I have never had feelings for someone in my entire life and I caught feelings for someone I shouldn’t/don’t want too.
I’m a woman in her late twenties. I’ve always loved anything due to romance but unfortunately nothing romantic ever went my way. I also had very low self esteem, and just genuinely didn’t really click with anyone. I was pretty lonely, but I never really put myself out there (among other reasons a mentally abusive family). I never really understood what “catching feelings” was really like until recently, and now I don’t want to have any. It just clicked “oh hahah I like them” and I cannot stop thinking about it. I want to be able to turn this off, and I don’t know how to detach myself from it. I try very hard too but sometimes I just pops up right in the back of my head. I’m feeling really pathetic because before if there was maybe an inkling of or me liking someone if they didn’t like me I just moved on. This feels different in a way I can’t describe, and I really just want to stop thinking about this guy.
Firstly he has a girlfriend so I will never, ever, ever cross that line. Other than talking to him at work which I’m trying to keep at a minimum I don’t contact him at all outside of work. Secondly if he didn’t have a girlfriend he’s way too young for me anyways as we have an eight year age gap is a no-no for me. So either way it’s doomed and I’m not going to try anything because my frontal lobe is way too developed for that. So why! Tell me why I can’t stop thinking about this co worker? How the heck did I catch feelings, and I don’t know how to turn it off. I try to avoid eye contact, I’m not that chatty, and in general try to keep a professional attitude. Why is he still way too nice to me! Why does he still want to talk to me?! Why is this hard not to think about this. I honestly feel pathetic because I don’t want to think about this, and having feelings for this person feels cringe to me. Because I don’t want feelings for them but I can’t stop! I’m distancing myself as much as possible when I’m on shift, but how can I turn this off girls. I’m so embarrassed at my big age I’m doing this, and who it’s about.
I tried talking to my sister and her husband about this, and they said you can’t help who you like. Well I want to help it because I don’t want to have feelings for a guy who is eight years younger than me and has a GIRLFRIEND.
Calling all women how do I stop how can I not have feelings. I refuse to like a guy way too young for me, and in a relationship. I don’t want feelings for someone like that, and I just don’t know how to turn it off in my brain.