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Hello… can anyone help with split nights? My 10month old used to maybe have 1 split night (awake for 1-2hrs) every 1-2 weeks but it’s now every night & I go back to work this week 😭

We just switched to two naps cold turkey about 3 weeks ago because of timing issues of picking up my older 3 kids from camps and I just couldn’t get a third nap in anymore. The first week or so it seemed fine but I haven’t been able to get things consistent with nights anymore. He previously woke up on average once a night to feed and occasionally more than once but it was generally consistent and no early morning wakes.

On 3 naps, we’re at 2.5/3/3.5 - which I know is not the ideal schedule but I was trying to push the first to 3 and he was struggling with short first nap.

The past several days I capped his first nap at 1.5 hours when he usually would sleep 2 just to ensure I could allow time for a decent second nap so they both generally are around 1.5 each.

The last several nights I’ve either had false start, multiple wakings, early morning wakes around 6am, etc. he is not sleep trained and I nurse him to sleep. I know he can connect sleep cycles because he has done long 6+hour stretches.

First pic is the old 3 nap schedule and the second is what’s occurred the last week on 2 naps.

Any suggestions? 🤪

This is for my 5-month-old. Everyone asks her about her sleep and is so shocked that she doesn't sleep completely through. All we constantly get is "mine slept through at 8 weeks and that was it". It's mostly the same family members who consistently bring it up. She wakes once at night. Am I doing things mostly wrong? We don't let her cry it out. She always goes down drowsy but awake. I worry her sleep is too low, but she wakes chatty and happy. We use the sweet spot to determine naps - should we now move to set nap times?

I am not complaining about her sleep at all! I'm just frustrated that people keep making me feel rubbish for not having her sleep through the night yet.

Hi all,

I need advice on how to make night sleep better. My baby is 5 months + 1 week old. Not sleep trained yet. I had occasional 1 night wakings but mostly night wakings are 3-4. Any advice on wake windows/nap time or should I just do cold turkey sleep train? Very confuse?

My baby boy is a year old today 😭 it doesn’t feel like it’s been that long since I’ve had him.

He’s been on this schedule (picture above) since about 10 months

He still nurses but drinks breast milk out of a cup for meals

He’s fully walking now 🥹

Loves his “big” brother (big brother is turning 2 next month and they’re almost the same size 😅)

He was born at 7lbs and he’s now 29lbs

First word was mama but he says dada and ball

Knows the signs for milk, more, please, and eat

Names he’s been given: Samuel, Sam, Sammy, ham Sammy, Eugene (middle name), Sammy Gene

Just an emotional mom today over my baby turning 1 😭

Baby turned 12 weeks old today, and since about 8 weeks her sleep has been a disaster. Before this, she was regularly going 6 hours between feeds at night for her first stretch, and then anywhere between 3-5 hours after that, and sleeping through the entirety of these stretches, only waking when hungry.

But now, she wakes up constantly through the night, and not from hunger. She is still going anywhere up to 8 hours between feeds at night, but still waking up and I can't figure out why. She will stir, wake fully, thrash around a bit, and eventually cry so I intervene. Usually a dummy and/or stroking her head gets her back to sleep almost instantly (she goes to sleep without the dummy). Sometimes she will go back to sleep for an hour or more, and sometimes only a few minutes.

I've tried more daytime naps, less naps, getting better with wake windows, room temperature, bedtime routine. Nothing seems to make a difference. On Saturday 27th she did actually stay asleep during her first stretch, but it hasn't happened since.

She has started to go to sleep for some naps/nightimes independently as of about a week ago, but this is still hit and miss.

Does anyone have any ideas, tips or tricks, similar experiences or just a bit of hope that this isn't forever. Constant broken sleep is really taking it's toll and there doesn't seem to be any light at the end of the tunnel. And I feel so bad for my baby as she just wants to sleep. Every time she wakes she looks so, so tired. And by the time I get her up at 8am she is already exhausted every day.

Our 8 week old baby will only sleep a maximum 3 hours for her first night stretch then if we are lucky we will maybe get one 2 hour. After that she only sleeps an 40mins at a time because she can’t connect sleep cycles. The only thing saving me is cosleeping at that point. During the day she eats every 1.5 to 2hrs and for only 5 minutes at a time. I’m wondering if she is “snacking”. I’ve heard extending time in between feeds can lead to fuller feeds and longer sleep times. Has anyone tried this, did you have success?

