u/shordygotwap

It is a very clear pattern I’ve noticed with many (many as in a large amount; NOT ALL) men behaving as if they think virginity raises a woman’s “value” in the dating world. some men will say they’ll only get with a virgin(while not being virgins themselves), fetishize virgins, or act like men go absolutely crazy over virgin girls. It has been totally incongruent with my real life experience. in the modern dating world sex is generally expected, especially by many men, sooner rather than later. I would wager that many of these men who claim to prefer virgins would leave a girl if she doesn’t sleep with him early on in the relationship, or pressure her into having sex as if reluctance/unwillingness/inability to have sex isn’t the very reason she is a virgin in the first place. the truth is that the dating market simply does not reward virginity in EITHER gender. I have found that many even view virginity, prudishness, and sexlessneas in a woman as a turnoff, the same way many women do in men. I just wish people could be honest. whenever I hear someone talking about how prized virgins are I just assume they are terminally online.

I am 19f, grandmother \~late 70s f, mother 50f.

My mother is blaming me for my grandmother’s fall, but I don’t understand how it is my fault.

I left a plate I used to eat food out overnight on the table and forgot to take it and wash it. My grandmother went to take it late at night and tripped on something in the kitchen and had a serious fall and currently can’t walk and now my mother is blaming me for it. While I shouldnt have left out the plate, i don’t see how this is my fault. firstly my mother is the one that placed the item that caused the fall in the kitchen(carton of beverages). and an elderly person having a fall is not something a reasonable person could expect from putting a plate on a table, where plates are typically used?? my grandmother is also able bodied, mobile and healthy, no one could have expected this to happen. It’s not like I put it on the floor or on the stairs where someone could actually get hurt. my mother also warned me about the plate, but this made me think that she had already taken it and was just warning me not to leave stuff out again. is any of this really my fault?

I left a plate I used to eat food out overnight on the table and forgot to take it and wash it. My grandmother went to take it late at night and tripped on something in the kitchen and had a serious fall and currently can’t walk and now my mother is blaming me for it. While I shouldnt have left out the plate, i don’t see how this is my fault. firstly my mother is the one that placed the item that caused the fall in the kitchen. and an elderly person having a fall is not something a reasonable person could expect from putting a plate on a table, where plates are typically used?? It’s not like I put it on the floor or on the stairs where someone could actually get hurt. my mother also warned me about the plate, but this made me think that she had already taken it and was just warning me not to leave stuff out again. is any of this really my fault?