u/shapeofmahheart

Hi!

I have a 9m1w old who is an OK sleeper with low-ish sleep needs.

Current routine:

5:30AM wake up (goal is 6:00/6:30, we've had quite a few 5:00 lately)

9:30/10:00AM Nap for 1.5h

2:30/3PM nap for 30-45 minutes

7:30PM bedtime, bottle around 6:30PM.

Most days naps go well on this routine, sometimes a nap fails, you know how it goes.

For going for a nap, we tell him while he's playing that he's going for a nap, walk up to his bedroom while discussing his morning/afternoon and tell him he's going for a nap, put him in his sleepsack, give him a quick cuddle, put him in his crib, tell him 'love you, have a good nap' and leave. This has worked for him well for quite a while, he gets restless if we remain in the room. Sometimes we go in after a minute or 2 to soothe for a bit if something is bothering him, but it's rare that that isn't enough to help him go to sleep if the timing is right. Bedtime is (bath), book, pj's, cuddle, bed, song.

He's always been one to have night feeds. We've fluctuated a lot, have had a handful of nights without a night feed. We've tried to reduce his night feeds, and he gets about 50-60% of a normal bottle during a night feed.

Now to our current issue: he's started absolutely screaming when he wakes up at night for a feed. Previously, he'd gently rouse and start softly complaining and sometimes we'd even be able to shush/butt tap (sometimes rock) him to sleep. But now? Pretty much instant SCREAMS. He wont let us touch him. I feel like such an awful mom when I try to help him calm down and he rejects anything I try. He just continues screaming until het gets that bottle.

We aren't hard set on fully night weaning, but we'd love to move atleast in the direction of a single night feed, and mostly help him with whatever is making him scream that way.

Any tips? thank you

My newly 9mo started transitioning from 3->2 naps between 7&8 months and has been consistently on 2 since then (except when sick).

He has been waking up early, 5:15-5:30AM consistently, but doesnt go down for his first nap for ages.

Currently the wake windows are 4-4.5/3/3.5-4. He goes to bed around 7PM. Most nights 1 wake up for a feed sometime between 12-2AM.

First nap is steadily 1.5h, second varies 30-90 minutes.

We leave him in his crib until 6:00AM. Doesnt get his milk bottle until 6:45-7AM.

For a week we tried transitioning bed time earlier, to 6:30P, which didnt do anything. So now we’ve been pushing it back again, we’re now at 7PM and will be trying for 7:15-7:30P in the next few days.

What else can we try to move to desired wake time of atleast 6AM, ideally 6:30?

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