Thank you

LO is seven months today and I need sleep 😭
She falls asleep independently which is the polar opposite of my son. We sleep trained my son because he relied on bouncing to fall asleep and he slept great!

I don’t know how to go about sleep training LO because she falls asleep on her own and quickly! She is having trouble connecting her sleep cycles every three hours. The thought of Ferber at 2 am sounds awful 😭

She has about 28 oz during the day & two puree feeds. We have been decreasing the amount of milk her bottle at night and she is currently doing 3oz each feed

Advise is greatly appreciated

Edit current schedule

Wake windows: 2/2.5/2.5/3
Nap 1 & 2: one hour and 15 mins
Nap 3: thirty minutes

Baby is almost 5 months. She used to be a pretty decent sleeper prior to the 4 month sleep regression. Would consistently do 5+ hour stretches. Since about 3.5 months it’s been weeks and weeks of waking every 2-3 hours. She also now has a strong preference for me to do bedtime and screams if my husband tries to put her down. She is exclusively breastfed. I’ve gotten her to take crib naps but she will only do 30 mins in the crib, and rescuing rarely works. She’ll just pop awake. Therefore, I will try to do at least one carrier nap to give her the opportunity to catch up on sleep.

Please note that the night sleep isn’t logged accurately, meaning I don’t always log a wake up if I’m too tired. But the naps and bedtime are logged accurately.

I have so many questions that I’d love some insight on:

1. We have not done any formal sleep training or anything. I’ve just been following her cues. I’m wondering if it’s time to start? What can I do to promote longer stretches?
2. What can help promote naps in the crib?
3. Any advice on how to help her start allowing dad to do bedtime? Our routine is very consistent: he does bath, diaper, lotion. Then I feed her while playing the same classical music playlist. Then he takes her to start rocking her to sleep. She will be ok at first but then has an utter meltdown until I come to support.
4. Do you all still follow sleep cues? Or have you transitioned to clock based schedule?

I go back to work in a month, and my MIL and mom will be with her and handling naps. So I really would like to be decently well rested for work and also have her be ok with other people putting her to sleep.

1 week shy of 7 months. I did it cold turkey, let her sleep in a touch later than normal and extended the wake windows GREATLY. Jumped from about 2/2.25/2.5/2.75 to 2.5/3/3.5 and night was completely unchanged, no issues with overtiredness (she already sleeps entirely independently for all sleep sessions). So proud of her!

My baby has never been a great sleeper but at one point I did have less than 4 wake ups a night and he would do a 4 hour block of sleep lately it’s gone to absolute madness. I have tried dropping to two naps a day he can’t make those wake windows at the moment. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I feed him back to sleep during the night as it’s the quickest and easiest solution for both of us and I’m not keen on co sleeping. And I don’t want to sleep train.

I know I should be grateful that she is sleeping overnight, and I am.. but I’m finding it really difficult really difficult to meet her actual sleep needs. I already cap naps at 2.5 hours, otherwise I get split nights. Yet even at 2.5 hours naps she only gives me 10 hours max at night. But often it’s only 9-9.5 hours. This would be fine if she was happy, but she’s not. After only an hour after waking in the morning (after I try and fail to keep her sleeping), she is crying, rubbing her eyes etc. On days where she only gives me 9-9.5hrs overnight, she is cranky all day even if naps are decent. I don’t know what else I can do.

eta: idk how I put the word “needs” as a spoiler lol, didn’t mean that

Is this too bright for 2.5mo daytime naps? He does not settle in the bassinet for long during the day without waking up (maybe 20-30 mins). Do I need to add a darker shade behind the curtains for total darkness?

Hi everyone!

I’m FTM of a 3 month old boy and would love some tips on how to improve his sleep. I’m EBF at the moment and haven’t really done any specific schedule for him. A couple of things I’d like to cover:

- Started tracking his sleep 1 month in and he has never done more than avg 12h, with only very rare days that got to 14h max. He’s healthy and growing, but of course I’m worried that it is on the low end and that it might not be enough for him?

