u/serendipity456

I'm looking for recommendations in the USA (can include US territories) to go on vacation mid-August. Preferably, I'm really looking for areas that involve leisure, like beaches or really anything with a relaxation vibe, while still enjoying tourist attractions nearby wherever I travel. I'm not really looking for any intensive activities, just looking to get away and find places that encourage relaxation but still have a lot to explore in the area.

Any recommendations?

So for context, I'm asexual, and although I could theoretically have sex with someone, I don't have a high libido and I also just don't find others sexually attractive. I've also realized that there is a genuinely beautiful thing about having a dom that cares about you, not just in a sexual manner. I've been single my whole life, and I've finally started coming around to the idea of finding a Dom that will order me to do things for taking care of myself and them. The gender of the dom doesn't matter to me.

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That being said, I know D/s relationships generally are sexual in nature, and again while sexual activities can happen in the relationship I'm looking for, it's not a goal or mine and not something I am really passionate about. I'm much more into the emotional side of things.

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For those of you who are experienced in the D/s world, where do I even start looking? Happy to provide additional detail in the replies.

So I [M29] have at a relatively content place in my personal life. I’ve been working at an accounting firm for the past 4.5 years and made a career change to a tax technology practice last year, which I’m really enjoying and am on a trajectory to focus my long-term career on something I actually enjoy. I work fully remote, and so does the rest of my team who are spread all throughout the US.

I also have done significant work with religious deconstruction and rebuilding my belief system for what I actually believe about life and spirituality. This also, in tandem, resulted in my mental health improving a material amount since the start of covid when I began my deconstruction journey.

That all being said, I’ve started realizing recently that I am not fully content with every aspect of my life. For example, when I get free time off of work and don’t have any other obligations to attend to, I’ll typically just play Pokemon or do random shit on my phone or tablet, not really doing anything that productive. I’m not really someone that invites people to my apartment or goes out to socialize, because a majority of my friends’ hangout plans involve going to bars or parties, which I am personally not into either. I’m not in a relationship either, as I’m asexual and not really finding that level of compatibility that I need in my life. I live in a 1 bedroom apartment at a complex that I actually like quite a bit, especially because the facilities staff at this complex are responsible and prompt to any issues I need fixing. And given the housing market right now, I don't really think buying a house that I can call home is in the cards for me right now, which is fine for the time being.

The problem that I am struggling with is that I don’t know what the next path of my life looks like, or what I can do from here to really improve and enjoy my life in a healthier way other than what I’m doing. I feel like I’m stagnant in my life and don’t really know what to do from here to live my fullest possible life.

Has anyone else been in a similar position as I am right now? If so, what did you do to branch out as you moved into a new phase in your life?