u/sexy_potato_24

I F36, and my husband is M37, let us call him John have been together for 10 years and married for 2.

After the wedding, I got pregnant and moved from the country I had been living in to the country where John works, which is on the opposite side of the continent.

I am a stay-at-home mom for the time being, but I am going to start working soon. I do have my own salary. My husband works between 10 and 12 hours daily.

Since I moved here, my mom has visited once to help when I delivered my baby, she stayed for one month, and my FIL was here as well. John owns a restaurant where his cousin and my FIL work, both live in a neighboring country twelve hours car ride away.

All the time i lived here, we have had someone living with us. If my FIL leaves, the cousin comes; when the cousin leaves, my FIL comes, and occasionally my husband's uncle does too.

I forgot to mention that we live in a two-bedroom apartment. John, my son, and I share one room, and the other one is for whoever is visiting at the time. In the best month, I get ten days, non-consecutive, with no visitors.

I have been doing all the cleaning, changing all the bed sheets, doing the laundry, cooking, and buying the groceries, sometimes I pay and sometimes my husband does, but never our guests. They use everything I buy, including toiletries, shampoo (we need a new one every 3 days) , shower gel is enough for 4 days top), and deodorant, you get the picture. I lost count on how manytimes i went in to shower, only to find out that all the bottles are empty. It has been a little over a year now.

The last time the cousin was here, I had bought four bottles of deodorant that John and the cousin shared, and they used them all in one week. So, i decided enough is enough and stopped buying anything. A few days later, the cousin came out of his room while I was minding my business in the living room, holding a deodorant of a different brand than the ones I buy, and asked me to buy more because he had run out.

This man had been keeping his own things untouched while using my husband's things all this time, and he had the audacity to ask me for more. After this incident, I asked my husband to tell them to stop coming, as I want the room for our son and I am uncomfortable having someone here 24/7.

Since then, my FIL came twice and stayed 10-15 days each time, and now the cousin is here. I have had enough.

I spoke to John and told him to speak to his cousin to find other accommodation because if we are living like this, I am leaving him. He said he understands and he will fix it. The day after, nothing happened andI woke up to find the whole milk carton I bought for my son empty. Guess who drank it all. If you say the cousin, you win. I woke John and told him to go get milk before I lose my temper.

I gave the ultimatum again and told him to give me a date when the cousin will move. "Soon" is not cutting it for me anymore. He said before Friday today is Sunday.

If any visitors are here on Friday, I am leaving and not coming back! So, am I the a-hole for giving my husband an ultimatum that it is me or his family?

I am a 36-year-old female, and my husband is a 37-year-old male, let us call him John. We have been together for 10 years and married for two. After the wedding, I became pregnant and moved from the country I had been living in to the country where John works, which is on the opposite side of the continent. I am a stay-at-home mom for the time being, but I am going to start working soon. I do have my own salary. My husband works between ten and twelve hours daily. Since I moved here, my mom has visited once to help when I delivered my baby; she stayed for one month, and my father-in-law was here as well. John owns a restaurant where his cousin and my father-in-law work, both live in a neighboring country twelve hours away. Since I moved here, we have had someone living with us constantly. If my father-in-law leaves, the cousin comes; when the cousin leaves, my father-in-law comes, and occasionally my husband's uncle does too. I forgot to mention that we live in a two-bedroom apartment. My husband, my son, and I share one room, and the other one is for whoever is visiting at the time. In the best month, I get ten days, non-consecutive, with no visitors. I have been doing all the cleaning, changing all the bed sheets, doing the laundry, cooking, and buying the groceries, sometimes I pay and sometimes my husband does, but never our guests. They use everything I buy, including toiletries, shampoo (we need a new one every 3 days) , shower gel is enough for 4 days top) , and deodorant, you get the picture. I lost count on how manytimes i went in to shower, only to find out that all the bottles are empty. It has been a little over a year now. The last time the cousin was here, I had bought four bottles of deodorant that John and the cousin shared, and they used them all in one week. So, i decided enough is enough and stopped buying anything. A few days later, the cousin came out of his room while I was in the living room, holding a deodorant of a different brand than the ones I buy, and asked me to buy more because he had run out. This man had been keeping his own things untouched while using my husband's supplies all this time, and he had the audacity to ask me for more. After this incident, I asked my husband to tell them to stop coming, as I want the room for our son and I am uncomfortable having someone here 24/7. Since then, my father-in-law came twice and stayed 10-15 days, and now the cousin is here. I have had enough. I spoke to John and told him to speak to his cousin to find other accommodation because if we are living like this, I am leaving him. He said he understands and he will fix it. The day after, nothing happened. I woke up to find the whole milk carton I bought for my son empty. Guess who drank it all. If you say the cousin, you win. I woke John and told him to go get milk before I lose my temper. I gave the ultimatum again and told John to give me a date when the cousin will move. "Soon" is not cutting it for me anymore. He said before Friday; today is Sunday. If any visitors are here on Friday, I am leaving and not coming back! So, am I the a-hole for giving my husband an ultimatum that it is me or his family?

I am a 36-year-old female, and my husband is a 37-year-old male, let us call him John. We have been together for 10 years and married for two.

After the wedding, I became pregnant and moved from the country I had been living in to the country where John works, which is on the opposite side of the continent.

I am a stay-at-home mom for the time being, but I am going to start working soon. I do have my own salary. My husband works between ten and twelve hours daily.

Since I moved here, my mom has visited once to help when I delivered my baby; she stayed for one month, and my FIL was here as well. John owns a restaurant where his cousin and my FIL work, both live in a neighboring country twelve hours car ride away.

Since I moved here, we have had someone living with us constantly. If my FIL leaves, the cousin comes; when the cousin leaves, my FIL comes, and occasionally my husband's uncle does too.

I forgot to mention that we live in a two-bedroom apartment. My husband, my son, and I share one room, and the other one is for whoever is visiting at the time. In the best month, I get ten days, non-consecutive, with no visitors.

I have been doing all the cleaning, changing all the bed sheets, doing the laundry, cooking, and buying the groceries, sometimes I pay and sometimes my husband does, but never our guests. They use everything I buy, including toiletries, shampoo (we need a new one every 3 days) , shower gel is enough for 4 days top), and deodorant, you get the picture. I lost count on how manytimes i went in to shower, only to find out that all the bottles are empty. It has been a little over a year now.

The last time the cousin was here, I had bought four bottles of deodorant that John and the cousin shared, and they used them all in one week. So, i decided enough is enough and stopped buying anything. A few days later, the cousin came out of his room while I was minding my own business in the living room, holding a deodorant of a different brand than the ones I buy, and asked me to buy more because he had run out.

This man had been keeping his own things untouched while using my husband's supplies all this time, and he had the audacity to ask me for more. After this incident, I asked my husband to tell them to stop coming, as I want the room for our son and I am uncomfortable having someone here 24/7.

Since then, my FIL came twice and stayed 10-15 days each time, and now the cousin is here. I have had enough.

I spoke to John and told him to speak to his cousin to find other accommodation because if we are living like this, I am leaving him. He said he understands and he will fix it. The day after, nothing happened.

I woke up to find the whole milk carton I bought for my son empty. Guess who drank it all. If you say the cousin, you win. I woke John and told him to go get milk before I lose my temper. I gave the ultimatum again and told him to give me a date when the cousin will move. "Soon" is not cutting it for me anymore. He said before Friday today is Sunday.

If any visitors are here on Friday, I am leaving and not coming back! So, my lovely potatoes, am I the a-hole for giving my husband an ultimatum that it is me or his family?