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i feel like so many situations now just stay stuck in the talking stage for months without really becoming anything. you text often, maybe go out a few times, vibes are good, but nobody actually says what they want and eventually things either fade or become confusing

sometimes i genuinely cannot tell if people are interested or just bored and looking for someone to talk to

i’m quite chill and easygoing so i usually just go with the flow, but after awhile the uncertainty gets tiring too

for people who’ve actually turned a talking stage into a proper relationship, how did things naturally progress for you

sometimes throughout the day i’ll think of random things, stories, opinions or even just small moments that i feel like sharing with someone, but then i realise i don’t actually text anyone about it

not even in a sad or dramatic way, just feels different compared to before when conversations used to happen more naturally and frequently

i kinda miss having people to casually talk nonsense with at random timings without feeling like i’m disturbing them or forcing conversation

does anyone else feel this way sometimes or is it just part of getting older

sometimes i realise i can have longer and more natural conversations with random people online than people i already know in real life

maybe it’s because there’s less pressure or expectations, but conversations somehow feel more genuine when both people are just talking freely about random things

i kinda miss having people to casually text throughout the day about nonsense, random thoughts or even just how their day went

feels like everyone in real life is always busy nowadays so online conversations become the easier option

does anyone else feel like this too or am i just too used to being online

i don’t know if this is common but sometimes after talking to people i end up replaying the conversation in my head and wondering if i sounded awkward, talked too much or said something weird even when the interaction was probably completely normal

it’s worse when meeting new people because i’ll overanalyse small things like reply timing, tone or whether the conversation felt “natural” enough

the funny thing is i actually enjoy meeting people and making friends, but the overthinking afterwards gets tiring sometimes

for people who used to be like this, how did you stop caring so much about every interaction

during the day everything feels busy and fast, then suddenly at night everything becomes quiet and i realise i don’t actually know what to do with my time sometimes

i’ll scroll for awhile, watch random things, maybe snack abit, but after that it still feels like something is missing. makes me miss having people to randomly talk nonsense with at night or just share how the day went

not even looking for anything serious, just genuine conversations and chill company because nights feel oddly long lately

what do you guys usually do at night to unwind or keep yourself occupied

i realised i can talk to people quite easily on a surface level, but turning those conversations into actual close friendships feels much harder. a lot of interactions stay in the “casual chat” stage and eventually fade even when the vibes seemed good at first

sometimes i wonder if everyone is just busy nowadays or if building deeper friendships actually takes more effort than i thought

for people who managed to build strong friendships in sg outside of school or long-time circles, how did it happen naturally for you

i don’t know if it’s just part of growing up but i feel like friendships used to feel a lot more natural before. last time you could talk to someone every day, randomly ask them out or just call for no reason and it never felt complicated

now everyone has different schedules, responsibilities and their own circles, so even catching up feels like planning a business meeting sometimes

not complaining or anything because i know life changes, but i do miss those easy everyday conversations and spontaneous hangouts abit

how are you guys maintaining friendships nowadays or meeting new people in sg

i’ve noticed that meeting people is actually not that hard, but finding genuine friendships that naturally last feels a lot harder now. a lot of conversations stay at surface level or slowly fade after awhile even when the vibes seemed good at first

sometimes i miss having people to casually talk to throughout the day or friends you can randomly ask out for food without needing to plan weeks ahead

i’m curious how people in sg are building real friendships nowadays outside of school or long existing friend groups. where do you usually meet people that actually become close friends over time

i actually enjoy having alone time and staying home most of the time, but every now and then i still get this random feeling of missing conversations and company. not even anything deep, just simple things like talking nonsense, sending random updates during the day or having someone to share small moments with

then when i do go out and socialise too much, i end up wanting alone time again, so it feels like i can never fully decide what i want. maybe it’s just one of those moods but it’s quite weird trying to balance both sometimes

does anyone else feel like this too or am i just confusing myself

i’m generally fine once i get comfortable with someone, but the beginning stages of meeting new people always feel a bit awkward to me. sometimes i overthink what to say or worry that the conversation is getting dry even when it’s probably normal

the funny thing is i actually enjoy talking to people and making new friends, it’s just getting past that initial unfamiliar stage that feels difficult sometimes

