anyone who happened to be in the vicinity of my room, while I was simultaneously trying not to leave my sleeping child alone, all before my husband returned.

I already complimented her through the app, but I was thinking maybe mailing a thank you card? Has anyone done this? Or any better suggestions.

When I participated in the springtime surprise, there was a phrase they kept repeating “you never know someone else’s storm” or something to that affect. That was the case for the beginning of my trip, and that surprise really had a much larger affect on me than I think that cast member realized. It almost felt karmic. I don’t know.

It was also our first time staying in the park for fireworks with our kids and seeing my oldest’s face when he saw the show, which is so different than viewing it from our room, which is what we typically do, actually got my husband and I choked up.

I’m a passholder who goes often and sometimes I am unable to relate to the posts where people talk about experiencing the magic, however, on this trip, it happened.

If you read all this, thank you