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baby is at daycare wed-fri so i don’t have much control over his naps those days..

his naps are all over the place no matter what i’ve tried. we aim for bedtime 6:30-7pm and he naturally wakes up 5:30-6:30am usually.

he has a feed to sleep association which is being a massive struggle to break. not interested in doing ferber or CIO, gentle training doesn’t seem to work either so far

night sleep is not continuous still 4-5+ wakes i just don’t log it.

pls help

sincerely,
a tired mummy

Wtf was that last night?? I thought we were starting the 4 month regression over for a minute with 6 wakes between 7pm & 11pm, then he goes on to sleep almost 8 hours after that. Does anyone have any idea why this might’ve happened?
4.5 months old. Usually sleeps great with 1-3 wakes per night to eat only. His last nap ended at 4:30pm which put bedtime at 7pm for a 3-nap day. Total day sleep was 3h50m
Thanks!

I am struggling. 7.5 month old whose sleep just continues to get worse and worse no matter what I try to do. We have tried sticking to wake windows as much as possible (2.25/2.5/2.5/2.75-3) but he will have a better night then yo-yo straight back to 6-8 wakes a night. What’s most frustrating is the multiple transfer fails in the middle of the night - is my baby chronically undertired or overtired? Do I need to stretch wake windows (even though that often backfires)? Today I tried the Dana method for set nap times and it was okay until we were running errands when he needed the cat nap and he would not fall asleep in the car.

Yes he is fed to sleep at night, but he’s capable of linking cycles independently so I think I have a schedule problem. Most naps you see that are longer than 35 minutes have been rescued especially the second nap - I can never seem to get that one right. Any advice welcome! 🤗

My baby sleeps a lot during the day- following 1/1.25/1.25/1.5/1.5 and naps look like:

Wake ~ 7:00 am
Nap 1~ 8:00-10:00
Nap 2~11:15-12:30
Nap 3~1:45-3:15
Nap 4~4:45-5:30

However bedtime is a mess! She’s definitely tired at 7 and cries to be put down but usually won’t actually fall asleep until 9/930 (and it’s a struggle to get there). A lot of false starts and difficulty to transfer. I’m guessing I need to shorten day naps? But don’t know how because she’ll get really upset if I try to expand any of the wake windows. Any advice?

Hi there, first time posting on Reddit. I’m hoping for some support. My little one is 7.5 months old. Sleep resembled a typical newborn until about 4 months when baby started sleeping through the night. Naps were always short, 30 minutes max but then baby would sleep 12-13 hours at night. Once baby turned 6 months everything went to crap. Baby started waking up at least 3 times a night. Most of the time baby is awake for 30 minutes to an hour. The max baby seems to sleep is 3.5 hours at a time. I keep night wakes boring, with just enough light to see to change a diaper and offer a bottle if those are needed.

During the day I make sure there’s lots of sunlight and I’ve tried to keep a schedule with the goal being 10hrs of wake time. Set wake up at 7am, first nap at 10am, second around 2-2:30pm with bedtime between 7:30pm-8pm. Sometimes baby is up at 5/5:30am and is ready for the day though. More often baby is up between 6am-7am. Naps have lengthened out. Usually 1.5 hours however sometimes 30 minutes. Those days I push for a third nap otherwise bed time would be quite early.

A few things to note. Baby is formula fed. Prior to 6 months was drinking 7-8oz bottles 4-5 times a day. At 6 months that dropped significantly. I’ve been offering 4oz bottles more frequently during the day to help get in the recommended amount. Baby has 2 solid meals a day and typically eats the expected amount 3-4tbsp each meal.

Baby got their first teeth around 5 months. I’m always thinking they are teething but I don’t see any more popping through yet.

Baby has also had massive development since turning 6 months. They roll, pivot, sit independently and can sit themselves up. They are also very, very close to crawling. They are at the rocking stage and can shuffle one or two steps.

I know this could be normal I’m just not sure if I’m missing something. It’s been a few weeks now and I’m so exhausted. I keep telling myself this phase will pass but it’s getting harder to believe that.

My 8 month old has been fighting and screaming at bedtime for almost a week and I’d like advice. It’s wearing on us emotionally because falling asleep by herself has been her only strong suit for several months.

We generally wake her up between 7:00-7:30a, she averages about 3 hours of naps a day, 13.5 hours of sleep/day. Average wake windows are 3/3.5/3.5. She generally goes down to bed around 8, give or take 10 minutes based on cues. She has been going to sleep in under 10 minutes by herself in her own room until this week.

Suddenly she has been screaming until she hyperventilates and can take up to an hour to calm down or has a false start and then screams. On the 13th and 17th, those fits are followed by 8-10 hours of straight sleep, which have only happened a couple times before in her entire life. We think this may be the start of separation anxiety, but does anyone have suggestions on what else it could be?? What are we missing here?

My baby is 8 months old but recently, he keeps waking up at night but only for 3-10 minutes. It’s either he wants food or his dummy fell out of his mouth. He only takes about 30-90ml whenever he wakes up at night. During day time he takes 180-210ml every feed.

So do I continue tracking this 3-10 mins wake windows? Thanks x

Berrys great advice is for an adult to crawl into a crib to help transition a baby to sleep and then climb out once baby is asleep 😂🤦‍♀️

Any other laughable suggestions from Berry?