for people who are naturally social or good at conversations, how do you make things feel less awkward when meeting someone new in sg

i feel like lately most conversations have become very short or surface level because everyone is busy with their own things. sometimes i randomly miss having people to just text throughout the day about nonsense, funny things that happened, food cravings or random thoughts at 2am

not even in a sad way, i just realised those kinds of conversations made daily life feel more interesting and less repetitive somehow

i’m honestly quite chill and easygoing, i like random late night talks, food hunts and people who can keep conversations flowing naturally without it feeling forced

feels harder to meet people like that nowadays though. how are you guys making new friends in sg recently

genuine question because i feel like once you’re out of school or not constantly around the same people anymore, making new friends becomes surprisingly difficult. everyone already seems to have their own circles, routines and schedules

i still talk to my existing friends of course, but sometimes i feel like meeting new people and having different conversations outside the same few familiar groups. not even looking for anything specific, just genuine connections and chill people to talk to

i’ve tried things like social apps before but most conversations die very quickly or never move past small talk

for people in sg who managed to make new friends as adults, how did it happen for you

lately i realised most of my conversations are either super short or just replying to stories here and there. feels like everyone is busy with their own life already and it’s harder to have those random late night talks or casual daily conversations now

i honestly miss having people to just text about random things during the day, even small stuff like food cravings, funny moments or complaining about life. not even looking for anything serious, just genuine chill conversations because it gets kinda boring keeping everything to yourself all the time

i’m quite easygoing honestly, i like food hunts, music, random drives and conversations that go completely off topic halfway through. feels like it’s harder to naturally meet new people nowadays though

how do you guys usually make new friends in sg now

could be anything honestly, like finding a seat on mrt during peak hour, good weather after a hot day, your favourite hawker stall having no queue, or even just getting a nice iced drink when you needed it

i realised small things like this can randomly make an average day feel a lot better

curious what little things make your day better in sg because i feel like everyone has their own version of this

sometimes the whole day i’m perfectly fine staying home, then suddenly at night i feel like going out for no reason. not even clubbing or anything exciting, just wanting to drive around, get food, walk somewhere quiet or listen to music outside

something about nighttime in sg just feels calmer compared to the daytime crowd and heat

curious if anyone else gets this feeling too and where you usually go when it happens

not sure if this is the right place to ask but lately i’ve been feeling a bit unsure about where i’m heading. i’m doing the usual things like school or work and everything is fine on the surface, but sometimes it feels like i don’t really have a clear direction

when i look around, it seems like some people already know what they want or are progressing quite steadily, which makes me question if i’m doing enough

for those who have gone through this phase, is this normal and how did you figure things out over time

not sure if this is random but i’ve been feeling like talking to new people lately, just casual chats and seeing where it goes. not really looking for anything specific, just people who are also quite chill and open to conversation

i like simple things like late night talks, random food cravings, and just going with the flow when it comes to plans. feels like it’s harder to meet new people once everyone already has their own circles

if anyone else is in the same boat or just bored and wants someone new to talk to, what do you usually do to meet people in sg or start conversations

not sure if this is weird but i’ve been feeling like i want to meet new people lately. not in a big group kind of way, just simple chats, sharing random things, maybe finding people who are also quite chill

i’m usually into late night talks, random food cravings and just walking around without much of a plan. nothing too exciting but i enjoy simple things like that

feels like everyone already has their own circles so it’s abit hard to just connect with new people naturally

if anyone else feels the same or just wants someone new to talk to, what do you usually do or where do you meet people in sg

lately i’ve been feeling quite drained even though i’m not doing anything extremely intense, just the usual school or work routine. it’s like mentally tired but still have to keep going because everything is ongoing

i’ve tried resting more and taking breaks but sometimes it doesn’t really help long term, and the feeling just comes back

for those who experienced burnout before, what actually helped you recover or manage it better in sg context

lately i keep getting this feeling like i’m just waiting for the next thing, waiting for the weekend, waiting for plans, waiting for something to change. but when i actually think about it, nothing specific is even happening, it’s like everything is fine but also a bit stagnant at the same time, not sure if it’s just a phase or just part of growing up. does anyone else feel this way or how do you get out of this kind of mindset