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It’s rude when strangers, or people you’re not close with, make jokes about your height.

Sure, we make all kinds of jokes like that with our close friends. We make fun of baldness, make racial jokes, and joke about all sorts of things. That’s normal when there’s mutual trust and everyone knows each other’s boundaries.

But when you’re in a group where you’re not close with a lot of the people there, and someone feels entitled to make a personal or harsh joke at your expense, that’s just plain disrespectful.

Being upset by those kinds of jokes doesn’t mean we’re insecure about our height. It means someone is crossing our boundaries and treating us disrespectfully. If you’re not close with someone, you don’t have the right to make harsh or personal jokes at their expense.

Why is something this simple so often dismissed as “insecurity” about our height?

Hi, I’m a 32-year-old man.

I haven’t had much luck with dating so far, and I think my biggest issue is my height. I live in a country where the average height for men is around 174 cm, while I’m 168 cm.

Since I couldn’t change my height, I tried to make up for it in other areas—fitness, education, income, personality, hobbies, and so on. But even after working on all of those things, I still haven’t had much luck with dating.

I’m considering limb-lengthening surgery to finally address this issue once and for all and increase my height to 174 cm.

But I’m worried that having had the surgery might be seen as another negative and somehow cancel out the benefits of being taller.

So I wanted to know what you think about a man who chooses to have this surgery. Would you still be open to dating him, or would the fact that he’s had limb-lengthening surgery be a dealbreaker for you?

Thanks!