u/sicksadworld111

My scars are darker than my skin. 4 years post-op. I tried laser 2 years ago but it didn't make a big difference and I don't have money for never-ending sessions. So I contacted scar camouflage clinics.

One clinic told me they could do it but didn't know how many sessions it would require. Another told me it was completely impossible to do scar camouflaging on scars darker than surrounding skin.

The second told me my scars needed to be white. I may be lightskin, but I'm still black. I told her white scars don't generally happen on black people and have you done scar camouflaging on black people's scars? She insisted the clinic had done so but wasn't super convincing.

So with this conflicting information, I don't know if the first clinic is just tryna get my money knowing the treatment won't do much, or if the second just has no experience with non-white people.

You barely see photos of trans guys who have got this done. However, Miles McKenna and Noahwaybabe both had red scars before they got camouflage tattooing, so surely darker scars can be concealed??

Do you guys have any advice on this?

Posts about time frame are often misguided, because people should really just slow down and chill out.

But here's the situation: my plans have had to change suddenly, and now I'm very seriously considering moving to Taiwan around October.

I'm a native English speaker. I've learnt foreign languages before (Fr, Sp, Jpns, Grmn), but my only fluent ones are French and Spanish.

Here's my question: if I worked really hard on speaking and listening for 4 months, do you think I could get good enough to make friends in Mandarin? Even if my speech were weird and broken?

I've had many friends who spoke very broken English. And, back in the day, I made friends with my broken French and Spanish. But this requires a certain degree of listening proficiency...

I pick things up very fast, but the brain has its limits. What do you guys think? I would be in Taiwan for a year, so I'm sure I'd get there. But I'd rather not be lonely in the meantime.

I want to like my body but it's so hard. I wish I were taller, I wish my wrists were thicker, I wish my butt were flat. But above all, I wish I had a dick. I could accept it all much more deeply if I had a dick.

The current set-up feels so wrong. It'll be years before I can get bottom surgery, but I'm also really sad about how much many of us have to go through just to feel normal.

I'm hesitant to get phalloplasty because it's so much pain and scarring, but mostly because it requires even more surgeries in the future to replace your old erectile device. You could just not get one, but being able to penetrate is one of the benefits of phallo over meta.

I'm considering meta, though I don't know if it'll lead to me feeling comfortable naked. I want to feel like I'm a normal guy.

There are so many projects I have planned for my body: top surgery scar camouflage, nipple tattooing (to add depth to my grafts), body masculinisation (maybe), bottom surgery.

It's so exhausting to feel "unfinished", and intimidating to think about how expensive it all is when I don't have the money.

I just wish I were cis.

Koneatcheesewha. My name is トマス.

I've been ascending in Japanese for ni (two✌🏼) weeks now. Here's my guide to nihongo maxxing to mog your ops:

1. Sentence minotauring (a ball of yarn to trace the maze of nihongo)

2. To go from NHK5 to NHK1, you must consume exactly 10,000 hours of raw nihongo whilst floating on your back in the darkness of a sensory deprivation tank

3. Don't learn to read or write; you don't need to be literate

4. If you don't record STATS, did it even happen?

5. Remember: Japan is subarashi sugoi kawaii and better than your native country in every way (war crimes, you say? Are you thinking of an anime?)

Ichi

Ni

San

Yon

Go!!!!!!

4 years on T here. I pass all the time and am stealth at work + with a lot of friends.

I've always worn masculine clothing and never saw myself as a girl. But I feel so stressed out by the first effects of the first puberty.

When I look at my face:
5% of the time, I see a man
1% of the time, I see a woman
94% of the time, I see an androgynous/unclassifiable face. It's like I can't gender myself

As for my body, I feel like my figure is too feminine. When I catch my reflection in public, I get this feeling of doom.

My coping strategy is to develop skills that have nothing to do with appearance. I think: "I hate how I look, but I can be good at x."

But it still makes me sad, and I'm quite obsessed with my appearance. Overall, I'm sadder about my body, but I feel disconnected from my face too. I wish I felt desirable. I wish I felt unashamed. I want to have long limbs and narrow hips and for everyone to agree that I'm handsome.

Every time characters get together in a show, I think how that couldn't be me. They would never cast me. I just feel so sad.