- I’m the main caregiver both day and night time, my partner although tries to help does work full time and does not wake up during the night so we cannot do shifts. I’m managing with the current night wakes but I do eventually get quite tired. I do try to feed him as much as I can during the day but given EBF I dont know exact amount / intake.

- Because of the current wakes, I think I’m the most tired from 6-8AM, but this is also the period where he’s most likely to wake up proper as theres less sleep pressure. How do you all manage? Preferably I’d like his daily wake up time to be 8AM and I can try to stick to that, but given how little and fragmented he sleeps, I’m not sure if a 8-8 schedule would work?

Oh additionally he sleeps easiest if I nurse him. Day naps tend to be contact naps with rare occasions that I could put him down, night sleep would be in his crib most of the time. Some other times I could rock and sing him to sleep but recently it got more difficult to do so. He uses white noise for night and sometimes day nap but not always needed.

I know theres probably some very obvious things but would appreciate genuine tips / what you found worked.

Thank you all!

My baby will be 6 months old tomorrow. I included a couple screenshots to show how things have gotten worse the last few days. We were in the trenches between 3-5 months and it FINALLY got better. He was consistently only waking once around 3-4 am and even slept 11 hour stretches a few times. Now he’s suddenly back to waking up multiple times and needing to feed earlier. My husband tries to settle him first but if he doesn’t, I go ahead and feed him (EBF). He often needs to be picked up multiple times if he wakes up after transfers.

I work Monday & Tuesday 8-6 and Thursday 12:30-6. My MIL watches him during those times. We exclusively contact nap, he has done crib naps before but it’s so time consuming to get him down I just don’t care anymore lol.

I thought we were finally transitioning to 3 naps but now he’s back to 4. Especially when my MIL is watching him because he tends to sleep better with me. Bedtime has been all over the place and I can’t figure out how to make it consistent because his last nap is never consistent. Wake up time is not consistent either, we never are the ones to wake him up because he usually wakes up way too early.

Do we just keep going? Does a 6 month old need more consistency? We mostly just try to follow his cues and have never implemented any kind of schedule. If we were to solidify bedtime a bit more, what time would make sense and how do we make that work based on his last nap? (For example, sometimes he is too tired by 6 pm to stay up but if he naps he will go to bed way too late)

Edit to add that last week we were on vacation staying with my parents and he slept AMAZING even being in a different environment, so I got my hopes up so much

My baby just turned 3 month old today. Since the newborn trenches, we haven't done much with regards to his sleep. We have basically just followed his cues, letting him sleep and wake as he needed and watching his wake windows. I somtimes do cap naps at 2.5 hours (if he does have nap that long).

We do have some sort of night time routine, but it's not consistent everyday (we're going to work on this). He used to sleep in the Snoo very well, but since 2 months, he just didn't take to it anymore. He was only sleeping for 30-40 minutes in it instead of a 1-2 hours. We still try to sometimes do one nap in it a day. In order to protect his sleep, we're now doing contact naps and safe 7 co-sleeping. We're also able to lay him down on our bed after 45 minutes of contact nap and he'd continue sleeping there supervised. Not interested in sleep training.

As you can see, naps are pretty much all over the place, but are we doing ok with sleep at this age? Since he's 3 months now, I want to get ahead and start gently introducing good sleep habits and lightly start him on a schedule. We haven't really been to outings since I'm worried about his unpredictable naps. I'm not sure how to stretch wake windows, or how to help him transition to more consolidated naps. Is this even needed at this age? Any advice or resources would be greatly appreciated!

After a few months of not tracking, we decided to track again because nights felt messy and I want to get a bit more of a nap schedule.

My mind calculation of baby sleeping about 12-12.5h over 24h was correct, so that’s fun. He’s always been on the lower end of sleep need. We’ve slowly been pushing up bedtime to get rid of the 5AM-5:30 wakes which appears to be helping! However, nights remain broken as ever.
He demands a feed every ~4 hours.
Not logged, but basically every break line is a small feed.

What can we do to help him sleep through?
Bottle is at the start of the routine/broken away from the bedtime routine already. Puts himself to sleep for naps and bedtime. Wont be rocked or shushed or whatever to sleep.