I 25M is suffering from EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY TRAUMA she a 25F I AM confused and in a shock after confronting she told me she has lost a sense of herself being moral person and wants me to give her some time to think .Should I stay or break up.
We have been dating for 4 years and when we started long distance she hid someone and had a deep emotional bond with another person it lasted for 3 months and then she realized it was wrong it all started when she broke down mentally and showed vulnerability to the other person...she cried about the things that I said to her which got her hurt and he shared his trauma they both also flirted and called petnames(baby, baddie) to each other they used to hug and hold hands ......they both were supporting each other emotionally and I was left blindsighted........she even blocked me for 7 to 10 days during that time .....and told me the reason is that she was trying to move on from me because her parents were creating pressure to do arrange marriage......After her emotional bond got over she came back to and acted the same way and thought that I will never know......but after 5 months I once checked her insta and she instantly changed the password so I confronted her and she told me the entire details after a week .....she told me that she came to a conclusion that she is an evil and characterless person and that's why she did it......it leaves me struggle with all this trauma alone she has become unempathatic towards me she says it has took a great impact on her mental state and the illusion of her being a moral person has shattered.....so I am left with all these questions that I want to deal with her but looking at her state I pity her........What should I do with my urge to help her and urge to shoot her in the head.......I am confused and I have decided to not talk to her for a week .....I don't want to decide whether to stay with her or not in this emotional state ......I first want to get my mind back take a break and than take a decision........I told her I am ready to work this through but I don't guarantee anything.I am in a dilemma whether she is a good person or not for me.I am really scared to give her my trust.