Hi!

Baby was never a good sleeper but I really thought it will be better once he gets older.

I implemented 3/3.5/4h wake windows last week but still he has a lot of night parties/wake ups.

He’s still feeding at night, we tried giving him 1oz less every few days until we got to two 1oz bottles per night, but he was sleeping even worse 😵‍💫 having night parties etc.

If we give him like two 3oz bottles per night he would sleep through and no wake up. However I don’t think that’s ok at his age, right? 😵‍💫 he has never been fed to sleep.

Please share with me any advice you have!! 🥺 I’m so tired..

We're in Mexico, from the UK. I was worried about how my baby would cope with the time difference, but she did so well. Better than my husband. She's 8 months old.

So sharing in case some parents are worried about future travel!

We left on the 13th or May, we had already slightly delayed her bedtime and wake up the week before. On the day of travel, we left at lunchtime. She took her usual afternoon nap. Then she started her night and slept 90 minutes before landing. We didn't try to keep her asleep as we landed around 6 pm local time. She took another nap on the way to the hotel from the airport. She ended up going to bed at around 4 am British time, 10 pm Mexican time. And slept until 4 am, then a bit more between 5 and 6 am.

She went to bed early the day after and needed a couple times resettling. She had a bit of awake time on the third night.

And now for the past two nights, she's slept through again!

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Hello everyone!!! We have a 7 month old baby who sleeps very short naps. We had a very bad 4 month sleep regression, with wake ups every hour or so, but now his night sleep is much better. He now sleeps 10-11 hours in the night, with a couple of dream feeds.

However, it feels like his naps cannot get longer. During the day, he will sleep 35-45 minutes, and that's it, he wakes up. Sometimes he wakes up crying, sometimes no. We always try to rescue the naps, either by me feeding him when I can (I have started working again but I wfh, with decent flexibility) or his father will have to walk with him in the corridors. Lately though, even these don't work. Is there anything that we can do to help him sleep longer naps? No sleep training, especially any of the CIO methods.

For context, he is EBF, on 3 naps a day and his wake windows are approximately 2.5/2.5/2.5/3, with naps lasting around 2.5 hours and 10.5-11 hours of night sleep. We start the bedtime routine at 8-8.30 and he is usually asleep by 9pm, waking up at 7.30-8am. for context adding screenshot of a week. thank you very much for the help!

11 months old, starting to struggle at bed time and sometimes the 2nd nap. First nap, shes out within minutes, 2nd nap is closer to 10/15 minutes (sometimes one rescue is needed til she'll settle), and bedtime is a pretty routine struggle for the past week where shes going way past her sweet spot and needing more help.

Im also confused with the wake windows. Ideally, Id like to have her awake by 7am (that means 8p bed time for that 11 night stretch, right?). So first nap at 10am. Well, if I let her sleep any later than 11ish, her 2nd nap would be too late to give her a good bedtime so I have her up by 11a, no later than 15 mins past the hour. So that means 2nd nap around 240/3p typically. And then she'd need to be up by 4p in order to keep an 8p bed time. According to sweet spots. Im waking her up from pretty much every nap, and morning wake up is sometimes me waking her, sometimes on her own. For naps, I usually start putting her to sleep about 15 mins before sweetspot time, and shes typically asleep before or at the spot. Her bedtime, I've been starting 20ish mins before sweet spot, and sometimes its taking her 40mins to fall asleep, or longer. Once 9p is creeping near, I'm stressing a bit about needing to wake her up at 7a the next day lol vicious mental load cycle

Also, the sweetspot screenshot shows the suggested windows and her data, but telegram fine print gives a shorter wake window than some of her sweet spots. So am I pushing her too tired by the end of the night? She really doesn't show sleepy signs usually.

Any different suggestions/opinions?

Overall, I'm not necessarily complaining on my end, but wanting to make sure I'm doing baby right with sleep.

Our little one turned 7 months recently and just checking in to see if we’re looking okay - around 2hrs 50m of daytime sleep and usually bedtime is 8:30-40pm to wake up around 7am. We try and wake between 7-7:30am. Rogue day where we slept in!

We co sleep - sometimes from the get go, sometimes we’ll have him in his next to me for a couple hours before bringing him into bed. We’re safe, follow the safe sleep guidelines and me and LO enjoy it and sleep is much better when we co sleep. He occasionally wakes in the night (I don’t track it) but that’s gotten better since we’ve reduced daytime naps.

He latches on and off throughout the night and goes back without a problem! Occasionally we have an early wake up but we try and stretch the wake windows to make him last until 8:30pm!

I’m wondering when to drop the last nap, will I just know when he’s ready? 😂 I don’t think he can manage from about 2:30-8:30pm yet without a little nap in between!

He has just learned to sit, desperately trying to crawl and we think teething as well!

please help, ftm to a 10 month old boy who is generally a good sleeper but every single night we deal with a false start. i’ve tried to extend the last wake window, i’ve shortened it, ive stuck with a routine, ive done no routine, ive tried it all. he’s on a 2 nap a day schedule getting about 3 hours daytime sleep.

Hi.. looking for advice from parents with similar age babies..